[sant55]

Hi! I'm sorry again to say - despite of my sincere efforts she is not ready yet. She says god will punish her... I'm tired in deed. But want to make her prepared mentally. How?? I don't know what's wrong with me? I know she isn't a normal lady... she changes her promises and words so often, I can't forget her even if she's so disappointing...

[smoothy]

It's a strong possibility that you two just aren't compatible... Thats not saying one or the other is damaged goods, but everyone just can't be a good match for everyone else.

While it seems like she has some endearing qualities to you the overall big picture is you have some big differences.

Yeah it is painful when you get involved with someone like this. But you can't make her change, nor should she expect you to change. If either of you pretend to do it for the other it will cause resentment over time.

Best thing to do is set down... have a heart to heart talk with her. Tell her you aren't happy with this, and tell her why if you haven't already. If you can't come to a mutual agreement that pleases both of you them consider it time to move on and find someone new.

You aren't married yet, consider yourself lucky.

[kp2171]

She is not ready for sex. Period. Done!

You either accept this or move on, but you don't try to pressure her or brainwash her or manipulate her after repeated attempts.

Look... at some point most guys have probably applied some sexual pressure on a girl they were dating... it's a part of the "chase"... a guy who doesn't care about sex might end up with the girl who writes in here saying "my bf doesnt want sex... what is wrong with him or me?"...

So don't feel like a complete jerk because you want sex. And its not even wrong to have asked for it when she seemed unsure. You talked it out. You have an answer. Done!

There should be a balance. She's kissing, petting, letting you touch her sexually in many ways, but she's not comfortable with intercourse. You've asked, talked, and she's standing firm. Done!

Time to be more of a man than a boy. You either accept where the relationship is now or you step back. What you don't do is guilt trip or cry about how you aren't getting what you want.

There's no problem with your asking. Even no problem with your applying a little pressure... when its accepted favorably it's a good thing. But she has heard you and she's drawn the line.

Please stop asking for ways to manipulate someone into having sex when she doesn't want to have sex. Absolutely no good will come out of it. If she consents shell be mentally frustrated and unhappy, feel used, and question your motivation for the relationship.

If she were to write in here from her perspective, after trying to meet your needs but also knowing she wasn't ready, and still getting pressure from you, id probably tell her to be done with you. Sorry, but it's the truth.

[lella87]

LOL synnen. Damn men.. They just don't understand do they. Look, maybe the girl just isn't comfortable having sex with him. She could insecuries with her body or some nasty rash down there that he wouldn't know about... maybe it hurts her.. maybe your being to pushy... MAYBE you should go and talk to her about it ;)