[simoneaugie]

Hi again, happynsad. You are incredibly validating! You seem so kind and considerate. I hope that somehow, some way you fall into a relationship in which you can feel mostly joy. It is waiting for you. Feel it, don't think it.

[happynsad]

Simoneaugie... you're sweet to say that. Thanks. I did find someone who brought me much joy. Lately, given our circumstances I guess, I'm just not feeling it as much. She's still fairly attentive in contacting me each day and sending a good night text. But there isn't much emotion attached to it, and I miss that side of her. I explain to her that we don't see each other much or get to talk. We don't live together, etc. Her words and sentiments are all I have to cling to right now, and she's holding them back. She says she's not as emotionally expressive as me, but I've seen it and know she's capable of it. Can expressions of that nature really drop off that much after the newness of a relationship wears off? I don't even consider us having really been through the honeymoon stage yet considering our circumstances. I tell her outright that I miss her sweet words, etc. and her response is something like: "...sorry this is so hard for you...I understand what youre saying..." But then nothing. Oh... I'm really hurting! Can you tell?

[2personal]

When will people learn, you cheat on your girlfriend, she cheats on her boyfriend, do you really think the cheating stops there, sooner or later one of you will cheat again.

[happynsad]

Thanks for responding, 2personal. You are right, and she and I even had this discussion before too. Would we be able to trust each other? I don't think either one of us are "serial" cheaters. But it's all pretty much moot now. I ended it on Monday. I'm a wreck, she is too as far as I know. She sent a couple of messages, but I haven't really responded. All contact has now ceased. I hope our circumstances change in the future so that we might have a chance to see if we could be together for real. But in the meantime, our affair could not continue.

[talaniman]

You did the right thing and will see the benefits of a good decision, and I do know how hard it was to come to that decision.

[happynsad]

Thanks, T. This has been the longest week of my life! I'm muddling through and I know it will get easier with time. You're right, it was very difficult. But, it was the right thing to do.

[annabanana_01]

Im A Girl And Maybe I Would Not Want Anyone To Know B Cus I Would Be Afraid Of What They Might Think Or Say About Me. But Then If Im Cheating (which Is Wrong) Why Should I Care What They Think! The Only Reason I Might Be Keeping It From Others Is Because She Is Not Ready And She Is Uncertain Of What She Wants!

[happynsad]

Yes, AnnaBanana, you're right. She isn't ready for us to be together. She has a partner and needs to figure out how to get out of that relationship first... as do I with mine. Thanks for your response.