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    #21

    Aug 31, 2010, 05:45 PM

    Update... I decided not to collect those stuff until I need them right now NO CONTACT for me. Is not urgent at all.
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    #22

    Aug 31, 2010, 09:58 PM

    Why love kills... I know she's a donkey but why I can still love her this much.
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    #23

    Sep 1, 2010, 08:27 AM

    Listen to Kaka, and start loving yourself.
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    Sep 1, 2010, 08:47 AM

    Thanks guys, you guys rock! I am trying really hard to NC. Those stuff I don't even wanted care to collect until she asked.

    Why do I need to be so sad when she is the one that did wrong. I treated her good mayb I'm egoistic but I've never done anything wrong behind. I tried to fulfill her needs and everything. I won't be perfect, I know I can never.
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    Sep 1, 2010, 11:05 AM

    I thought I was perfect, but learned the folly of that thinking a long time ago. I also learned there are no guarantees in life, and some times your best isn't good enough for some people. ( the ungrateful, and unappreciative b@sta@rds!! )
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    #26

    Sep 1, 2010, 11:06 AM

    Hehehe!!
    Isn't that the truth.
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    #27

    Sep 1, 2010, 05:31 PM

    You guys were spot-on! Yesterday, I finally managed not to check on her FB it was such a hard work! God. I almost lost my job too. My superior were asking why aren't you focus. Dang, the power of love can make u happy and kill.


    A friend told me that I wasn't caring enough. I felt bad that I could do better and why wasn't I given chance.
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    #28

    Sep 1, 2010, 07:16 PM

    Tell your friend he is an idiot. And get off that pity pot while you're at it.

    You gave your heart to the wrong person is all. Happens to the best of us. We learn, we grow, we get over it no matter how hard it is, so stop feeling sorry for yourself!

    >very hard cyber slap, right upside your hard freakin head<
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    #29

    Sep 1, 2010, 09:33 PM

    Just like stopping FB, NC also involves removing all gossip. Tell your friends that you don't want to hear it. Remove anyone that you can't trust to support you.

    Tal's right.

    You can wallow till the cows come home, but that's not going to change the fact.

    That its done. Whatever the reasons.

    Its up to you now how fast you want to heal. Not us, her or anyone else.

    When would you like to be back to your old self?
    And better?
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    #30

    Sep 2, 2010, 08:26 PM

    Yes after 1 day of really no FB and don't picking the friend's call, I feel better and I really felt that I don't deserve this. It's her choice and I have no regrets for my action and my love towards her.
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    #31

    Sep 3, 2010, 06:13 PM

    Good start man, keep it up.

    I know its hard to fathom at this point, but one day soon you will be proud of yourself for sticking to NC.

    And pat yourself on the back knowing that you didn't cave to the drama.

    Its like love rehab. Making a commitment to yourself to get of a bad drug. One that only brings you down.

    Takes time. Hang in there with confidence and know that pain you feel now is just temporary.
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    #32

    Sep 4, 2010, 10:25 PM
    Vinnai Thaandi Varuvaayaa (2010) excellent movie!

    I think this could be a good example of NC. Please watch this.
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    #33

    Sep 5, 2010, 01:42 AM
    My ex-gf just called me and I didn't answer. What should I do?
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    Sep 5, 2010, 02:11 AM

    Don't answer. Unless you want more of the drama and her lies and bulldust?

    Well what do you want? To be her backup plan?
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    #35

    Sep 5, 2010, 06:50 AM

    My ex-gf just called me and I didn't answer. What should I do?
    Nothing! By my account it was almost 4 in the morning so go back to sleep.
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    #36

    Sep 5, 2010, 10:29 AM
    NC, right?
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    #37

    Sep 5, 2010, 04:37 PM
    Gosh, another call but it's my friend. I thought it was her and I answered and said, I want to sleep only to realised it was my friend.
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    #38

    Sep 5, 2010, 11:16 PM

    Was your stomach in knots afterwards? :eek:

    Im sure it was, so imagine how you would have felt if it was her?

    That's why everyone says NC. To stop the turmoil and give yourself some peace and a drama free life.

    And isn't it nice :)
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    #39

    Sep 6, 2010, 11:59 AM
    It's so freaking hard! Woke up this morning at wee hours again. Dang! I kept thinking about her waking up at the wrong place. Got to write it out in AMHD otherwise I will write to her. Thanks AMHD.
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    Sep 6, 2010, 12:00 PM
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