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starlite1 · Jun 23, 2008, 08:54 AM

That is not a bad idea. I will e-mail you the store number (His hours are Thurs. Friday, Sat, Sunday) I will also e-mail you his website. He may do readings when not in the store. Tell him you are friends with me (Karen) and how we met. I will send you a pm of his information. You will love him. He is a super nice guy, too!

starlite1 · Jun 23, 2008, 08:55 AM

Originally Posted by f104

My psychic does phone readings too.

Does she? Cool, let me know her info!

f104 · Jun 23, 2008, 09:01 AM

Will do.

starlite1 · Jun 23, 2008, 09:02 AM

Thank you! I just sent you a message with the info.

starlite1 · Jun 23, 2008, 10:56 AM

Originally Posted by f104

Will do.

One more thing. Did you have to provide details about your situation?

waystogetexback · Jun 24, 2008, 10:09 AM

I think this is the best thing that ever happened to you. It is best he "be gone." He apparently is not ready for marriage and still does not know what he wants. Who ever hears about a "trouble free," relationship. That does not exists. I have been married for 23 years and there is always trouble. Every relationship is a work in progress. I think you are better off without him. You will be thankful in a few months. Let him go his way. Don't try to rekindle this. He is looking for a non-committed relationship. Don't even think of going to live with him. He will have his "cake and eat it too." You need to develop self confidence. It seems as if you lost that from your first marriage. You got with this guy on the rebound and that is what he is - a rebound. There are many great guys out there, believe me. This one is not for you. I usually try to give advise to make up, but this one isn't promising at all. It spells trouble all over it. Time will heal your hurt. Find things to do that make you feel good about yourself. Find friends that you can cherish and who will accept you for who you are. You deserve better.

starlite1 · Jun 24, 2008, 10:24 AM

Originally Posted by waystogetexback

I think this is the best thing that ever happened to you. It is best he "be gone." He apparently is not ready for marriage and still does not know what he wants. Who ever hears about a "trouble free," relationship. That does not exists. I have been married for 23 years and there is always trouble. Every relationship is a work in progress. I think you are better off without him. You will be thankful in a few months. Let him go his way. Don't try to rekindle this. He is looking for a non-committed relationship. don't even think of going to live with him. he will have his "cake and eat it too." You need to develop self confidence. It seems as if you lost that from your first marriage. You got with this guy on the rebound and that is what he is - a rebound. There are many great guys out there, believe me. This one is not for you. I usually try to give advise to make up, but this one isn't promising at all. It spells trouble all over it. Time will heal your hurt. Find things to do that make you feel good about yourself. Find friends that you can cherish and who will accept you for who you are. You deserve better.

Hi Way,

The thing is, I am going to visit him in July for a concert that he had booked for us before we broke up. I want to have a heart to heart with him when I go. I know you are all right in what you say, that this relationship is better to be left alone, but I really do love this man. Is there any advise pertaining to this trip that you can give? I did speak to him two weeks ago, and we didn't talk about 'us' just how we are looking forward to the concert, etc. I text him this past Sunday, but no response. (I started another post: 'Starlite strikes again'. Thank you very much.

JBeaucaire · Jun 24, 2008, 11:10 AM

Karen, Karen, Karen...

starlite1 · Jun 24, 2008, 11:17 AM

Originally Posted by JBeaucaire

Karen, Karen, Karen....

LOL!! I am at my desk cracking up! Thanks JB! And, honestly, I don't blame you! :D

waystogetexback · Jun 24, 2008, 12:40 PM

Hi Starlite,
Hmmm! Personally, I think you still have your hopes up and that is why you are going to the concert, isn't it? Well, at least you both have some of the same interest. Is he paying your way from New York to Georgia? Not that this has any bearing on your relationship, but it will prove how badly he wants to see you or is he just going to the concert so he does not lose his money. I think if he is paying all the expenses, you can go, but make sure you either put some closure to this or get some good answers. Good luck.

liz28 · Jun 24, 2008, 12:46 PM

He might confused with his emotions as well. I would call and if he don't answer, leave a message. See what his next move is then.

starlite1 · Jun 24, 2008, 01:11 PM

Originally Posted by waystogetexback

Hi Starlite,
Hmmm!! Personally, I think you still have your hopes up and that is why you are going to the concert, isn't it? Well, at least you both have some of the same interest. Is he paying your way from New York to Georgia? Not that this has any bearing on your relationship, but it will prove how badly he wants to see you or is he just going to the concert so he does not lose his money. I think if he is paying all the expenses, you can go, but make sure you either put some closure to this or get some good answers. Good luck.

