[mikehst]

We talked a bit tonight, it got little heated but it was needed. She doesnt want me to bring up me and her at all, she promised me that she would come talk to me when she was ready and it would be before she leaves. I trust her. So I'm just going to start going back to the gym more often. And hang out with my friends that i have neglected over the past 11 months just like shes doing. I feel better now then i have which is good. Thanks for the help everyone, I'm not through it yet but this has most definitely helped.

. From my experience it really sounds like she's cheating. I don't know for sure obviously, but something in my heart from what you've said tells me that. When I was breaking up with my girlfriend, it was at a point I didn't even KNOW it. She said something just like what I put in red. And she did things to demonstrate it. She turned out to be cheating on me from day one. A big sign I've realized that can indicate whether a woman is cheating on you is if she hides unnecessary things from you that you'd never expect to be big. If she does lie... take every one into consideration. If she keeps you in question on certain things you SHOULD know, then that raises the possibility. You may think it's just her problems but another guy could always be involved. I see you also said something about putting all your effort in because you love the girl. That's kind of how I was too, and it seems like after all I did for her, she took a sh*t on me and left. I know what you're feeling and I just want to make you aware of some possibilities of why she's acting like this to you. Your situation just sounds a lot like mine and you'll probably expect it more now if her cheating on you turns out to be the situation. If this isn't the case, remember this for future reference : D.

[SoConfused8]

Thanks mike. Yea I have pondered the thought and I know it's a serious possibility. She never has hid anything from me but she does still talk to tons of her ex's... If she was cheating on me I could deal and know for a fact she wasn't worth the hassle. We have all the same friends which is undoubtedly a bad thing at times because our friends are playing both sides of the field. They keep me updated which I like but its still bad. I want to hang out with them and so does she so we are almost competing but whatever. I have plans for my life and if she doesn't want to be part of them then that's her choice.