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idunnodude101 · Dec 5, 2007, 03:12 AM

Originally Posted by Clough

Is she religious at all in terms of participating in some kind of organized religion?

Yeah we're both christians.

Clough · Dec 5, 2007, 03:15 AM

Originally Posted by idunnodude101

yeah we're both christians.

That's great! I am too! :) Then, that is another possibility as far as the type of card to get.

Are either of you associated with a particular denomination? If so, which one or ones?

idunnodude101 · Dec 5, 2007, 03:20 AM

Originally Posted by Clough

That's great! I am too! :) Then, that is another possibility as far as the type of card to get.

Are either of you associated with a particular denomination? If so, which one or ones?

She's catholic, and I'm an orthodox christian.

Clough · Dec 5, 2007, 03:23 AM

By orthodox, do you mean the Greek Orthodox denomination?

idunnodude101 · Dec 5, 2007, 03:27 AM

Originally Posted by Clough

By orthodox, do you mean the Greek Orthodox denomination?

Lol um more like the "indian orthodox" lol.. me and her are both indian kids from india but we all grew up here. Christians are the 3rd biggest religion in india.

idunnodude101 · Dec 5, 2007, 03:33 AM

I have to say though, thanks for all your help. Def helped me out a bit on what to do. Thank you :)

Even though I still don't get why she is pushing me away so much lately, but I duno woman...

I guess I will just do what you told me and hope to god for the best

Clough · Dec 5, 2007, 03:40 AM

Sorry that it took me so long to get back to you. There was a problem on another post that needed to be dealt with immediately.

You are more than welcome for the help! :)

Please be patient. Please stop analyzing so much. If it is meant to be, then it is meant to be. I don't believe in luck. If we have faith in God and Jesus Christ, then how can there be such a thing as luck?

Would you please give me an update as to what is happening in the future? I would appreciate that!

Also, in order to make yourself as attractive as possible to someone, we might also want to discuss things like your schooling and other activities on this thread. What do you think?

Clough · Dec 5, 2007, 03:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Clough
By orthodox, do you mean the Greek Orthodox denomination?

Originally Posted by idunnodude101

lol um more like the "indian orthodox" lol.. me and her are both indian kids from india but we all grew up here. Christians are the 3rd biggest religion in india.

Thank you for your answer to that! Sounds really interesting!

idunnodude101 · Dec 5, 2007, 03:46 AM

Originally Posted by Clough

Would you please give me an update as to what is happening in the future? I would appreciate that!

Yeah ill keep you posted on what's going on with my thing.

Originally Posted by Clough

Also, in order to make yourself as attractive as possible to someone, we might also want to discuss things like your schooling and other activities on this thread. What do you think?

I'm confused ? Are you talking about me?

Clough · Dec 5, 2007, 03:57 AM

Yes. I am talking about you. It would be good to discuss at some time in the future what things that you do and are interested in in order to see if there are some things that you might do to make yourself more attractive to others and also maybe some things that you do that might turn people off some. Just a thought... We don't have to. It's just a thought...

We all can improve. I can improve and do want to improve!

There is an old saying that I really like! It is: "The best mirror is a friend's eye."

The ways that we think others perceive us to be, may not be the way that they really see things to be in and about us. Sometimes, it takes a friend to really point things out to us about the way that we are. I have a friend that does that to me. And, he won't let go until I see his point!

idunnodude101 · Dec 5, 2007, 04:11 AM

Originally Posted by Clough

Yes. I am talking about you. It would be good to discuss at some time in the future what things that you do and are interested in in order to see if there are some things that you might do to make yourself more attractive to others and also maybe somethings that you do that might turn people off some. Just a thought... We don't have to. It's just a thought...

We all can improve. I can improve and do want to improve!

There is an old saying that I really like! It is: "The best mirror is a friend's eye."

The ways that we think others perceive us to be, may not be the way that they really see things to be in and about us. Sometimes, it takes a friend to really point things out to us about the way that we are. I have a friend that does that to me. And, he won't let go until I see his point!

Oh um I'm majoring in engineering. Its hard. I'm usually busy with school and my job. Then I also like to go out a lot. I mean its college it goes unsaid lol. But other than that's really my life.

My girlfriend is like that too... she's busy with school but at the sametime likes to go to clubs and parties. She's in a hard medical school. I'm in a more dead boring town which is one of the reasons I want to move to her city she's in.

I do worry a lot and over analyze a lot. As you noticed. Like if she goes out to parties or clubs I have to like know she went out otherwise I feel like she's hiding it from me. Like I have to know the details. Because I'm insecure and always worrying about losing her. I never tell her that and do my best to not show it but I'm sure she kind of sees it. At the sametime I trust her a lot and know she wouldn't mess with me. Its not her. Its just the whole problem for me of "i just have to know everything" thing. I do realize it's a stupid problem of mine. And the past few weeks since this "Break" thing started I've slowly gotten over it I think. She never had that problem with me though. She never asks quesitons when I go out or anything and if anything she knows I tell her everything regardless.