Hi Ways,

I do still have my hopes up, I'll admit. I am actually paying for my own airfare. I would have anyway, even if we were still together. I am definatley going to have a talk with him to see if we can reconcile, but, the most important thing is that he has to realize that I am in it for the long haul, and that if issues arise in the relationship, we have to work on them as a team, and that him running away is not the answer. I hope he sees this, and I hope that he really does love me the way he always said he does, however, actions speak louder than words. I will keep you posted. Thanks Ways :)

Hi Liz,

I think you are right. Perhaps he is confused about everything, and/or busy with his work. I will wait a few days and then call him. I will keep the conversation light though.

Thanks guys.

Any more advise from anyone would be greatly appreciated.

JBeaucaire · Jun 24, 2008, 03:02 PM

Originally Posted by Starlite1-aka-Borg-aka-EnergizerBunny

Any more advise from anyone would be greatly appreciated...

Zanex. Double prescription.

talaniman · Jun 24, 2008, 03:16 PM

I have no more advice but worry that your happiness depends on some fool changing and understanding what you need. All he cares about is what he wants. Sorry to be so... gloomy. You seem to bring much to his table, and he doesn't even appreciate it.

Hope you enjoy the concert.

waystogetexback · Jun 24, 2008, 04:17 PM

I think in every relationship each partner should be so much in tune with themselves that they don't have to depend on each other for total happiness. If you go into a relationship depending on someone else to make you happy, you are going to be disappointed and I think that is what is happening here with both of you.

starlite1 · Jun 25, 2008, 05:28 AM

You are all right. I don't know what to do. My God, why the heck am I doing this to myself. Like he is really going to realize why I said what I said, and that I am so hurt? Yeah right. Who the hell, besides myself am I kidding. He doesn't give a rat's a$$ about me. But, the part that really sucks is that I love him, I really do. WHY!?

f104 · Jun 25, 2008, 05:47 AM

Hi Starlite I feel your pain. It sounds like you are suffering significantly. I am not about to suggest what you should or should not do as I am in no position to tell you if you what you are doing makes sense or not. Hell you know my story! My ex even e-mailed me last night after I thought I had totally cut all ties. She agrees that breaking up "for now is probably best but there is no reason why we should not remain in contact" she says.

Whatever you decide I just hope you do not have to keep on hurting the way you are.

Perhaps cutting ties with your ex is the right thing I don't know. That is a choice you will make in time. Take care, f104.

starlite1 · Jun 25, 2008, 05:58 AM

Hi F104,

Thank you so much for your kind words. I don't really want to cut ties with Eric, I still am going to go to the concert, but, why the hell is he doing this? I still haven't gotten a response from my text that I sent him. I am relaxing as much as I can, and I trying to remain calm, but my God. Doesn't this man realize how much I love him? I know I can't make him change or see the light, and even though I am not the most religious person, I pray every morning to God that he would give Eric the strength to feel me, but most importantly that Eric feel the love that he has for me. I don't doubt that he loves me, but if he can truly act on it. Since the breakup, I have had opportunities to date other men, but, even if time has gone past (like last time - a year and a half), I want to be with Eric.

f104 · Jun 25, 2008, 06:15 AM

This could be a long shot but perhaps he never received the text. In the e-mail keri sent me last evening she told me her phone was not working. Her phone has been trashy for the last couple of months. Perhaps Eric has the same problem? You could e-mail him.

At least you have not acted rashly with him. I am now trying to see if I can salvage seeing keri this weekend.

starlite1 · Jun 25, 2008, 06:50 AM

Thank you F104. Perhaps he didn't receive it. I will either send another, or call him.

I hope you are able to see Keri this weekend. I know you were really looking forward to it. Good luck, F104. Keep us posted, okay?