[intellectpursues]

Okay so here's my problem. I recently moved from the Southern states to California about 10 months ago.. I used to be an outgoing guy, and a really fun person to be with. I moved out here to southern California, and now all I ever do is sit at home and think! I don't know what's wrong with me.. I always say to myself its because I don't have enough money to go out and do stuff, but can't ever think of what I would want to do anyway. My job is very isolated, because I just sit a computer all day at someone house. I really like my job and all, and don't want to quit it because the schedule will be good for when I start college in the fall. Anyway I'm 21 and I feel like I'm wasting my 20's already, but don't know where to start! I have a few friends out here and we hang out almost every night, but it's always at my house and I never get to attend parties because I don't know anyone who throws them. My friends are all younger than me, and I would go to bars but I guess I just feel weird going out to bars alone. I feel that if I do this much longer, I'm going to lose all of my social skills if I haven't already! So my question is, where do I go to meet new people, and how do I get out of this stupid funk?

[nauticalstar420]

I'm originally from California, so I know what you mean. The best way to meet people there is go to the clubs or to the beach, somewhere where there's a large amount of people, and just mingle! Where in California did you move to? I might be able to give you some tips on some places to go. I'll be moving back there from Florida in a couple of months. Not looking forward to it.

[intellectpursues]

Hey thanks for the answer. I moved to Huntington Beach, Orange County. I have a southern mentality and like to take it easy and all that.. another thing I always tell myself is that people out here are all rude and not trustworthy. I'm not rich by any means, but I make due. I feel weird at clubs because I don't dance or anything like that.. haha I guess I could 2 step? Also if I go to a club alone, I would feel about as awkward as anything. I keep thinking when I start back at school, maybe that's where I'll meet my type of people, but that just seems so long away and I'm just wasting away!

[nauticalstar420]

Oh you will definitely meet people at school. Where are you going? Most of the more mellow and laid back people in California usually hang out at the beach. I live in the south now and I know first hand there is no one like a southerner. They are the most laid back take it easy people I've ever met. The closest thing to the "country" you'll find in California is to go north into the San Joaquin Valley. That's where I'm from. It's the most country you're going to find there.