[Wondergirl]

You're still in high school? Marriage after you graduate?

[DoulaLC]

Last time he had a condom on and we noticed it was ripped. I took the plan B pill to make sure I won't get pregnant. I understand your concern and thank you for your time but all I want to know is if taking that pill could be the reason my period is late.
Also, I bought a two test pregnancy kit. I am thinking of trying one tomorrow morning (7days period late) and one next week. Will that be OK?

Yes, you could try a test tomorrow morning... these days, due to more sensitive tests available, most women will get an accurate result a week after a late period if they are indeed pregnant. Yes, also, the plan B may be the reason this cycle is off. It can throw off your ovulation, which in turn can alter when your period shows up. Again, if you test, and it is negative, wait another week and test again. If still negative, the off cycle is likely due to the plan B (although not a guarantee).

If you are pregnant, do your research on options. If you decide on abortion, learn what is involved for both a medical abortion (which would be more likely in your situation) and a surgical abortion. As was mentioned, planned parenthood has information and you will also find information at most pregnancy centers. They often go over all of your options, pros and cons for short term and long term.

It would be wise to see your doctor, preferably a gynecologist, to discuss your choices in birth control. If you find something that you will use consistently, there are options that you don't have to remember to take such as an implant, you will better protect yourself against an unplanned pregnancy. This would be a very good idea in addition to your boyfriend using a condom. Remember, the condom needs to be on before there is ANY contact with you to be used properly. Also, birth control is not 100% effective, so there will always be a chance of pregnancy even when used correctly. Plan B is meant for the occasional "oops", not for regular use. It is not as effective as if you were on regular birth control.

Hope things turn out well and you have learned some valuable information on how to best protect yourself in this relationship and any future relationships. You have to protect you!

[Nourdib]

You're still in high school? Marriage after you graduate?

I am now entering college and yes we are planning to get married when we both graduate.

Yes, you could try a test tomorrow morning... these days, due to more sensitive tests available, most women will get an accurate result a week after a late period if they are indeed pregnant. Yes, also, the plan B may be the reason this cycle is off. It can throw off your ovulation, which in turn can alter when your period shows up. Again, if you test, and it is negative, wait another week and test again. If still negative, the off cycle is likely due to the plan B (although not a guarantee).

If you are pregnant, do your research on options. If you decide on abortion, learn what is involved for both a medical abortion (which would be more likely in your situation) and a surgical abortion. As was mentioned, planned parenthood has information and you will also find information at most pregnancy centers. They often go over all of your options, pros and cons for short term and long term.

It would be wise to see your doctor, preferably a gynecologist, to discuss your choices in birth control. If you find something that you will use consistently, there are options that you don't have to remember to take such as an implant, you will better protect yourself against an unplanned pregnancy. This would be a very good idea in addition to your boyfriend using a condom. Remember, the condom needs to be on before there is ANY contact with you to be used properly. Also, birth control is not 100% effective, so there will always be a chance of pregnancy even when used correctly. Plan B is meant for the occasional "oops", not for regular use. It is not as effective as if you were on regular birth control.

Hope things turn out well and you have learned some valuable information on how to best protect yourself in this relationship and any future relationships. You have to protect you!

thank you for your time x The thing is I cannot go to any planned parenthood clinic because I do not want my parents finding out and I cannot sneak out because it would be too risky.

[DoulaLC]

I am now entering college and yes we are planning to get married when we both graduate.



thank you for your time x The thing is I cannot go to any planned parenthood clinic because I do not want my parents finding out and I cannot sneak out because it would be too risky.

You really have no choice. If you are pregnant, it will be time to step up and take a big leap into adulthood. It won't be easy, but best thing, if you are pregnant, would be to tell your parents, or perhaps one of them first. No doubt they won't be pleased, but most of the time, parents have a way of coming around and helping you after they get over the initial shock.

An excellent rule of thumb for future use: If you are considering doing something that you have to be sneaky with, i.e.. Sex, it likely isn't something you should be doing, no matter how good it feels or what a boyfriend might say... right? An important lesson to learn is that sometimes, actually many times, you have to think with your head and not your heart, or other body parts!

[talaniman]

I thank you for your time x The thing is I cannot go to any planned parenthood clinic because I do not want my parents finding out and I cannot sneak out because it would be too risky.

You have made time for sex multiple times, but cannot make time for the proper medical check ups and advice? You INTEND to sneak away and have an abortion, but cannot go to a clinic for prevention? You are looking to go to college, yet know nothing of the basics of responsible sex?

How many abortions are you willing to have? You must know you are playing with FIRE, and even if you escape getting burned this time, you could be pregnant NEXT month, or the next. Wise up and stop counting on dumb luck.

