[lady_fang66]

I really wanted a baby at 19 too. I'm 21 now. But I decide to wait. And I'm glad that I did because at 19 I didn't know how had it was to take care of myself, let alone a newborn. I mean my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now and just barley in college. It id hard to work full time and go to school full time. Think of that with a child?! MG I couldn't do it. And I know that when the time is right, the time is right. Can you afford a child with a house and a car? Just wait a couple more years, TRUST me they will FLYBY and if you still think that you can handle it, go for it. The best things in life come with time. Oh, and the other thing is when I was 19 I just wanted to be able to give my love to another that was created by me, but that's not the question anymore. I know that I could give my child unconditional love, but when it comes to children, love isn't enough for the first years of their lives... u know? Not to say that love isn't important or anything. Well anyway good luck to you. Hope I helped!

[heyheather]

Yes you have helped, I just got on here for the firstt time in so long.
And I just read this blog again that I did on here and all the responds.
And now I am almost 20 in a month and here I am with no child yet.
I really realized I should wait till I have evrything figured out and I can give my kids the best. So now I want to wait till I'm like 23 at least.
I just really wanted a baby to care for and have that family, but I know now that it will come eventually and I can have that wonderful family that I want.
But thank you all.:)

[ang8318]

I think that you need to spend more time on your relationship. Honestly, my husband and I met when we were 19, I knew he was the one... we got married at 22, then it got tough. Living together, and getting used to living with a man, was hard. I know I am glad we waited until we knew we were strong enough. You seem to be in the same situation as we were, our parents would have NEVER let us live together without being married, so we got engage when we were 21, and married a year later. I am 25 now and pregnant with my second child, I could not have imagined doing it any other way. It took us 2 years to get used to living with each other, paying bills, working on a budget etc, but the wait was well worth it.

[heyheather]

Well thanks, that's exactly where I see myself heading. 21 engaged and then married at 22 and start having kids then.
I'm just so ready now to get out of the house because of my parents how they are.
But I know we should wait proabbly at least one more year.
Any advise on how to deal with it now for another year?

[talaniman]

Have all the fun you can, and just remember that your parents want the best for you. That's just how us parents are... very protective. Its aggravating, but your time will come.

[nextloislane]

I'm 18, Married, and my husband is in the Army. We have complete stability and I too want to start our family more than anything. I don't think you can put an age on being ready for a child. It is a responsibility and takes a vast amount of maturity. It does change everything and it can't be undone. It is also a personal understanding of when you are ready to have a child. Your boyfriend is right in wanting a house and to be married. A solid family is always good for raising a baby. And it is natural for men to want to provide, like he is with the house. Despite everything though God knows when you are ready and when you are meant to conceive. However- no one can tell you when you should have one. It is between you and yours alone.

[ang8318]

Just wait until you move out. My mom and I NEVER got along when I lived in their house. Now she is my best friend and I see her about 3 times a week and cannot go one day without talking to her. Hang in there, don't rush things, just know that your parents aren't trying to drive you crazy they just want what is best.