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yourcute21 · May 27, 2008, 10:30 AM

About a month ago my boyfriend asked for a break because of being too busy and stuff. He said there was a possibility we could get back together in the summer. We talk every so often but not for that long just a hi how are you doing how was your weekend thing. We don't go to the same school so we don't see each other everyday. Summer is a few weeks away and I still want to get back with him. How can I make this happen or how do I know if he isn't interested at all?

brian1231 · May 27, 2008, 10:40 AM

How old are you?

The best thing you can do is to go NC. I'd say to date again. If he cares for you, and sees you dating others, watch how fast he comes running back. Heck, you might like one of the guys you date even better anyway.

If he knows you are dating, and doesn't care, then it is your sign to move on.

yourcute21 · May 27, 2008, 10:48 AM

Originally Posted by brian1231

how old are you?

The best thing you can do is to go NC. I'd say to date again. If he cares for you, and sees you dating others, watch how fast he comes running back. Heck, you might like one of the guys you date even better anyways.

If he knows you are dating, and doesnt care, then it is your sign to move on.

16.. the last time he contacted me first was 2 weeks ago and we talked for about 2 hours and acted like nothing ever happened. A few days before that he told my friend he missed me. I did have a lot of Facebook comments and pictures from other guys around that time so I don tknow if that had anything to do with it. Since that talk, I ran into him once and we said hi and talked a little. Now we just talk casually.

brian1231 · May 27, 2008, 10:57 AM

Please don't take offense to this, but you are only 16. Use this as an opportunity. Meet others. Hang out with friends. The worst thing I could have done at 16 was to have a long term BF. Be happy you are going through this now, it will be easier. Have fun this summer, keep yourself busy and forget about this looser.

Watch how fast you forget about him. In 5 years, you'll laugh at this guy.

yourcute21 · May 27, 2008, 11:45 AM

Originally Posted by brian1231

Please don't take offense to this, but you are only 16. Use this as an opportunity. Meet others. Hang out with friends. The worst thing I could have done at 16 was to have a long term BF. Be happy you are going through this now, it will be easier. Have fun this summer, keep yourself busy and forget about this looser.

Watch how fast you forget about him. In 5 years, you'll laugh at this guy.

Yeah that's what everyone's telling me but for some reason I really want him back. I haven't been wasting my time though, I've been going out with my friends and doing the things I used to do. There's just a part of my that hopes he will come back in the summer like he said. I just don't know how to make it happen.

bigbird213 · May 27, 2008, 11:47 AM

If he left the door open to getting back together, he was either 1) Trying to let you down easy, or 2) being serious. On the chance that he was being serious, why don't you try talking to him about it. Get it out in the open that you would still like to.

You'll get your answer one way or the other. If he says yes, then give it a shot. If he says no, or dodges the issue, you should move on.

bigbird213 · May 27, 2008, 11:48 AM

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yourcute21 · May 27, 2008, 11:51 AM

Originally Posted by bigbird213

If he left the door open to getting back together, he was either 1) Trying to let you down easy, or 2) being serious. On the chance that he was being serious, why don't you try talking to him about it. Get it out in the open that you would still like to.

You'll get your answer one way or the other. If he says yes, then give it a shot. If he says no, or dodges the issue, you should move on.

I don't know if I should wait until summer is actually here to talk to him about it. Right now I'm working on a friendship so I don't want to mess anything up. I never did anything to hurt him or make him mad at me and I never argued with the fact that he wanted a break.

bigbird213 · May 27, 2008, 11:54 AM

Originally Posted by yourcute21

i dont know if i should wait until summer is actually here to talk to him about it. right now im working on a friendship so i dont want to mess anything up. i never did anything to hurt him or make him mad at me and i never argued with the fact that he wanted a break.

I hate to break it to you, but a break will never work as long as you have romantic feelings for him. You will always want more, and he will be happy with less. It will create tension and probably hold you back for a long time. Not to mention, it might ruin an honest chance at friendship between you two later on down the road.

Can you imagine being friends with him and him introducing you to his new girlfriend? That would be a pretty miserable experience, no?

nickshehe · May 27, 2008, 11:59 AM

It's not really a break if every time he calls you or wants to talk to you- you are there..
How is he supposed to miss you if every time he makes contact you are like an eager puppy waiting to be fed.. Always available.
I doubt anything has changed from his side in terms of "where the two of you stand".. I personally don't believe in breaks - so the best thing you can do for YOURSELF. Is to sit him down and talk to him about things.. If he is still unsure - then you stop sitting around waiting for him and you move on - like bigbird also pointed out.