[Nourdib]

I asked for advice not a lesson specially not in a harsh way...

[ScottGem]

I asked for advice not a lesson specially not in a harsh way...

You are getting advice. Which you appear to be ignoring, which is why the harshness of our responses. Did you not listen when I said you could go to PP for a CONFIDENTIAL consultation? Your parents do not have to know. But if you don't speak to the proper people you will find yourself in more trouble.

Even if you have been together 4 years now, you are still teenagers. The odds of your relationship lasting through college are not that great. Maybe you will buck the trend maybe you won't.

[Nourdib]

The thing is, I do not live in america I am just here for the summer and I cant go out on my own because my parents won't let me, because I don't know places here, they don't want me lost. So I really cant go to PP. I don't know where to get help from

[Wondergirl]

The thing is, I do not live in america I am just here for the summer and I cant go out on my own because my parents won't let me, because I don't know places here, they don't want me lost. So I really cant go to PP. I don't know where to get help from

How have you found opportunities for sex?

So now what will you do?

[DoulaLC]

First things first... determine whether you are pregnant. The whole issue of what to do next may be a non issue.

[Nourdib]

When we have sex, I am in my home town and he comes over it is way easier there. We don't do it often because we have been distancing for about two years so we only do it when he visits. Abortion is illegal there.
I don't know what I'm going to do..

First things first... determine whether you are pregnant. The whole issue of what to do next may be a non issue.

I am praying to get my period tomorrow, if not I will test. If its negative and still no period I will test again a week later. If its positive I will tell my stepmom and see if she can help. She isn't very friendly so I don't know how that will go.

[Nourdib]

Also, I don't know if this can affect my situation but I just thought about it. Last time I had sex was 2 days after my period, on the 20/6/15 I did not have sex after that. For a few days after intercourse, I noticed little of blood but I said to myself it could be just due to contact. And for a week after, I had the urge to pee even when there was no pee, I told my stepmom she said it might be UTI (urinary tract infection). So I drank a lot of water and then it stopped. Can this be affecting the delay of my period? I don't think so but I'm just asking to make sure.

[ScottGem]

There are many things that can affect your period. There is no way that anyone, without a medical exam, can tell you anything for sure. We can only tell you possibilities.

It would help us help you if you tell us where you live normally and where you are now.

[Nourdib]

I tested this morning it was negative, but I still don't have my period. I am at the moment in Florida but only staying here for two more weeks. I live in dubai/kuwait where abortion and any sexual intercourse is illegal.

I read online that the plan B pill can mess up my cycle and that things might not go back to normal until a few month later. Is that right? Could that be it?

[ScottGem]

Yes it could be. Whether that's the reason we can't say.

If you are pregnant, and it does seem more unlikely now, You have to determine this before you have to go back. And 2 weeks is really not enough time. You NEED to see a physician to determine before you go back.

[J_9]

If you were able to create an explanation to get away from your parents to have sex, you should be creative enough to come up with an excuse to get away long enough to go to Planned Parenthood.

[Nourdib]

I did not create an excuse to have sex, he came over while my parents were out. Plus I am not really free here since my parents consider that I don't know the streets etc.
I will wait until next week to test again, if it is negative but still no period, should I get a blood test (that will be a bit hard cause I will have to tell my stepmom) or should I just wait until I travel?

[DoulaLC]

Most likely you aren't pregnant, but a blood test would give you peace of mind, so it's up to you. Obviously it apparently means that you will have to make your stepmom aware of your having had sex... and I understand that is also a concern.

Given that this would be a major issue where you live, would your boyfriend stand by you if you did happen to become pregnant?

I truly hope you aren't pregnant, and that you have learned important lessons from the experience. Mostly that it would be in your best interest, all around, to not have sex until you are in circumstances where a possible pregnancy would not be an issue. You are the one who has control over that... be wise.

[Nourdib]

It is very hard for me right now to make a decision. I can either wait until I go back to kuwait but then abortion would not be an option. Or I could tell her and get checked as soon as possible.

My boyfriend is willing to stay no matter what, he will get in trouble as well but he feels like its his fault ( even though its both our fault) and he feels responsible. He is willing to help financially as well.

I only see him twice a year so I am not really sexually active. We usually use a condom anyway. But I will start taking more precautions or maybe stop.

What do you think would be best? Wait until I travel or get checked now but then id have to tell my stepmom which will get me lots of problems. Again I am not really close with her, she can use it against me with my dad...

[Wondergirl]

If you don't get your period and return to Kuwait, find out you're pregnant, then what?