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Ash123 · Feb 17, 2008, 09:30 PM

maybe you are not with the right girl....

so, maybe the naked chick did you a favor....

I'd break up and take some time off out of respect to both of you.

Then get back after a while (several months) if seems right,

Take a break you "naked wrestler"

It's only fair to all...

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talaniman · Feb 18, 2008, 12:35 AM

Then again I may be missing something other then the fact I'm an idiot who cheated on someone who is very serious about him. Any suggestions?

I suggest, you stop with all the excuses (you have so many) as they mean nothing, and tell her the whole truth, and suffer the consequenses of your actions.

drunkenangel · Feb 18, 2008, 12:55 AM

Just tell her the truth and hope she forgives you,
Even if you lie she will probably find out anyway or you'll feel really guilty about it
The same thing happened to one of my friends and the girl didn't break up with him, so maybe she'll forgive you,
And if I were her I'd want to know

TheodoreLamont · Feb 18, 2008, 03:43 PM

Well I told her this morning and she was rather mad but didn't break up with me. Said that if I broke up with her it would probably hurt her less but that was up to me. Oh and that I would have to earn trust back and lets see oh yea she wants to meet the girl I cheated with which I think is a VERY bad idea. So yea.. .

Ash123 · Feb 18, 2008, 04:27 PM

U r f'd. :-)

She wants to meet her?

Hmmm.

EndOfTheRoad · Feb 18, 2008, 04:37 PM

You deserve nothing less then the worst.

Alty · Feb 18, 2008, 04:47 PM

I don't think meeting her will help her at all. If anything it will probably end in a fight between the two of them. Besides, it's not only the other girls fault, if she forgives you then she also has to forgive the girl you cheated with, you are both to blame. You are the one she has a relationship with, not the other girl. Of course it's up to the two of you but I think it is a very, very bad idea for them to meet. It's not going to end well.

ConfusedinSC · Feb 18, 2008, 04:58 PM

You have to ask yourself why did you cheat? Then you will probably find out that maybe you aren't quite ready for a steady! Honesty is the best resolve. If she forgives you... does she REALLY forgive you? If she dumps you... you are free. When you are finally with the right one, you won't cheat. Besides, if you don't tell her and she finds out on her own... you better run!

talaniman · Feb 18, 2008, 04:58 PM

Chick fight!!

TheodoreLamont · Feb 18, 2008, 05:04 PM

Yea I would rather them not meet seeing how it will probably end up in a fight. And its not like meeting the other girl will benefit anyone so I think I will not be letting that happen

TheodoreLamont · Feb 18, 2008, 05:06 PM

I told her this morning and she was angry and such but said she still loves me and she didn't dump me

Ash123 · Feb 18, 2008, 05:10 PM

Originally Posted by TheodoreLamont

Yea i would rather them not meet seeing how it will probably end up in a fight. and its not like meeting the other girl will benefit anyone so i think i will not be letting that happen

Mmm hmmm.

How you going to do that? :cool:

TheodoreLamont · Feb 18, 2008, 05:13 PM

Well I think I will have to convince my girlfriend that there is no point to meeting the other girl or I could just refuse to tell her who it is. Does anyone have an idea on how to stop it other then those two ideas?

Ash123 · Feb 18, 2008, 05:17 PM

Well that about covers it... let me know how it turns out.

I would have chosen my option. Separate for a while. But maybe you can pull it off. ;)

TheodoreLamont · Feb 18, 2008, 05:18 PM

Will let you know how it goes. And I don't know how good she would take separating for a bit

Ash123 · Feb 18, 2008, 05:19 PM

Originally Posted by TheodoreLamont

well i think i will have to convince my gf that there is no point to meeting the other girl or i could just refuse to tell her who it is. does anyone have an idea on how to stop it other then those two ideas?

Well, that about covers it. I would have chosen the route I suggested: trial separation, but maybe you can pull it off.

Let me know how it goes. ;)

Alty · Feb 18, 2008, 05:35 PM

Originally Posted by TheodoreLamont

will let you know how it goes. and i dont know how good she would take seperating for a bit

You've only been dating for a short time, it's not like she's invested allot of time into you and your relationship, how hard can it be to separate for a bit. As for keeping the two girls apart, I would just explain to her that no good can come of it and also let her know in no uncertain terms that it took two of you to cheat, if she wants to unleash some of her anger it should be directed at you, not the other girl (although I don't recommend physical violence of any sort ever). If she feels like screaming at someone than that should be you, or did you put all the blame on the other girl, is that why she wants to confront her? If she has decided to forgive you than she should forgive the girl. If she can't do that then you should both call it quits as this relationship will be more doomed than it already is.

TheodoreLamont · Feb 18, 2008, 05:50 PM

I said to blame me, I know I'm at fault. And this girl has liked me for a year before we started dating so she kind of has inveested a bit of time in this relationship

chelseata · Feb 18, 2008, 05:52 PM

I promise you, if you tell her, you will NOT be ruining her life. You're not that great, cheater.

You'll more than likely be saving her from wasting time with a cheater that doesn't respect her, love her, or actually care about her. Drunk schmunk. Be a man and tell her the truth.

Ash123 · Feb 18, 2008, 05:55 PM

:D

Originally Posted by chelseata

i promise you, if you tell her, you will NOT be ruining her life. you're not that great, cheater.

you'll more than likely be saving her from wasting time with a cheater that doesn't respect her, love her, or actually care about her. drunk schmunk. be a man and tell her the truth.

You might want to read all the posts. He did tell her :D