Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
Page 2 of 2 « First < 2
    talaniman's Avatar
    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
    Expert
    		  
    #21

    Aug 20, 2008, 10:02 AM
    My advice, take the situation very slow as they cannot be rushed. She has a lot to think about and any parent will put their children first. Always try to make it known about the kids, ask how they are, how school is, stuff like that. If you don't bring it up the parent may think you are in denial about it and not in it for the long run.
    Had to spread the rep, Rome, but THAT was some insightful expert advice!!
    wondering30sma's Avatar
    wondering30sma Posts: 11, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #22

    Aug 20, 2008, 10:06 AM
    Talaniman thank you. I have never asked for an explanation or a definition of what and who we are, nor asked where we are going. This just sort of came up. I'm being patient, although from these comments it appears I am not. I am just trying to gain a better sense of what her thoughts and feelings maybe, and what if anything I should be doing. Right now I am doing NOTHING. I have established a NC with her unless she contacts me.. ie.. the other night. It was via instant messenger and light and funny, and short. That was it. Yes we have been intimate, WE HAVE NEVER shown affection in front of her kids though. Hence her reasoning behind "i can't just turn it on and off". I think I am being understanding, m I not? I know what her priorities are. And I support them.

    Romefalls19 I know she is protecting her kids, she has told me that over and over again. I have never forgotten that the kids are her #1 priority and we must always think about them and how they are handling this. We went to a concert a few weeks back, and as we were walking out the door, her 2 daughters (ages 10 &8) hugged me. She did not say anything, but I KNOW that scared her. I get along wonderfully with all her kids, and I always ask how her kids are and what is going on.
    talaniman's Avatar
    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
    Expert
    		  
    #23

    Aug 20, 2008, 10:54 AM
    Two young daughters?? Your in for it. Be patient. If she hasn't contacted you in a few days, send the girls a funny card.
    Romefalls19's Avatar
    Romefalls19 Posts: 4,739, Reputation: 1130
    Ultra Member
    		  
    #24

    Aug 20, 2008, 10:57 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman
    Two young daughters???????? Your in for it. Be patient. If she hasn't contacted you in a few days, send the girls a funny card.

    My girlfriend also has 2 daughters... And before we met I always would say "I never want to have girls" because of dating... Well, that has changed. Now I just need to go and by some shotgun ammo and a few more shovels.


    (that was a joke, please do NOT take it seriously)
    wondering30sma's Avatar
    wondering30sma Posts: 11, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #25

    Aug 20, 2008, 10:57 AM
    No way man. Come one. I can't do that, it would freak her out if I sent a card to them. She also has a 16 year old son.
Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions
 
Page 2 of 2 « First < 2

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

My boyfriend asked for a break, what should I do? [ 5 Answers ]

Me and my boyfriend have two yrs together, and known each other for about 7 yrs. Lately he's been talking to his ex girlfriend a lot. I know he cares for her because there was a time in his life where he was going throw a lot and she was there for him so he lives with this thing that he feels like...

Asked for a break, I want him back [ 9 Answers ]

About a month ago my boyfriend asked for a break because of being too busy and stuff. He said there was a possibility we could get back together in the summer. We talk every so often but not for that long just a hi how are you doing how was your weekend thing. We don't go to the same school so we...

My boyfriend asked for a break [ 4 Answers ]

My boyfriend told me 4 days ago that he wanted a break.. we have been dating for 2 months. I had to ask quite a few times what was wrong because he was looking really glum and wouldn't tell me what was wrong. He said that his parents where putting too much pressure on him and that he has so much to...

Asked her to marry me she said she needs a break to know herself first. [ 5 Answers ]

Ive just come across this ite and am looking for any advice from anyone with some experience to help me through this matter. I have been dating a beautiful girl for over 3 years now. We first met ata hotel where we worked and well she and I both played a bithard toget in the beginning but...

View more questions Search