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    bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE Posts: 1,051, Reputation: 112
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    #21

    Jul 9, 2008, 11:00 AM
    How hard it is to wait a couple of years?

    There is a 50% divorce rate in this country and part of that has to do with the fact that couples get married to young. You wouldn't want to be part of that statistic would you? I wouldn't.

    Please, please, please wait. It will be worth it.
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    Jul 9, 2008, 11:26 AM
    I'd just like to point out that if you had to give up your dream of being in the Army just because she doesn't want to be alone, maybe you two really aren't right for each other. You don't want to regret later on that you didn't go into the military, and you don't want to blame her for it. Partners should bring out the best in each other, be supportive, compromise. It seems that SHE wants you to get married. SHE wants you to not go into the Army, which is something you apparently had wanted to do. There doesn't seem to be a lot of compromise here.

    It's OK that she doesn't want to be a military wife. It's not for everyone. That doesn't mean you should give up on being in the military. She is 15. When I was 15 I still wanted to marry my first boyfriend. Today, that would have been the absolutely WRONG decision. SO much changes over time. You have lived 17 years. You have SO many more to go, 5 times as long as you've been on Earth (roughly). What's another year or two going to hurt. You're going to have to wait until she is 16 anyway. Make sure this is something you BOTH want to do for the RIGHT reasons, not just because she wants to get out of her house and you both want to hurry and grow up.

    There's plenty of times where you will have to be grown up, but you will never get the chance to be a teenager again. Once you take on that responsibility, you can NEVER go back. Wait. If you really love her, you will want what's best for her. Take the time to make yourself the best for her. You owe that to her, if you are going to marry her. She is 15. No where NEAR grown up enough to know what is good for her. She only knows what she wants. She knows what she wants to be in 10 years. She doesn't know how to get there or what it all involves. Marriage is tough, and if I had gotten married as young as you two, there is NO WAY it wouldn't have ended in divorce. I'm not saying what is right for me is right for you, but from what you say, this is not a circumstance where marriage is imminent, and marriage shouldn't be done in haste. If what you have is real, time can't hurt, it can only make you closer. Good luck.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Jul 9, 2008, 03:25 PM
    If you want to do things right, then give this an awful lot of thought, and consider, if your female is telling you what to do now at 15, just think of what she'll tell you to do when she GROWS UP!!
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    Jul 9, 2008, 03:38 PM
    as you age u will realize that sometime the best way to show love is thinking whats best not just holding on to some emotions. U dont need to sacrifice her, u just need to wait. I hope u can apply that to urself as early as now
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    Jul 9, 2008, 04:24 PM
    What's the rush, if your already have your future map out. At least when she turn 18 your relationship will be stronger. I hope everything work out because even the best plans change. So just wait until she's 18.

    What does her parents and your parents think about your getting married?

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