[smoothy]

thanks smoothy

its not that im inexperienced or that i havent dated a lot of women. quite the opposite really, but while i have no trouble getting a date with attractive, successful women, i do find it is difficult to find a spark or connection with someone that i feel i really mesh well with.

my current gf has told me she feels the same way, although, looking back withthe info i now have, it seems she may be a committmentphobe and she has zero trouble finding 'fillers' to take up the space in between boyfriends.

what does bother me is her need to hold onto all of the old stuff. imo, the past is the past.

anyway, i just wanted to respond and let you know we are going to see a therapist. thanks for the advice

If the therapy doesn't pan out keep in mind the best relationships I have had are not with women I sought out specifically, but chance meetings that led to a second meeting and then more. Finding the right woman isn't so much looking for her, but more like recognising her when you do meet her.