[bizygurl]

Thanks for the nice compliment talaniman. ;)

I agree with you D'J'H I don't really believe that it will work either. I just hope that he understands that and it doesn't turn into a harassing situation. Sometimes some people don't understand that not all sites are for dating, just because men and woman subscribe to them.:rolleyes:

[DJ 'H']

thanks for the nice compliment talaniman. ;)

I agree with ya D'J'H I don't really believe that it will work either. I just hope that he understands that and it doesn't turn into a harrassing situation. Sometimes some people don't understand that not all sites are for dating, just because men and woman subscribe to them.:rolleyes:

I hope he understands that. I don't want his pride to be hurt because of all this but he has to understand that those sort of comments are not suitable for this website and not really suitable to say to me. All I did was help him out when he joined. I did not give him any sort of come on or signals to suggest anything of that kind. I am rather confused by the whole thing actually.

[NeedKarma]

DJH - don't worry. You are a delicate should, I imagine he is not so delicate. He'll simply move on to another site and try again. He'll forget about everyone here in a second. I know the type.

[DJ 'H']

Cheers Needkarma - I don't like hurting people's feelings, or making them feel inadequate; but that's good to know :)

[bizygurl]

DJ'H, Im the same way, I don't like hurting others feelings and I hate insulting anyone, but you did the right thing in telling him that you had a boyfriend and weren't interested. He probably would respond to any girl who shows him one ounce of kindness some people take advantage of others kindness, and the way he responded to you I felt was inapropriate. We are all adults here, and we need to act like adults. We had explained to him that this wasn't a dating site so hopefully he will take the hint.

[DJ 'H']

DJ'H, Im the same way, I don't like hurting others feelings and I hate insulting anyone, but you did the right thing in telling him that you had a boyfriend and weren't interested. He probably would respond to any girl who shows him one ounce of kindness some people take advantage of others kindness, and the way he responded to you I felt was inapropriate. We are all adults here, and we need to act like adults. We had explained to him that this wasn't a dating site so hopefully he will take the hint.

You are so right Bizygurl! Thank you for your support!!

[bizygurl]

:D your welcome,honey!

[Wildcat21]

I know gals are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO concerned about not hurting a guys feelings. BUT, 1. I think it's always best to tell the truth - "you're just not my type, we're not compatible, I still not quite over my last boyfriend" - in the long run it will help change and improve the guy.
2. REMEMBER - guys are not built like women.
3. Guys ca nhandle the truth a lot better than you think.

[DJ 'H']

I know gals are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO concerned about not hurting a guys feelings. BUT, 1. I think it's always best to tell the truth - "you're just not my type, we're not compatible, I still not quite over my last boyfriend" - in the long run it will help change and improve the guy.
2. REMEMBER - guys are not built like women.
3. Guys ca nhandle the truth a lot better than you think.

Wildcat I am always honest and upfront. I don't see the point beating around the bush; and liers always get found out in the end. I respect others so much more for being truthful with me, so I give the same in return to earn their respect. I told Peter Love what was what. But I was just hoping that I had done so in an appropriate manner.

[nymphetamine]

Good luck in finding that woman you are looking for, Pete. Id go to the like a forum that is made for that sort of thing though. They have plently of sites for that.

[bizygurl]

I know gals are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO concerned about not hurting a guys feelings. BUT, 1. I think it's always best to tell the truth - "you're just not my type, we're not compatible, I still not quite over my last boyfriend" - in the long run it will help change and improve the guy.
2. REMEMBER - guys are not built like women.
3. Guys ca nhandle the truth a lot better than you think.

I don't think what DJ'H and I were talking about was only pertaining to guys but people in general. With me I don't like to hurt anyone's feelings whether be male or female. That's why I know I would never be good at being a boss over someone.

In this case I know men can handle the truth. But that wasn't what we were getting at. Its how we feel after we say "your not my type, we're not compatable." Im mean, I, don't dwell on it for days. But when I have told a guy that, a good guy that he wasn't my type, yes I do feel bad especially if he was interested.

If the guy had been a complete jerk, then I wouldn't waste another minute feeling bad about it.

