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winding200 · May 27, 2009, 09:58 AM

Hi scornedtoomuch,
I am glad you made such a good progress. I like to confirm that your future is just bright. You will find the better person for you who will really love you as you are. You grew up while you were going through the pain, and you will find yourself you are more thankful when you meet the right person for you.
So, it is a just win-win situation! Cheers.

scornedtoomuch · May 27, 2009, 10:03 AM

Thanks so much for your support Winding200 and kctiger ! It really means a lot to me. I cannot believe how much brighter my life feels, and when the breakup happened, I could not even breathe without crying. Now I am finally finding the self esteem that I lost and I am loving myself better than anyone has before and it is AWESOME!

kctiger · May 27, 2009, 10:05 AM

Me too. I was a freaking mess when she broke up with me... now, glad to say, I am doing A LOT better and I am even happier. Life has a funny way of working itself out.

scornedtoomuch · May 27, 2009, 10:08 AM

It certainly does. I am glad you are feeling better too kctiger. I always tell everyone that I know if I can do it, heal after what I have been through, anyone can do it. I thought a piece of me, well rather half of me died when he left me, now whenever I see him, he cannot stop staring at me, probably wondering why am I so happy without him, and I love it. I am nice to both he and his live in girlfriend, and I think that shocks him. But I don't do it because of him, I do it for me. I forgave both of them a long time ago and once I did that it helped my healing process a whole lot more. He is not a bad guy he is just a bad guy for me. :)

kctiger · May 27, 2009, 10:11 AM

A piece of me certainly did die when my ex left me... as far as I am concerned, she can have that piece, cause the replacement piece there now is much better! Enjoy your life Scorned!

scornedtoomuch · May 27, 2009, 10:13 AM

LOL!! Good for you. I hope to enjoy life from now on! Good luck with everything Kctiger! :D

Romefalls19 · May 27, 2009, 10:22 AM

Glad to hear everything is working out for you!

scornedtoomuch · May 27, 2009, 10:24 AM

Thanks so much Romefalls19! It is getting better each day! :cool:

chuff · May 27, 2009, 11:01 AM

Originally Posted by scornedtoomuch

I thought a piece of me, well rather half of me died when he left me, now whenever I see him, he cannot stop staring at me, probably wondering why am I so happy without him, and I love it.

I have experienced this and it is truly one of the best feelings in the world. I don't know if it's true but to me it means at some point after the break up they realized they screwed up and they can't do anything about it. Sometimes the grass isn't always greener on the other side... for them!

scornedtoomuch · May 27, 2009, 11:09 AM

I definitely agree Chuff, I was at a family wedding and he was there with his girlfriend and I was just dancing away having the best time, and I saw him stare at me so much, he spent more time watching me than he did with his girlfriend, and I gave him a little bit of flirting, but nothing more, and I saw him blush so much it was quite funny. His girl def feels weird around me and tries to make it up by forcing her friendship on me, and I just go with the flow, and he just seems shocked that I am no longer angry and even though it bothers me just a little, I will never let him see it. The grass is not always greener, that is so true, and when they finally realize it, most of the time it will be too late. Definitely for me it is too late for him. I am moving on towards better things!

Allex · Jan 15, 2011, 09:49 PM

He can't stand hurting you. Every time he leaves he feels overwhelmed by guilt. That's the only reason he never follows through. I don't mean to sound mean, but I get really annoyed when I hear things like this, because women like you are helping guys like him to not progress and improve their behaviour. After 10 years and 6 attempts to leave the relationship I think you are the one who needs to realise that although he loves you you are not the one for him. When a man meets the one for him he KNOWS it. It is patronising to suggest he can't make up his own mind and is easily influenced by others - it abdicates him of responsibility for his own life and gives you the excuse you want to avoid the truth - he does not want you. Sorry. I really hope as it's 2011 things have changed by now.