[kctiger]

Pick yourself up and start NC all over again. You are strong enough to do this and also strong enough to realize that it doesn't matter what others think about you, only what you think about yourself. I am really proud you made it to 2 months NC. That is awesome! I can't even go 2 weeks... good for you.

[450donn]

Six years is a long time. It will take a long time to get over. Concentrate on yourself for the next several months. Do things for you.

[lovepolis]

I had a diary with me and I would count the no. of days I kept to NC. I broke NC after I sent a text message to my ex telling the woman to stop talking about false stuff especially when it doesn't concern her. I regretted! Should have kept to NC all the way.

I am 25 this year... I know its silly but I am so worried that I won't find my one true love again. And I can't help but feel upset that friends around me are getting married or in long serious relationships and I am just out of one.

Will I find love again?.

[kctiger]

I am in the same boat, one year older. We will find love again. I am not too worried about that. I need to learn to love myself first, though. Don't worry, everything happens for a reason. In the end... everything works itself out.

[jmw0713]

Just like KC said don't worry about finding that love right now. You need to concentrate on healing yourself, ignoring the immature comments, and making a new life with out your ex. That's what I'm trying to do. I know how you feel right now. Granted my relationship was not nearly as long (3 1/2 years) but the feeling of not finding my one true love does bother me. She was my first real love, and still is, but I know that I need to move on from that and heal myself. That's the hardest part.

I'm 26, all my best buds are already married with kids. So we are going through the same type of situation. Just try and stay focused on healing yourself. Go out, try and meet new friends (or catch up with old ones), have fun, and do things to keep your mind occupied.

I find that the more I do to keep myself occupied the better I feel. It's when I'm alone that I start thinking about things and get down on myself. So I make it a point to not be alone or idle for too long.

Some good music helps tremendously, just don't listen to stuff that really depressing, because that will make you think more. Listen to some good, up beat, high energy music.

It will get better. Know that it will get better and be determined to get through this part of your life. Know that when that special someone comes along (and they WILL, you have to believe that!) that your are capable of truly loving them and can form stable lasting relationships. More than likely, after sometime, you will look back on this whole thing as a learning experience that you can use in your next relationship.

Just know that there will be more relationships to come. Don't give up hope. Everything will turn out just fine after you give yourself some time! :)

[lovepolis]

Hi guys! Thanks for the replies! It did make me feel better after reading them. I think the day when I finally get over this piece of junk completely is when I find love again...

I want to be hopeful and I want to find my own happiness again. During the 2 months I know I have been moving forward and just day by day I find myself happier and during my 5 weeks vacation the daily calls that I receive from my ex doesn't bother me at all but only when I returned home, it starts getting to me and I feel down. Feels like I moved a few steps back...

[kctiger]

You may have moved a few steps back, but you are in a position now to know you are strong enough to overcome those steps. At first, when you break up, it doesn't seem like you will EVER overcome the pain. You know it is possible and have seen the light. It is not a challenge anymore. Good luck

[lovepolis]

Its about 2am over my side, and I just can't fall asleep... and thinking so much about the past. Its been a while since I feel down again about my relationship.

Me and my ex really went through so much ups and downs together for the last 6 yrs. I just can't understand why he would do so many things to hurt me. He was my first love and I gave my all to keep this relationship going and happy. But really I feel tired because I can't clap with one hand.

I know for sure he wants his singlehood back again and he wants to be popular among the girls again. Over the months we broke up, he persistently contacted me every single day, but I refused to entertain his calls. I know he wants me to still love him or he doesn't want me to recover. And he thinks that I can't survive without him and when I go contactless and enjoying myself, he starts messing up my life all over again.

I feel so drained and tired from this. What do you do when your ex wants the best of both worlds and just won't leave you alone.

[kctiger]

Change your phone number

[lovepolis]

My mobile number has been with me for 10 years and I like it a lot. I don't know if I am can ban his number though. I ll check it out soon.

Well even if I change my no. we have too many mutual friends who's going to give my no. away sooner or later... :(

[talaniman]

My daughter lets unwanted calls go to voice mail and she deletes them.

Please stop with excuses. There is always a way to ignore someone.

[lovepolis]

Hey guys,

I am out of a 6 years relationship, who's also my first love. After this failure in my last relationship, I feel a little jaded about relationships.

I am just wondering is there such thing as fairy tale romance in our time in age? I still dream of having that wonderful guy will love me forever but I am not so confident anymore...

I have broken up with my boyfriend for 6 months, he been contacting me since... but I refuse to ans any of his calls, and I have totally given up on us, because he has emotionally cheated on me which I don't forsee myself being able to forgive him.

Do you guys think that true love is soooooo hard to come by these days... why?

[TrueFaith]

First of all good job on not taking his calls! Leave the cheater in the DUST!

And no I don't believe in Fairy tail loves

Because in a fairy tail.. everything is easy and no one has to work at the relationship
And everything ends on a happy note..


Not in real life.

Relationships are a lot of work.. and people change daily

I do believe there are people that are right for each other. And are willing to work together.. to be there till the end.

But nothing comes easy

[xxariesxx]

No, because fairy tale romances are just that - fairy tales.

That would imply you can be in a perfect relationship with a perfect person. Which is impossible.

[southerngalps]

I see couples with the perfect relationship.

I wouldn't call it a fairy tale.

Even perfect relationships are WAY HARD to come by.

[TrueFaith]

Don't confuess perceptions with reality

[southerngalps]

I knew I would get that.

I know I don't see their relationships behind closed doors... but you can see/feel the love between them.

[southerngalps]

I guess they are as perfect as it gets!

Like I said, I wouldn't call them fairy tales.

[h0llister]

You I believe there are.. until the honeymoon stage is over lol.. just kidding but I believe it is possible to find a guy that will love you forever no matter what, but there hard to find :(

[talaniman]

NO! I work hard, and so does my wife! We love it!