[HistorianChick]

I can't change my number. Its how my customers get in touch with me.

Can you block her number? Or, set a silent ringtone when she calls. Something, so that you don't have to deal with it. I know. It hurts every time they call. Everything comes back up again and it rakes your emotions through the crud. I'm really sorry that you have to deal with this and that she is playing with your heart like this.

I would honestly change your locks. That way, she can't get in to, as you say, "rape your house." That actually is a very good way to describe what she is doing to you. You've got to stand up and take control of this.

Get her things out of your house. If there is nothing there and she doesn't believe you? Well, that's her problem. At this moment, when she comes into your house without being invited, she is breaking and entering and can be charged. Hopefully, it doesn't come to that point, but it may. I would make sure she knows that you are no longer going to put up with this.

Find a way to tell her that she is not welcome in your house and that you will take necessary action if she does come in. Then do it. Follow up - don't give empty threats. Figure out what steps you're willing to take to get rid of this and stick to it.

[HistorianChick]

This board has helped me so much. and to think I found it a month ago asking a computer question. Little did i know! lol

I know how you feel! I found this site at the beginning of the year and wow... it has helped me more than I could ever say. The people I've met on here are amazing - and so supportive.

[spoonyluv]

She doesn't come to the house anymore. Just calls to get me to take stuff she's missing to a friends house. I can feel it in her voice she doesn't care,its just stuff she feel belongs to her. She is really making this easy for me because its making me hate her more and more!

[talaniman]

Historianchick is right, say no and mean it!

[spoonyluv]

Won't this push her further away?

[kctiger]

Isn't that the point?? Or do you want her to come back to you?

[HistorianChick]

"Won't this push her further away?"

I'm confused... this girl, who you've admitted to being a controlling person who is wrecking havoc on your emotions, is someone that you want in your life? You want her close?

Aren't you broken up? Aren't you seeing what type of person she really is? Is this the type of person you want to call your friend, let alone your girlfriend?

Do you still want a relationship with her after all of this?

I thought the point of this question was to find out how TO put distance between the two of you...

... I'm confused...

[spoonyluv]

There good points to her! She was just needy. I still love her very very much!

[JBeaucaire]

there good points to her!

Irrelevant. Open your eyes man. Choose sanity. When a serial killer is in the room, his handsome features are beside the point.

... she was just needy.

You know that is just the tip of the iceberg. Her neediness includes needing you to keep hurting. You cannot support this behavior, and thus you must stop defending this person.

... I still love her very very much!

Unfortunate, and also irrelevant. Ted Bundy was highly loved by many people... and he still needed to be executed.

You have those feelings for her the rest of your life in one degree or another. That's the dark side of love, something you have to just live with. But you also have to stop using it as a reason to keep a serial-heart-killer in your life. Stop defending her.

[spoonyluv]

Thank you so much guys. You are the best help I've found!!

[talaniman]

Won't this push her further away?

No, it will let you heal, who cares what it does for her.