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    May 22, 2013, 06:47 PM
    Why would he bother to offer something to her family?
    My husband's mistress's son needed to have a suit jacket. Since my hubby and he are about same size, he told me he told his ex mistress he can just wear his. The affair is over so is my husband genuine?

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    May 22, 2013, 06:48 PM
    If the affair is over why is he in contact with her and/or lending her clothing for herself or her son?

    You have posted numerous questions, opened numerous threads about his relationship with this woman. I have no idea what you expect anyone to say. I think it's all been said - except, of course, why you put up with his nonsense and still haven't left.

    I find 25 threads on the subject.

    Of course, your AMHD profile states you are single and ready to mingle, so maybe you deserve each other. You both choose when to and when not to present yourself as married.
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    May 22, 2013, 06:58 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    If the affair is over why is he in contact with her and/or lending her clothing for herself or her son?

    You have posted numerous questions, opened numerous threads about his relationship with this woman. I have no idea what you expect anyone to say. I think it's all been said - except, of course, why you put up with his nonsense and still haven't left.

    I find 25 threads on the subject.

    Of course, your AMHD profile states you are single and ready to mingle, so maybe you deserve each other. You both choose when to and when not to present yourself as married.
    You really think that was a big deal to throw him out.He only offered being nice
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    May 22, 2013, 08:34 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by lisa1471 View Post
    You really think that was a big deal to throw him out.He only offered being nice
    If he was only being nice, why are you worried?

    If you doubt his loyalty, why are you with him?

    I think you need to decide what you believe and go from there.

    If you believe and trust him, stay and work on your marriage.

    If you suspect he was kind because the affair is still on-going, leave him or kick him out.

    It all comes down to what you believe and want. That isn't something we can decide for you.
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    May 22, 2013, 11:51 PM
    Both responses above cover it all, but I'm still curious - is this the husband you divorced in October of 2011, or a new one? That one was a cheater too.
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    May 23, 2013, 04:42 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    Both responses above cover it all, but I'm still curious - is this the husband you divorced in October of 2011, or a new one? That one was a cheater too.
    Ate they really just want to make sure he was only being nice that's all.
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    May 23, 2013, 05:02 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by lisa1471 View Post
    Ate they really just want to make sure he was only being nice that's all.
    Me thinks you didn't answer the question on the table...
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    May 23, 2013, 05:10 AM
    Methinks thus has it always been -

    Now moving on to the 26th thread...
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    May 23, 2013, 10:09 AM
    It's his son, he is supposed to look out for him.
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    May 23, 2013, 10:25 AM
    I have a friend who used to call me up and rant about how awful her husband was. If I so much as mmmmed in agreement, she would hang up on me in anger for maligning her husband.

    You want to know if your husband is genuine, and then defend his actions.
    There's your answer. You just wanted the chance to do that.
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    May 23, 2013, 11:10 AM
    I think this is, at best, a strange relationship.

    Is OP married? Single? Different husband? Same husband?

    How many more threads before they are combined? I'm tired of reading back threads to find out what's going on - all 23 (give or take) of them.
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    May 23, 2013, 02:38 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Oliver2011 View Post
    Me thinks you didn't answer the question on the table...
    Huh?
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    May 23, 2013, 02:40 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    I think this is, at best, a strange relationship.

    Is OP married? Single? Different husband? Same husband?

    How many more threads before they are combined? I'm tired of reading back threads to find out what's going on - all 23 (give or take) of them.
    Don't know where your going with this just stick to current. Much easier.
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    May 23, 2013, 02:42 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    It's his son, he is supposed to look out for him.
    Where did you read its his son.Mistress's son and he's grown man.what are you talking about? I would have said his kid with his mistress.No he don't have to loom out.#1 he's grown # 2 not his son

    Quote Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    I have a friend who used to call me up and rant about how awful her husband was. If I so much as mmmmed in agreement, she would hang up on me in anger for maligning her husband.

    You want to know if your husband is genuine, and then defend his actions.
    There's your answer. You just wanted the chance to do that.
    No busy wanted to know the reason that's all.

    Just want to know the reason
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    May 23, 2013, 03:23 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by lisa1471 View Post
    Just want to know the reason
    The reason for what? Your "husband" cheating or why you are putting up with it and him?
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    May 23, 2013, 03:39 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Cat1864 View Post
    The reason for what? Your "husband" cheating or why you are putting up with it and him?
    If you actually go back through her posts... you will see that not only does the husband cheat, but she does as well. This relationship is an absolute mess.
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    May 23, 2013, 03:49 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by lisa1471 View Post
    Just want to know the reason
    Know the reason he offered to lend the mistresses son the jacket? We're not psychic. Ask him why he offered. Ask him why he still talks to this woman. Ask yourself why you're still with him, and why both of you can't seem to be faithful to each other. We can't help you with any of this, you have to put on your big girl panties and figure this out yourself.
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    May 23, 2013, 06:09 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    Know the reason he offered to lend the mistresses son the jacket? We're not psychic. Ask him why he offered. Ask him why he still talks to this woman. Ask yourself why you're still with him, and why both of you can't seem to be faithful to each other. We can't help you with any of this, you have to put on your big girl panties and figure this out yourself.
    Thank you for your advice! Much better now
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    May 24, 2013, 04:16 AM
    It must be very difficult to forgive someone who cheats. Trusting that person again would be very difficult as well because you never forget. Not sure I could be the forgiving type.
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    #20

    May 24, 2013, 01:57 PM
    Ask him why he did it, also ask him why he's still talking to her?

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