[peter love]

Just these few words before I leave,there's not enough space for everyone's names... There is no single individual who has been "most" influential - everyone who has touched my life has made me who I am today... my mother, taught me the art of entertaining and how to be a man - she's also the most creative influence in my life. My father, shaped me into a dedicated man with an entrepreneurial flair and strategic vision (perhaps my strongest business influence). My sister imparted the value of dance and dreaming. My grandparents gave me lots of love and happy memories. My debate coach taught me to listen, to argue, to negotiate and to project. My uncle let me know that family is always there for you, my friends that their support is constant despite geographical boundaries. My grandfather taught me to be proud and appreciate, my family to appreciate nature and, and my late grandmother showed me you could die with dignity and live on in the hearts and souls of those around you. My friends taught me ( you guys included, thanks a lot) about gnomes and faeries, Reach out and expand my horizons, discover inner spirituality and guide me to my inner self, Also about multi-tasking and pushing the boundaries, and mainly about being proud and following your heart (thats the only mistake I made here). All my friends they have been there for years as friends reciprocally to share celebrations, to help embrace shortcomings (which you all have helped as well), to lend a hand, provide a shoulder and offer me an insight. There are others I don't personally know who have molded me; women like Kim Polese, Martha Stewart, Oprah Winfrey, Katherine Mwanamwambu, and others have touched me with the knowledge that as individuals and as both women and men - we can overcome - we can succeed, prosper and thrive!
Several men and women I know have truly prospered in business - and some have not, I've learned from them all (and most of them probably don't know it). My friends and family keep teaching me the value of enjoying life, they keep my feet firmly planted on the ground, and they nourish the essence of my being! And you guys have taught me something that will influence me continuously, shaping every day... of my life. Thanks and I would just like to say that this is the last of me, no………I am not running to another site but till I come out of this phase I will remain glued to my work………….I should not have wandered…………….once again thanks a lot to all of you kind folks and do take care of yourselves.
Good bye. God bless.

[DJ 'H']

Just these few words before I leave,there's not enough space for everyone's names...There is no single individual who has been "most" influential - everyone who has touched my life has made me who I am today... my mother, taught me the art of entertaining and how to be a man - she's also the most creative influence in my life. My father, shaped me into a dedicated man with an entrepreneurial flair and strategic vision (perhaps my strongest business influence). My sister imparted the value of dance and dreaming. My grandparents gave me lots of love and happy memories. My debate coach taught me to listen, to argue, to negotiate and to project. My uncle let me know that family is always there for you, my friends that their support is constant despite geographical boundaries. My grandfather taught me to be proud and appreciate, my family to appreciate nature and, and my late grandmother showed me you could die with dignity and live on in the hearts and souls of those around you. My friends taught me ( you guys included, thanks a lot) about gnomes and faeries, Reach out and expand my horizons, discover inner spirituality and guide me to my inner self, Also about multi-tasking and pushing the boundaries, and mainly about being proud and following your heart (thats the only mistake I made here). All my friends they have been there for years as friends reciprocally to share celebrations, to help embrace shortcomings (which you all have helped as well), to lend a hand, provide a shoulder and offer me an insight. There are others I don't personally know who have molded me; women like Kim Polese, Martha Stewart, Oprah Winfrey, Katherine Mwanamwambu, and others have touched me with the knowledge that as individuals and as both women and men - we can overcome - we can succeed, prosper and thrive!
Several men and women I know have truly prospered in business - and some have not, I've learned from them all (and most of them probably don't know it). My friends and family keep teaching me the value of enjoying life, they keep my feet firmly planted on the ground, and they nourish the essence of my being! And you guys have taught me something that will influence me continuously, shaping every day...........of my life. Thanks and I would just like to say that this is the last of me, no………I am not running to another site but till I come out of this phase I will remain glued to my work………….I should not have wandered…………….once again thanks a lot to all of you kind folks and do take care of your selves.
Good bye. God bless.

I am glad we were ale to inspire you! And despite everything very sorry to see you leave the site. I wish you the very best of luck and hope you find what you are looking for.