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xxariesxx · Nov 18, 2008, 05:54 PM

Originally Posted by Inlove2009

she does'nt want anything more than friends right now. But I tell her all the time how beauitiful she is, and I make her laugh, and I ask her if she wants to hang out or somthing and she almost always says yes, but I never force it on her.

I stand by what I said, if you really do love someone, you don't give up on them.

call me crazy, but I would rather live my life being her friend, than having anyone else.

I think you've probably seen too many romantic movies. Nicholas Sparks perhaps? :) Bring on the world and I'll wait forever and it will end up all right? It doesn't actually work that way and you'll hurt yourself in the end.

I already talked about the giving up bit, and it being different than letting someone go, but obviously that didn't sink in.

In any case I do hope it works out for you, but that if she doesn't come around, I hope you eventually realize what everyone has said.

Inlove2009 · Nov 19, 2008, 03:29 PM

Originally Posted by xxariesxx

I think you've probably seen too many romantic movies. Nicholas Sparks perhaps? :) Bring on the world and I'll wait forever and it will end up alright? It doesn't actually work that way and you'll hurt yourself in the end.

I already talked about the giving up bit, and it being different than letting someone go, but obviously that didn't sink in.

In any case I do hope it works out for you, but that if she doesn't come around, I hope you eventually realize what everyone has said.

I made some moves on her today and failed. It's all good though because I'm just going to try in a different way until it works ;P

Alty · Nov 19, 2008, 04:03 PM

Does anyone else see a stalking charge in the future?

Romefalls19 · Nov 19, 2008, 06:18 PM

I agree, stalking is the road he's traveling, it first starts with a sexual harassment charge because he "tries those moves" and fails so he keeps pushing.

It's okay, I'm sure one of your parents will bail you out.

LifeChangesMan · Nov 19, 2008, 07:35 PM

I want to say this is the first post on this site I've read that actually had me rolling on the floor laughing, this kid is a straight pimp and I quote from him, "we even cuddled and I held her head when she puked a party and I've laid her down when I could have taken advantage of her"

Good luck with making moves.

roxypox · Nov 20, 2008, 05:52 AM

Altweg: yes I totally do!! He is class a stalker material!

Dude seriously you are one hopeless kid in denial! Or you're actually just jerking our legs... I really don't know which, but for your sake I'm hoping for the latter.

Hehe maybe you should read the book: he's really not that into you and kust translate it to SHE is really not that into you.

Oh wait, whoops my bad now I have joined the ranks of the stupid advice givers... not to metion the stupid advice takers... I really don't know which is worse.

But as mary Roach would say; HEY if you want your heart to end up in tiny tiny pieces (not to mention in a tiny tiny box), well whatever... beggers can't be choosers after all.

LIfe Cahnges Man: omg ROTFLMAO from your post that is ;) love it!

High Max · Nov 20, 2008, 06:32 AM

I was in the same situation when I was in 10th grade, I tried to get with the same girl for three years. I did the same thing you did, tried EVERYTHING and tried to find ways to get her to love me. This is a waste of time.

Trust me. Once a woman puts you in the friend zone, it is almost IMPOSSIBLE to get out of it. Your only hope is to try and act like a hard azz or be a prick to her, because you said that she is in a "phase" and she won't ever go for you as the nice guy. Nice guys finish last in HS, sorry.

Inlove2009 · Nov 23, 2008, 12:49 PM

I guess I am way to nice to her... I think that if I'm nice to her, and I be her friend right now that she will eventually like me... I waited 8 months why not wait 8 more... and 8 more after that?

I've got enough playboys and lube to last me years :P

Alty · Nov 23, 2008, 01:09 PM

Originally Posted by Inlove2009

I guess I am way to nice to her... I think that if i'm nice to her, and I be her friend right now that she will eventualy like me... I waited 8 months why not wait 8 more... and 8 more after that?

I've got enough playboys and lube to last me years :P

OMG, that's mature, NOT! Get on with your life already. Stop hoping that she'll come around, she probably never will, and then you'll have wasted your life for nothing.

The fact is that statistically speaking, stories like yours don't usually have a happy ending. If you want to set yourself up for loss, well, that's your choice, but if you want the truth, then listen to us.

We're all a bit older than you, wiser, been there, done that, wrote the book. You can either listen to wisdom, or learn the hard way. The choice is yours, but don't come back here 10 years from now crying about your wasted life waiting around for a girl that will never be yours.

roxypox · Nov 23, 2008, 01:28 PM

Originally Posted by Inlove2009

I guess I am way to nice to her... I think that if i'm nice to her, and I be her friend right now that she will eventualy like me... I waited 8 months why not wait 8 more... and 8 more after that?

I've got enough playboys and lube to last me years :P

Dude seriously... have you tried telling her that you like her? That seems to be a better way of getting her IF she's interested, which she doesn't seem to be. I don't know how old you are, but come on, like altenweg said you are wasting your time and it really would be a shame to wast your life on someone who has no interest being with you. 8 months... a long long time to be pining...

talaniman · Nov 23, 2008, 01:29 PM

I guess I am way to nice to her... I think that if I'm nice to her, and I be her friend right now that she will eventually like me... I waited 8 months why not wait 8 more... and 8 more after that?

She may like you, but will never, ever, be your g/f ever, in life. She may even get tired of seeing your face around the place.

talaniman · Nov 23, 2008, 01:36 PM

I waited 8 months

Why not wait 8 more...

And 8 more after that?

Insanity- doing the same thing over, and over, and expecting different results

Example- Talking to someone for months, and hoping she takes you back.

Stuck on stupid- See above.

kaitou · Nov 23, 2008, 02:00 PM

Well, I was just having dinner with a few girlfriends last night. While discussing how we treat boys that we are not interested, one of them said this

"Well, i like keeping them around, it makes me feel good. I mean they know they can't get me, but they stay anyways. it makes me feel really good that they want me, even though i don't want them"

On top of that, she'll do confusing things like, clinging her arms on the guy, giving them hugs, and etc etc.

In other words, she enjoy toying with other people's feeling LOL, I hope your girl isn't doing that to you.