[Chery]

I'm goin to the doctors again tomarrow to see what the problem is. They have not found the problem yet. But ya thats true idon't really like doing that becuz my family is ashamed of me, so i don't feel like i could totaly enjoy. I'm always thinking that my family would find out, then what would they say.

Hello? Is your family in bed with you?? You probably have been told all your life what to do and what to feel and when. Stop this crap, stop wasting money on doctors, and relax and enjoy life! Life, not just sex is the key here - and it seems like you've focused on just this one subject for so long that it is making you sick and a victim of what others want you to achieve instead of what you want. Believe it or not, there are actually some women that don't have orgasms and still enjoy sex, but have to 'fake' it so that the man thinks he's the greatest. This, if a man really loves you and knows your body well, can be felt by him - again only if he's in-tuned with you and cares, because a women swells up, muscles twitch, and lubricates also during orgasm. It's just that most macho men don't notice this because they are too involved with what they get out of it. Also when men are not sensitive enough with oral sex, it can be painful and you might not like it or they don't find the right spot - but you put up with it anyway, making you dry up because it no longer excites you. So leave it alone for a while, stop trying so hard to please everyone else except for yourself. And tell your family to mind their own business. You are a independent young woman, not a child anymore, so act like it. Wishing you a lot of fun in life, and you'll get there sexually when YOU are ready, until then, enjoy everything else around you too.

[Chery]

my family expect perfection from our family, so there ashamed if anything like this happenes at a young age. Yes we've tryed oral, we've try'd all the ways, nothing works

There you go thinking of your 'family' expectations again. If they are not in bed with you, and they should not be, they have no business knowing anything at all about your sexuality. Just make sure that your female organs are OK through regular OB/GYN checkups, and start enjoying life. Later when wanting a family, and having problems there - that's when you should worry and see a specialist. I think the main problems is that you try too hard to please everyone else and are not thinking about yourself. It's now time to think of #1, and that's you. If you feel you need to talk to someone but are worried about your family, there are groups to join and they cannot reveal your issues - not even to parents. Again, good luck dear.

Give yourself time to blossum!

[Miko-chan]

Thank you everyone thats right, i do thing and try to please everyone else but myself, i don't do many things for me to make me happy, my family controlled me that much. I'll also try to go c a councillor if it doesn't cost much. MY boyfriend and I will stop haveing sex till I'm actually finally ready, and feel fine with me, and happy with what I'm doin and who I am.

[Chery]

Thank you everyone thats right, i do thing and try to please everyone else but myself, i don't do many things for me to make me happy, my family controlled me that much. I'll also try to go c a councillor if it doesn't cost much. MY boyfriend and I will stop haveing sex till I'm actually finally ready, and feel fine with me, and happy with what I'm doin and who I am.

Good Girl! - Be independent and think about yourself for a change, just imagine the change in you already - and have fun!

Keep us posted on your progress, and if there are any more positive feedback you need from us, let us know. Proud of you!

Learn to be yourself and also like it!
It's not going to be easy, but freedom never is - take it one day at a time and DON'T feel guilty!

[flynn]

I have the same problem,I have never had an orgasm and I'm 21,not for the lack of tryn I tell ye,I've tried absolutely everything and I cnt could there be sumting wrng are what,its really anniyn and frutrating

[scouto]

I had that problem with my ex boyfriend and I think it was because I didn't let my emotions out toward him. Now that I do with my boyfriend it is great!

[flynn]

Do I'm screwd basically till I find the "one" then ye ,dats crap I'm screwd so!

[DrJ]

Its not that you are screwed until you find the right one... even when you find him, you may still have the same problem.

You may just need to learn to open yourself up. Allow yourself to feel. Get emotionally involved. Women require more emotional involvment/stimulation in sex than men, who require more physical involvment/stimulation.

Its usually a mental state. Like I advise most other people, you need to learn to do it yourself before you are likely to do it with anyone else. This can really help you get over the anxiety usually associated with this.

[flynn]

Ye but I'm always masturbating and I've tried vibrtors and all,evn d rompant rabbit frm ann sommers don't wrk like? its v embarresin but when I used d rabbit I act thought omg I'm goina and instead I peed lke what d ****s wrng wit me ye know?

[DrJ]

Did it smell like pee? Odds are you weren't actually peeing. It likely was an orgasm. It may be a lot of fluid but don't let that fool you. Female ejaculation is pretty common among women, though most have a hard time doing it. It is a more intense orgasm than most women experience.

[Chery]

ye but im always masturbating n iv tried vibrtors n all,evn d rompant rabbit frm ann sommers dnt wrk like??its v embarresin but wen i used d rabbit i act thought omg im goina and instead i peed lke wat d ****s wrng wit me ye knw??

Dear Flynn, welcome to the forum. Please check the Index and find where you can 'introduce' yourself so that you can be welcomed properly. This forum is one of the best forums you can find, and we'd like to keep it that way. Especially by not interrupting someone else's post and start a new one, even on the same subject, that's OK.

But you don't have exactly the same problem as this young lady does, and I'm sure that she (and may of us here) are not used to the 'chat shorthand' that you have been using. Did you know that there is a spell checker on here? Please be kind enough to use it when possible, so that everyone will understand you. Believe it or not, I have a handy and I don't even use the SMS, as it is pretty childish to me and I like the proper English language just fine, which can be used without brash words too.

Now that I've had my say, hope you don't feel too offended, I hope will will enjoy this forum as we all do and that we can benefit from your input also. Have a good One!

[nero2]

Hi me and my boyfriend have been datting for a few years and been haveing sex for a year and a half, but for some reson i have never had an orgasim before and it's bugging me that i haven't. We have tryed many sites, and positions, and many shows that they show on tv, for helping people with sex stuff. There is nothing that i no of that can help me. Can anyone send me any information or tips on anyway u can help me and b/f
plz contact me on this site or at my email- [email protected]
thank you

I want u to finger yr self using two fingers. Use your middle finger and another finger and insert in there as deep as u can and rise it up and u will feel a lump, it is where the MAIN G SPOT is, about the size of a coin and start rubbing it fast and will have the best orgasm

[maria26]

Your 16 going on 17... your too young to be worried about this... maybe the problem is not your body but your mind. You just might not be comfurtable or ready for all this...

[Miko-chan]

ok thank you for ur suggestions, i will try the finger thing and stuff. And that 21 year old is right, after trying everything u can think of it gets really annoying, and it makes u angry. So far after my break there has been nothing that changed, the only thing is the time i really wanted to have sex with him and i did it my way. It did not hurt. .....But i still didn't have an orgasim

[Dilemma Emma]

I have a similar problem, I'm really new to this... please help

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