[J_9]

You haven't even met the girl for real, you know, in person.

She could be a really ugly mug and be 90 years old for all you really know, or 12 for that matter.

This is life on the net. People can get you to believe anything they want.

[Marbur]

Yes, I did. But with my conscience I had to. Again, I'm glad you aren't showing sympathy, I don't care if you like me or not. I beat myself up, because I am unable to hate others (well, that isn't quite correct, unwilling more like it), I beat myself up, because I often see myself as the bad guy, which is likely true. Openly calling myself a perv is just plain out honesty. Honesty is personally the most important factor anyone can have. By dating a girl like her goes against my original dating values (within one year of myself), but I don't know, there is something about all this that just feels... different. Everyday I wind up finding something to hate myself about. I call myself a perv because it's true, and I am afraid of destroying someone's innocence. And yes, I am the bad guy it seems, as at times, never mind. I have to go.

You haven't even met the girl for real, you know, in person.

She could be a really ugly mug and be 90 years old for all you really know, or 12 for that matter.

This is life on the net. People can get you to believe anything they want.

I trust her, and she trusts me. I know it can be likely that she is any age as far as I know, but personally (again, former manipulator speaking, as they say it takes one to know one. Though as far as you guys know, she could just simply be better at it than me.) I believe her. I have to trust her, as trust is a very important quality in a relationship. I don't care about looks, I rarely did, except perversely, I'm not one to judge a person upon appearance. I'm not supposed to trust the two photos I have of what she 'claims' to look like, but I have to, and if she has tricked me, then so be it. As they say it is better to have loved and lost than to have not loved at all. She's my only friend, (for now) she understands me, but to all of you, it seems it doesn't matter. She says she needs me as her rock (again could be a ruse, but I do not believe it is) and I want to be that rock, I know I need her, but I will do without the physical side. I didn't come here to win anything, just gather advice, but it seems I'm trying to fight, and I shouldn't.

[Kattalover]

Legal aspects aside, I don't see how wanting to have sex with a person you're in love with would make you a pervert.

[J_9]

Yes, I did. But with my conscience I had to.

Okay you met her.

I know it can be likely that she is any age as far as I know, but personally

What? I thought you met her.

I'm not supposed to trust the two photos I have of what she 'claims' to look like,

Again, I thought you met her?

[Marbur]

The concsciene bit was for a previous Q. Sorry about the confusion.

[phillysteakandcheese]

Based on what you've written here, it's clear you have some personal issues to work out.

I don't know you, but I think: You are making a HUGE mistake!

You are investing way too much of your emotion into the unknown. You're rolling the dice and "wishing" that it will turn out. While 50% of what you know about this girl may be true, that mystery 50% your imaging is not going to live up to whatever you have cooked up in your head about her.

If you keep idolizing this girl and placing her on a pedestal, you are doing nothing but making sure that when she finally disappoints you (and all women do sooner or later), you're going to explode with anger and self-hate.

You want to pursue a future with this girl? That's great. Be FRIENDS - Talk to her on the phone. Make a summer road trip to see her. But be prepared that she isn't what you expected based on your Internet chats, and that what you though was there... isn't.

[ncgirl_21]

Ok let me start over, if you are 16 and you consent to sexual relations then there's nothing that can be done about it, There was just a case here in NC where a 16yr old female had sexual relations with a man who was 30yrs old and her God Father her parents wanted to get him for rape and they were told she was of age of consent and there was nothing that could be done.
2nd: 1000's of people are meeting online now days, this is exactly how my fiancée and I met was online we communcated the same way as this couple has with pics IM's and on our cell phone for a year. We finally met in person and the day we meet was the same day we moved in togather there's nothing wrong with meeting someone online.
Hope you can understand this now I tried to spell everything out.
No This Is Not An Internet Dateing Service I was just typeig like I would in a chat room sorry it was chat lingo.

[Xrayman]

Is this an internet dating service?^^^ Please write properly! It's like I'm trying to read SMSs..

[Marbur]

I'm just going to find a way to make it work. I am not one to listen to the odds nor am I hasty. A year of communicatio and sounds great though though it will be hard on her. I thank you all for your replies though.

[smoothy]

Goo goo eyed. -_- This isn't goo goo eyed. It can work out. If I leave, it'd be worse on my conscience. Yes, I listen to my conscience. I don't fall in love easily. And I am a very loyal person when it comes down to it. I wish I could explain, but normally, as far as I know, when people claim to have fallen in love, infatuation wears off after a month or so. Love isn't just a feeling or emotion, but something much more than that. It's an action, a journey. Why am I still replying to these things?

You are confusing infatuation with love... there is a HUGE difference but you have to be able to see it. By the way... infatuation can last far longer than a month. It can last years.

[guineapigging]

I don't think age matters much at all, really.
The only reason it seems so important is because society has made it a major determining factor in everything.

[j_ely823]

In the matters of love; time is nothing. This is a quote form my favorite book of ALL time the time travelers wife. And, if your in love with her, stop referring to ourself as a pervert. Perversion is detached from emotion. Its pure pleasure. Obviously your not, if u plan to marry her.

[Synnen]

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