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    #21

    Aug 14, 2008, 10:35 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by hjpan
    Give her a week?
    Why do you want to put a time limit on it?
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    #22

    Aug 14, 2008, 11:03 PM
    The fact is that you have put yourself back out there on the market and that is awesome. Don't worry so much about this one girl and how long you should wait for her to "reply" to your little note. You are free to persue anyone you like providing they are of age and you don't get yourself in trouble :-) This is like a baby step into getting back on track and living your life again. Meet others and slip all the notes you want to. I actually know people who make up business cards with all there contact information including, facebooks, myspace etc and leave them on tables at cafe's and coffee shops. Warning though...you may end up with more females then you can shake a stick at!!

    But you get the point.
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    #23

    Aug 14, 2008, 11:06 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by friend4u178
    Why do you want to put a time limit on it?
    Well.. if she doesn't respond.. then why wait more?
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    Aug 14, 2008, 11:06 PM
    PS....some of these people who do the business card thing are men in there 30's and 40's...but whatever works I guess.
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    Aug 14, 2008, 11:07 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Janmarie
    The fact is that you have put yourself back out there on the market and that is awesome. Don't worry so much about this one girl and how long you should wait for her to "reply" to your little note. You are free to persue anyone you like providing they are of age and you don't get yourself in trouble :-) This is like a baby step into getting back on track and living your life again. Meet others and slip all the notes you want to. I actually know people who make up business cards with all there contact information including, facebooks, myspace etc and leave them on tables at cafe's and coffee shops. Warning though...you may end up with more females then you can shake a stick at!!

    But you get the point.

    Well... I really don't know who to pursue cause there are a lot of girls who aren't my type (I guess)... Not to mention the age is a factor as well as me not having a drivers license nor car =/
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    #26

    Aug 14, 2008, 11:11 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by hjpan
    Well.. if she doesn't respond.. then why wait more?
    You don't have to wait... you've done your bit , now the balls in her court so don't dwell on it.
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    #27

    Aug 14, 2008, 11:23 PM
    Well if you have a perfect "girl" list then I suggest tossing it. You won't believe just how amazing people are until you get to know them. I had a perfect man list once...he had to be tall because I am 5'6 and like to wear heels and it would feel weird to be with someone shorter then I..he had to be athletic and look great without his shirt on, he had to at least make a certain amount of money because I wasn't going to support his butt and he had to have the same values and likes that I liked.....you know what that led to? BORING!

    So I tossed the perfect man list and met so many vibrant men that at first meeting them I would say, "He's just not my type." But after I got to know them and allowed myself to stop judging them against my likes and dislikes...Oh my God, I have never had so much fun in my life after the list was destroyed.

    And guess who I am with now? A very caring, loving man who is not so tall yet still taller then I...I tossed the heels for something not so high, he is in great shape but not muscular and he makes more money then I had originally excepted. And way more handsome. The point is don't limit yourself to a certain type, you will be amazed at all the wonderful experiences awaits you when you open your mind to new possibilities.
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    #28

    Aug 15, 2008, 03:48 AM
    I hope you put your name on the note.
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    #29

    Aug 15, 2008, 07:18 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by liz28
    I hope you put your name on the note.

    I did xD
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    #30

    Aug 15, 2008, 08:34 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by friend4u178
    You don't have to wait.........................you've done your bit , now the balls in her court so don't dwell on it.

    Or should I randomly send a friend-request?
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    #31

    Aug 15, 2008, 09:11 AM
    No, might come off as too pushy
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    #32

    Aug 15, 2008, 09:21 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Romefalls19
    no, might come off as too pushy
    All right :O

    I'm just so nervous =/
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    #33

    Aug 15, 2008, 10:02 AM
    Relax and see what happens dude. While your squirming in your seat worrying what she will do, your not paying attention to what you can do NEXT. I'm quit sure she isn't the only one available for your attention. Keep a couple of packs of gum handy, just in case. Its good to see you more outgoing and less cynical. As Janmarie said throw that perfect girl list away and be open to the endless possibilities that others can offer, you would be surprised.

    During my single years I liked 'em short, tall, fat, or small, blind, cripple, or crazy. Did I have a blast!!
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    #34

    Aug 15, 2008, 12:05 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman
    Relax and see what happens dude. While your squirming in your seat worrying what she will do, your not paying attention to what you can do NEXT. I'm quit sure she isn't the only one available for your attention. Keep a couple of packs of gum handy, just in case. Its good to see you more outgoing and less cynical. As Janmarie said throw that perfect girl list away and be open to the endless possibilities that others can offer, you would be surprised.

    During my single years I liked 'em short, tall, fat, or small, blind, cripple, or crazy. Did I have a blast!!!
    LoL
    All right...
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    #35

    Aug 15, 2008, 03:18 PM
    Anyone else want to help me relieve the tension?

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    #36

    Aug 15, 2008, 09:33 PM
    I found out there's a 17 year old girl living about 10min drive away from my place...

    I'm sort of anxious cause we just met (online)... same with the 15 year old girl in Texas...

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    #37

    Aug 16, 2008, 05:38 PM
    Well guys.. I gave it a shot but she didn't add me =/
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    #38

    Aug 16, 2008, 06:33 PM
    Quit messing with girls, and get a woman.
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    #39

    Aug 16, 2008, 06:38 PM
    I think it would help your cause greatly, if you would have less expectation for a relationship, and more into fun with a much broader range of people. Older females especially. I mean 15, and 17,? 19, 20,21!!
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    #40

    Aug 16, 2008, 08:57 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman
    Quit messing with girls, and get a woman.
    Hahaha! Get a woman?

    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman
    I think it would help your cause greatly, if you would have less expectation for a relationship, and more into fun with a much broader range of people. Older females especially. I mean 15, and 17, ???????????????? 19, 20,21!!!!!!!!!!!
    I don't have high expectations now... It's not my fault the 15 year old girl likes me :O


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