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    #141

    Jun 14, 2013, 02:42 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Her parents would not know she is scared.
    If the girl is so incompetent as you keep describing then she is in no way capable of making a medical decision on her own. If she doesn't "know" how to express fear and how to handle it then she isn't of a mindset to make a decision of such magnitude.
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    #142

    Jun 14, 2013, 02:45 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by cdad View Post
    If the girl is so incompetent as you keep describing then she is in no way capable of making a medical decision on her own. If she doesnt "know" how to express fear and how to handle it then she isnt of a mindset to make a decision of such magnitude.
    And that was the answer we were looking for.
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    #143

    Jun 14, 2013, 02:47 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by cdad View Post
    If the girl is so incompetent as you keep describing then she is in no way capable of making a medical decision on her own. If she doesnt "know" how to express fear and how to handle it then she isnt of a mindset to make a decision of such magnitude.
    Tell me if you can imagine any 13-year-old girl who wouldn't be scared out of her wits and afraid to tell her parents she's been having sex and is now pregnant.

    So then what?
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    #144

    Jun 14, 2013, 02:48 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by speechlesstx View Post
    And that was the answer we were looking for.
    Nope. We're only halfway there.
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    #145

    Jun 14, 2013, 02:49 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Tell me if you can imagine any 13-year-old girl who wouldn't be scared out of her wits and afraid to tell her parents she's been having sex and is now pregnant.

    So then what?
    Then she can as was stated tell her story to the courts and seek an abortion. That is her fear and she will have to deal with it. But if she is that afraid it sounds like DNA testing will be ordered after the baby arrives.
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    #146

    Jun 14, 2013, 02:53 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by cdad View Post
    Then she can as was stated tell her story to the courts and seek an abortion. That is her fear and she will have to deal with it. But if she is that afraid it sounds like DNA testing will be ordered after the baby arrives.
    What?? What courts? She is hiding in her bedroom after school and avoiding her parents.

    DNA testing for what?
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    #147

    Jun 14, 2013, 02:53 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Nope. We're only halfway there.
    Maybe not you but I'm good.
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    #148

    Jun 14, 2013, 02:56 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    What??? What courts? She is hiding in her bedroom after school and avoiding her parents.

    DNA testing for what?
    Child support for the baby. Duh !
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    #149

    Jun 14, 2013, 02:56 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by speechlesstx View Post
    Maybe not you but I'm good.
    The girl is still pregnant and her parents don't know.
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    #150

    Jun 14, 2013, 02:58 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by cdad View Post
    Child support for the baby. Duh !
    We're still miles away from child support. Only the girl knows she is pregnant. The parents are clueless.

    So what does the girl do?

    Duh back at you.
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    #151

    Jun 14, 2013, 02:59 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    What??? What courts? She is hiding in her bedroom after school and avoiding her parents.

    DNA testing for what?
    OK I'll play along a little more. What if she goes to her "loving grandma" who so generously takes her across state lines where the parents don't have to know, she ends up in a clinic like Gosnell's. The poor girl is now literally scared out of her wits as he pulls the baby out with forceps, snips the breathing, crying infant's neck while the girl bleeds out and dies.

    Who's going to bring the daughter back? Who's going to restore the broken relationship between grandma and the grieving, horrified parents?
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    #152

    Jun 14, 2013, 03:02 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    We're still miles away from child support. Only the girl knows she is pregnant. The parents are clueless.

    Duh back at ya.
    Actually I think your clueless in what your trying to present. There are ways to circumvent the parental consent laws. Those are already in place. But if this "girl" is so paralyzed with fear that she can not act nor can think then she will end up carrying the child.

    Its not rocket science. Its how the law works and how parental consent is involved. If your trying to present a case of abusive parents then she will be whisked away by the system and taken care of. That's why they have 911.

    If your trying to present her as helpless as the child she is carrying then your out of luck.
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    #153

    Jun 14, 2013, 03:03 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by speechlesstx View Post
    OK I'll play along a little more. What if she goes to her "loving grandma" who so generously takes her across state lines where the parents don't have to know, she ends up in a clinic like Gosnell's. The poor girl is now literally scared out of her wits as he pulls the baby out with forceps, snips the breathing, crying infant's neck while the girl bleeds out and dies.

    Who's going to bring the daughter back? Who's going to restore the broken relationship between grandma and the grieving, horrified parents?
    No one will be able to bring the daughter back. The relationship will never be restored.

    Now, with your Stephen King mind tagging along, let's go back to the girl hiding in her bedroom. What else could happen? What can she do?
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    #154

    Jun 14, 2013, 03:05 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    No one will be able to bring the daughter back. The relationship will never be restored.

    Now, with your Stephen King mind tagging along, let's go back to the girl hiding in her bedroom. What else could happen? What can she do?
    She either reaches out or stands alone. Its not up to me. How are you presenting this girl to be?
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    #155

    Jun 14, 2013, 03:06 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by cdad View Post
    Actually I think your clueless in what your trying to present. There are ways to circumvent the parental consent laws. Those are already in place. But if this "girl" is so paralyzed with fear that she can not act nor can think then she will end up carrying the child.

    Its not rocket science. Its how the law works and how parental consent is involved. If your trying to present a case of abusive parents then she will be whisked away by the system and taken care of. Thats why they have 911.

    If your trying to present her as helpless as the child she is carrying then your out of luck.
    There is no parental consent or legal anything yet in this situation. Who does this pregnant girl go to (probably AMHD... )?
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    #156

    Jun 14, 2013, 03:07 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by cdad View Post
    She either reaches out or stands alone. Its not up to me. How are you presenting this girl to be?
    Aaaah, I LOVE you. Who does she reach out to?
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    #157

    Jun 14, 2013, 03:08 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Aaaah, I LOVE you. Who does she reach out to?
    You pick. Its your girl.
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    #158

    Jun 14, 2013, 03:10 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by cdad View Post
    You pick. Its your girl.
    No, I think she is speech's. Can't remember who created her.

    I would hope she would confide in a trusted adult (teacher, aunt, etc.) who would have her best interests at heart.
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    #159

    Jun 14, 2013, 05:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    No, I think she is speech's. Can't remember who created her.

    I would hope she would confide in a trusted adult (teacher, aunt, etc.) who would have her best interests at heart.
    Anyone but the mom and/or dad, the people who love her most and know her better than anyone, right?
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    #160

    Jun 14, 2013, 05:23 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by speechlesstx View Post
    Anyone but the mom and/or dad, the people who love her most and know her better than anyone, right?
    Yes, that is usually what happens. Hopefully (ah, hope!), they will notice her distress and weight gain, and gently question her.

    But if that doesn't happen, then what can she do?

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