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Wondergirl · Oct 13, 2007, 01:12 AM

I can't look into his eyes, but my best guess is, as soon as you aren't willing to do his work for him and come when he snaps his fingers, he will move on.

br_hjs · Oct 13, 2007, 01:13 AM

brb = be right back
lol= laugh out loud
idk= I don't know

I guess they could be whatever you want to make of them though

br_hjs · Oct 13, 2007, 01:15 AM

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

I can't look into his eyes, but my best guess is, as soon as you aren't willing to do his work for him and come when he snaps his fingers, he will move on.

Welll I tell him I'm not going to do it since he's failing anyway and he just says "fine then i'll remember that"
Its just that he never wants to hold hands or any of that but he'll do other stuff.

Clough · Oct 13, 2007, 01:17 AM

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Yes, I think he's using you, Michelle. Why shouldn't he? He got what he wanted and still gets what he wants with the homework and don't have to do anything to get something from you.

I really like this answer! And, I do hope you give it some thought!

Wondergirl · Oct 13, 2007, 01:17 AM

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Clough · Oct 13, 2007, 01:19 AM

Originally Posted by br_hjs

brb = be right back
lol= laugh out loud
idk= i dont know

i guess they could be whatever you want to make of them though

Gosh! Thanks! I'll try to remember! But, you know me...

Wondergirl · Oct 13, 2007, 01:19 AM

Originally Posted by br_hjs

he just says "fine then i'll remember that"...but he'll do other stuff.

So he'll do private stuff if you cooperate with the homework, like paying you back, but not public stuff like holding hands?

br_hjs · Oct 13, 2007, 01:28 AM

What I mean is that I'm not worried about him wanting me to do his work... just that he doesn't like to hold hands or kiss but he always wants to do other stuff. That's what I'm worried is all he wants from me.

Wondergirl · Oct 13, 2007, 01:30 AM

There's one way to test it out. Ignore him. Refuse to deal with him in any way. See what he does.

Clough · Oct 13, 2007, 01:32 AM

Originally Posted by br_hjs

what i mean is that im not worried about him wanting me to do his work.... just that he doesnt like to hold hands or kiss but he always wants to do other stuff. thats what i'm worried is all he wants from me.

That is called using you.

br_hjs · Oct 13, 2007, 01:32 AM

That's what I tried today and then he came up to me wanting me to work with him... I was going to say no... but I don't want him to be the one mad at me. Because I can't control weather or not he decides for us to stay together... I may get mad at him but chances are I won't break up with him

br_hjs · Oct 13, 2007, 01:33 AM

But is that all he wants? Does he care about me at all?

Clough · Oct 13, 2007, 01:33 AM

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

There's one way to test it out. Ignore him. Refuse to deal with him in any way. See what he does.

I do agree with the above!

Clough · Oct 13, 2007, 01:35 AM

Originally Posted by br_hjs

but is that all he wants? does he care about me at all?

>>>>Edited<<<< It may be all he wants. He might not really care about you. You may just have to accept that. We have already talked about choices...

Clough · Oct 13, 2007, 01:38 AM

Please read again what I wrote many pages ago. Please take it to heart. Thank you.

I'm not sure that you even read it.

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Originally Posted by br_hjs
If he is, does that mean he doesn't like me at all?

Not at all. It may be just a guy thing. I remember when I was in college, it was very much kind of a game for me to see how many girls I could date. I did like most of them. It is best not to be getting really tied down to only one person at your age when you or anyone with whom you might be interested in are going to be going through so many changes in your lives as far as what you need and want for each of you as individual persons.

It might take much practice and trying different things out with a number of different people before arriving at the one who is right for you and you being right for the other person.

The important thing right now, is to concentrate on who you are. What you want to be and accomplish as a person. If you want to have a career in something, then you need to buckle down to doing your schoolwork. If you don't want to have a career and just be married, then maybe you will find someone with the same ideas as you about that. Just please remember, that if you do find that special person someday, with whom you want to spend the rest of your life, then either one or both of you is going to have to be able to provide food and shelter for you both, as well as take care of paying the bills.

But, please remember what I have said about people at your age going through so many changes and I will add here, choices as individuals.

Wondergirl · Oct 13, 2007, 01:39 AM

Originally Posted by br_hjs

(1) i dont want him to be the one mad at me (2) i can't control weather or not he decides for us to stay together (3) i wont break up with him

Question for 1, 2, 3 above ------------ WHY NOT??

br_hjs · Oct 13, 2007, 01:42 AM

Its like even though he shows signs that he's using me... I think those signs are LYING!!
That's just how I feel about it. So I try to ignore them... but I'm trying to do less and less for him but still be there for him. Like when I do his homework he usually says "thanks, i owe you" but then he never does anything. What's he waiting for? And why is it so hard for him to just let me know he cares? He's like with me how I am with school. Afraid to say anything, afraid to be wrong and feel stupid, or emberassed

br_hjs · Oct 13, 2007, 01:43 AM

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Question for 1, 2, 3 above ------------ WHY NOT???????

Okay well if I'm mad, I can still keep us together if I want to. If he's mad and wants to break up... sometimes its too much of a stuggle to go through a long argument... but I always fight my way through it and get him to change his mind anyway... I would never break up with him because I won't give up like that

br_hjs · Oct 13, 2007, 01:45 AM

I wouldn't say he's really the romantic type though... at all... but we used to hold hands and stuff at first. I don't get it. Sometimes he says he wants to and sometimes no.

br_hjs · Oct 13, 2007, 01:46 AM

But aren't their a lot of guys that don't like all that kissing and holding hamds?