Oh just in general I also complain too much and don't think much about myself. Like before her I never thought I could get a good looking girl like her. She gets a lot of guys after her. And I would think why me or something. And I would complain to her about how nothing in my life goes right and so on. I'm slowly fixing everything lol...

I think how I'm always doing those above things finally probably got to her I think

Clough · Dec 5, 2007, 04:20 AM

Thanks for the answer! I hadn't expected you to answer so soon! I was a little concerned that maybe I had overstepped my bounds some by suggesting that we discuss some additional things.

I would like to answer to what you have posted above. But, right now it is about 5:16 A.M. in the morning where I am. What time is it where you are?

I do want to respond a little bit to what you have currently posted before I go to bed. And, that would be that relationships take maintenance and work. Sometimes we have to give up or not do some things as much in order to maintain a relationship with someone. Just some beginning food for thought for you.

idunnodude101 · Dec 5, 2007, 04:22 AM

Originally Posted by Clough

Thanks for the answer! I hadn't expected you to answer so soon! I was a little concerned that maybe I had overstepped my bounds some by suggesting that we discuss some additional things.

I would like to answer to what you have posted above. But, right now it is about 5:16 A.M. in the morning where I am. What time is it where you are?

I do want to respond a little bit to what you have currently posted before I go to bed. And, that would be that relationships take maintenance and work. Sometimes we have to give up or not do some things as much in order to maintain a relationship with someone. Just some beginning food for thought for you.

Its all good. Its 6:19am here. You can reply whenever. Take your time. I have some school stuff to attend to anyway :)

Clough · Dec 5, 2007, 04:25 AM

Thanks! I was starting to think that you were in India! Are you on the East coast of the U.S. or somewhere else?

idunnodude101 · Dec 5, 2007, 04:27 AM

Originally Posted by Clough

Thanks! I was starting to think that you were in India! Are you on the East coast of the U.S. or somewhere else?

I'm in PA right now. Grew up in NY. Lol... no grew up in the USA aallll my life. So did she.

Clough · Dec 5, 2007, 04:33 AM

Thanks for the information! I am truly going to log out of this site now. Got to get some sleep! I do look forward to continued dialogue with you! :)

Goodnight or good morning! Whatever the case may be! :p

talaniman · Dec 6, 2007, 01:31 PM

It bothers me that you have not been honest, and told her of your relocation plans much sooner. She may well see this as getting closer, and her reaction will tell you a lot. I really cannot say how this will go, if it's a total surprise. I would make it my business to tell her though, as soon as possible, after all your moving into her territory, and she has a right to know. I don't know how she feels right now, about you and her, but too much, to soon, may not work well, so see how she reacts to you coming, and then you'll know what the next step is. There is a very big difference between talking long distance, knowing you won't interact personally, and seeing someone your interested in every day. Keep us posted, and good luck.

idunnodude101 · Dec 6, 2007, 02:59 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

It bothers me that you have not been honest, and told her of your relocation plans much sooner. She may well see this as getting closer, and her reaction will tell you a lot. I really cannot say how this will go, if its a total surprise. I would make it my business to tell her though, as soon as possible, after all your moving into her territory, and she has a right to know. I don't know how she feels right now, about you and her, but to much, to soon, may not work well, so see how she reacts to you coming, and then you'll know what the next step is. There is a very big difference between talking long distance, knowing you won't interact personally, and seeing someone your interested in every day. Keep us posted, and good luck.

Do you also think I should give her that space and do the no contact thing? Let her come to me?

Also I was going to tell her I got accepted like the day before she pulled the break thing on me so I was kind of in shock when she pulled it on me. This was about almost 2 months ago. But its not 100% chance I'm going yet I figured I should only tell her when I know I'm going there for sure.

talaniman · Dec 6, 2007, 03:32 PM

When a female ask for space, you give it to her and make the best of the rest of your life. Easy as it sounds, it's the hardest thing you will do. The reward is a healthy and happy life that you can enjoy, and you will greatly benefit from a clear mind, and make good decisions where your life is concerned. Believe it or not, when we heal from the misery and pain of a breakup, we usually wonder what all the drama was about, and have found someone who we relate too much better, and are better able to handle our emotions, and desires in a realistic, positive healthy way. Live, learn and move on to better things.

idunnodude101 · Dec 6, 2007, 03:48 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

When a female ask for space, you give it to her and make the best of the rest of your life. Easy as it sounds, its the hardest thing you will do. The reward is a healthy and happy life that you can enjoy, and you will greatly benefit from a clear mind, and make good decisions where your life is concerned. Believe it or not, when we heal from the misery and pain of a breakup, we usually wonder what all the drama was about, and have found someone who we relate to much better, and are better able to handle our emotions, and desires in a realistic, positive healthy way. Live, learn and move on to better things.

Yeah I actually do feel for the first time in over 2 years off cloud 9 with her and able to see me and her with my mind and not my heart. And see things how it should be. At the sametime see my mistakes and what I should improve on with life. Also this is our first actual drama me and her ever had. I just hope she feels the same as me..