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bananaboy · Oct 21, 2008, 10:28 AM

Thanks to everyone for their words of encouragement. I KNOW that what you are saying is right - because I myself say the same things to my friends when they go through similar situations. However I also know that however deep down its buried, she will always have place in my heart. She was a part of me. Whether she becomes a part of me again remains to be seen.

Almost immediately after being cut loose, I started doing things that only I can do for myself. Finding this website and perusing the content for days was just the beginning. Bootcamp benefits me. A good body and healthy body is a gift that you can only give yourself.

Somewhere along the way I bought into that. I was never that big to start with, but I've managed to cut my body fat into the low 5% range which already quite low and now need to work on accumulating and building muscle mass. I'll never be like Arnie, not that I would want to be, but I looking and feeling good.

My few single friends are encouraging me join them in your weekly escapades and there is a singles only party this weekend at nearby establishment that I am thinking of attending. Word must have gotten as to my new status, because in the last few days I've been getting messages from individuals of interest that had disappeared for a while. Don't know where that will take me but things are looking up.

That's a enough rambling for now. BTW, Starbuck, the Flames are my second most favourite team. You are the best fans of any city and I love catching the games when in Cowtown.

starbuck8 · Oct 21, 2008, 10:56 AM

I'm glad that you are doing things for yourself, and feeling a bit better anyway. Trust me, it sure doesn't happen overnight that you stop thinking of them, and who you remember them to be when there were the good times. Hey, I'm working on 2 yrs now, and still go back to that place once in awhile.

When the Flames won the Stanley Cup, a bunch of us were sitting in my living room watching. I don't live in Calg. but we all jumped in our cars, and had our Flames Flags waving all the way down the Trans Can, on the 3 hr drive, and went down to Electric Ave. and joined in on the madness. It was a blast!! :D

Chery · Oct 21, 2008, 11:34 AM

Take that new and refurbished body of yours and go out and party!

Momma C said so..

Enjoy dear.

Romefalls19 · Oct 21, 2008, 11:37 AM

<hates the Flames... AVS ALL THE WAY!!

starbuck8 · Oct 21, 2008, 05:02 PM

Originally Posted by Romefalls19

<hates the Flames...AVS ALL THE WAY!!!!

Two Canucks here... you're out numbered! :p

bananaboy · Dec 1, 2008, 02:49 PM

Wow, didn't realize its been over 5 weeks since I last visited. Just thought I'd drop you all an update.

Well, I'm back from vacation, fully recharged and definitely feeling better for myself. Traveled through the UK, France, Switzerland, and Italy, and there's definitely something about being away from work, email and home that helps one move forward. This was one BIG step forward.

Lo' and behold, I get home to 100+ emails, and I get a "welcome home" email from guess who. I waited until the jet lag passed, but I did respond with a very brief and curteous thanks and wished her well on her 6 week vacation back home to the land down under. I know that you're probably sitting there shaking your head and thinking "what are you doing....", but I did break my NC so be it.

The good thing is I'm totally cool with it. Its been nearly 5 months on what was a 6 month relationship. It was time to move on.

Also, after that I met someone new and after several dates, things are certainly looking up. It doesn't hurt that she's a hottie with a very good head on her shoulders. Canucks fan too! Woohoo!

To all of you that are going through a breakup, time is the only factor that will heal you, mentally and otherwise. For some its longer, and for some its shorter, but the key, key variable that will impair your recovery is how long you choose to hold on. I held on, and looking back it was because I believed my situation was different. Maybe it was, maybe it wasn't but the fact is that it held me back and I was clinging onto hope. I can't and won't tell you to suck it and stop being a baby about it, but only you can pull yourself out of it. You have to want to stop feeling sorry yourself, close that chapter on your life and start the next one. Take whatever time you want and need, but don't hold on. Its not worth it.

starbuck8 · Dec 1, 2008, 03:47 PM

It sounds like you had a really great time! I'm happy for you! :) Hey I would have driven the 10 hrs to Vancouver and gone with you... LOL ;) What a great trip!

I hope the new girl is good to you! If not, you sure know how to handle things the next time around I guess. Now the Canucks thing, well that's a different story! Are you sure you don't want a Flames fan? Go Flames! Haha!

It's good that you are cool with everything now, and you can move on!

Good luck! :)

(Next time a bird poops on your head, run for the hills! Lol )

bananaboy · Oct 3, 2009, 01:14 PM

Its been almost a year since I last visited this site, but thought I'd drop in and say hi to everyone who helped me out with their words of wisdom and encourage though my rough patch last year.

No need to regurgitate the past, but for anybody who is going through a one sided breakup, believe me, life does go on. As each day passes, you will begin to realize that the world's a very big place and that there are more important things to do out there than wallow in self-pity.

For the record, I am celebrating my 8th month anniversary tonight with my girlfriend and she is a phenomenal person. But in order to find her, I had to pick myself off the ground and be me again. Bootcamp and a month in Europe helped, but there is no better feeling than moving on.

If for no one else, do it for yourself. Nobody can do it for you.

Cheers.