[flossie]

I was asked this same question by my son... he was 11 at the time. My answer...
"Sex hurts until you are married":)

[tinkerbell1194]

You sex hurts a lot the first time and I'm still young and mad a big mistake about doing it early because now every one knows and every relationship I get in they think your going to have sex wit them and I had to break up wit people because of that... so like I said just let it pass because I didn't and I just kind of ruined it

[Guest123]

I was asked this same question by my son...he was 11 at the time. My answer...
"Sex hurts until you are married":)

What? So basically you told your son nothing! That's damn stupid, tell him the truth and stop trying to force your beliefs upon your son.

[flossie]

Well, "guest123", I DID tell him more. For males there isn't really the "hurt" and he was asking from a males (young boys') perspective. My reply to my son was hoping to provide a scare factor at the time. He's 21 now, in university, living on his own (well, sharing a house with 4 females), I'm sure he was well prepared for his first time. It's not like we've never had discussions about sex, drugs, and life in general.

[Alty]

What?! So basically you told your son nothing! thats damn stupid, tell him the truth and stop trying to force your beliefs upon your son.

What do you think a parents job is? We are meant to teach our children our beliefs so that they can grow up to be mature responsible adults, otherwise we might as well sit back and let the chips fall were they may.

If you are going to post on this site please don't be insulting to other people, that is not acceptable behavior and it will not be tolerated, the word stupid is not okay, ever. Thank you.

[JBeaucaire]

What?! So basically you told your son nothing! thats damn stupid, tell him the truth and stop trying to force your beliefs upon your son.

Yeah, this is a pretty silly thing to say to any parent, (chuckle). Raise your kids to not believe in something... and they'll believe in ANYTHING!

Please, everyone, test your beliefs daily, try them hard, and when they result in a life better lived... pass those beliefs onto your children, grandchildren... anyone who will listen.

(hehehe) Sometimes these posters, especially "anonymous" ones, just crack me up. I doubt GUEST123 even thought his post was worth believing, hehe.

[abi123]

I Lost My Virginity At Around That Age Nd At The Time I Felt Ready And Wanted Too do It But I Soon Broke Up With My Boyfriend I Realised I Didn't Love Him Nd Wished I Weighted!

Just Don't Rush In Too Things Ye It Seems Like Every1s Doing It But They Real Arnt!

X

[Alty]

abi123 - Please don't capitalize every word, it makes it really hard to read your post, and also use complete words, chat speak is forbidden. Thank you.:)

[Lo02]

When I lost my virginity it did'nt hurt really bad. I just felt a lot of pressure in my lower area and stomach. It wasn't painful I just needed to start slow and then work my way up. Just take it slow and be careful use condoms and birth control.

[tinkerbell1194]

Just take it slow and be careful use condoms and birth control.

What your telling this kid is that's its OK for her to have sex at 14 as long as you use condoms and birth control but those things don't always work so if your going to say anything your better off just saying don't do it so young and wait

[shazza1000]

Im a 13 going on 14 female who is still a virgin.....and
lately i have been having the weirdest day dreams usally about having sex with guys im attracted to.
I know it sounds weird and out of line but i was thinking of having sex with one of my old falmes. I really hate the fact that my day dreams have been doing this, i feel out of place.

Hoping that these dreams would stop...i ponder and ask myself this question, Is having Sex painful??

Don't have sex because your curious have sex because you and your partner deeply care about each other but if you really think your ready then go for it but always use contraception, and yes hun it does hurt but how much depends on how comfortable you are with the situation.

[Ging1994]

Puberty sucks doesn't it

[JBeaucaire]

puberty sucks doesnt it

... only if you're doing it the right way. (rim shot)