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    Sep 18, 2013, 06:20 PM
    Waited too long to propose? Do I have a chance still?
    We were dating for over 7 years. I love her, but did not tell her that I wanted to marry her or see a future together. I assumed she knew. She tried to talk about marriage, but I didn't want to talk about it, was not ready to talk about it, even though I knew I wanted to marry her. I never told her that simple thing. I feel so foolish for not saying it.

    She said that she lost her feelings for me and that things will not change. Things that bug her, like little things doing stuff before dinner and letting the food get cold. Things that I could change and want to change knowing how much it bugged her. I think it's all that stuff building up and me not proposing. I want to propose, not just to get her back, but to do something that I know I wanted to do and should have done. I was waiting for a good time to do it, but I've heard there's never really a good time.

    Can someone lose her feelings for someone who she wanted to marry? She said she doesn't see a future for us anymore. Should I wait?

    We haven't talked since we broke up a few days ago. I'm dying inside to want to tell her that I still lover her and want to marry her. I do want to marry her.
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    Sep 18, 2013, 06:41 PM
    Why should she believe you after taking her for granted for so long? It may well be too little to late, but you know her better than we do. Or should.
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    Sep 18, 2013, 06:51 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Why should she believe you after taking her for granted for so long? It may well be too little to late, but you know her better than we do. Or should.
    Yes I realize that and deserved that comment. Could she be saying something and wanting me to do something and take action? I did feel that she had her mind made up but I also don't think she could have no feelings or have it all gone.
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    Sep 18, 2013, 06:55 PM
    Just because you don't believe it doesn't mean her feelings haven't been changing for a long time. You probably never noticed and thought everything was A okay
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    Sep 18, 2013, 07:55 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Just because you don't believe it doesn't mean her feelings haven't been changing for a long time. You probably never noticed and thought everything was A okay
    What should I do? I've read about no contact. Does that apply for someone coming out of a 7 yr relationship? Is it truly over? I know I messed up. I've feeling with some family matters as well and took her for granted.
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    Sep 19, 2013, 12:03 AM
    'Can someone lose her feelings for someone who she wanted to marry?'

    Of course! The fact that you even ask shows that you just don't get it. And you didn't even protest that you would marry her the day she broke up with you. Too late now...

    If you think you have what it takes to go to her on bended knee with flowers and a list of ways you will no longer take her for granted, and a promise to marry her instantly, as soon as she says, and beg and plead and proclaim all the ways you love her, and keep doing this for as long as she wants, since once might not be enough, then do so. But I don't think you have the right stuff.

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