I meant to share something earlier but was just intent on trying to get some good information to you, I forgot to share this. I have been married five months and 37 years! I had never made love to anyone or even viewed a man unclothed before I married my husband. I have shared this with a few young friends that help take care of my mother just in our sharing time of their boyfriends, etc. One just shares one's own experiences along the way. They are generally a little surprised but it seemed totally normal to me at the time. I share this to say that when you have been married this long, it is so important to keep the love making alive and interesting. I knew very little when I married my husband and he was my teacher. I have always been a very sexual person but sometimes felt shy and inadequate in the early years of marriage for lack of experience. Through the years, as I matured, I find that I am teaching my husband and it just adds much to the relationship. It helps to have a forum to discuss sexual questions. The more we learn about ourselves, the more we have to offer to the one we love. I hope it is okay that I shared this on this thread. When I replied to your post, just took me back in my mind to the early years and now and how important it is to keep love making a special and unique experience so that it continues to fuel the fire in our hearts. (Don't get me wrong, I know there is more to a relationship than sex but I totally believe that God gave this gift of sex for us not only to procreate but to enhance and bring us to the oneness He intended.)
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