After 10 years I was dumped
I just recently had a hysterectomy and my fiancée of 2 years (together for 10) decided to tell me that he was not in love with me. He said he had been feeling like this for two months. I moved out of our place, but he contacted me yesterday to explain that he feels we have two different lifestyles (me a homebody, him a night life kind of guy), I felt we were compromising for a long time but I guess not. He said he thinks I am a wonderful woman but knows I deserve better. This is the 6th time he has done this in the 10 yrs we have been together. He said this time is permanet, he does not know why he acts like this, he is like his mother, not knowing what he wants in life. He is wanting me to still be a part of his life, but I don't think that would be a good idea. We share a 5yr old godson, I do love him, but am sick of this. What advice can you all give me
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8 months post Long Term relationship breakup
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Hello Everyone:
I posted here in Oct 08, after being dumped during my recovery of a hysterectomy and my fiancée and I were together two weeks shy of ten years. I just wanted to give you a follow up on everything. I am nearly 8 months post breakup and I feel so much better about everything. After the initial shock of the breakup, I went through every emotion of grief imaginable. The anger stage was the worst. But through therapy and good friends, I am able to say I am just about healed. I still have some ways to go, but because my ex fiancée is part of my life due to his family is my family (we were together ten years), I see him and his girlfriend and I am able to now talk a little with them, and am more relaxed, and I know that deep down there is someone better out there for me. I am thankful that my ex left me, now I have a chance to find someone better. I am taking my time, just getting my life together, and one day I know I will find love again. Now I will be much more smarter and recongnize the red flags a little bit more. I wanted to let whoever out there know that is going through a really tough breakup and have feelings of not being able to get through the day let alone 8 months later like me, you can do it. I wish you all the luck, and remember when one door closes another one opens. This site is awesome and listen to the advise of some of the experts, because it is so true. Thanks for your support and good luck to all the new dumpees. You will find your way again