[zoebenson]

How do I get my boyfriend back? Its officially been three weeks sense we broke up (21 days) he broke up with me because he was really stressed out and he has a lot going on with his family he said "he just can't do it right now" the day after we broke up he came over to get his stuff.. we were together for 6 months and he pretty much lived with me for 2.. When he came to get his stuff we talked for like 10 minutes and all he really said was he "needs time to get his head straight" I asked him if we could work things out and all but he said he couldn't do it right now.. I hadn't talked to him sense until 2 days ago, I ran into him in town he was with a bunch of his friends and I wasn't even going to talk to him until his friend called me over.. I ended up going over talking for like 2 seconds and giving him something I still had that belonged to him.. I still have some of his other stuff and he has mine but he doesn't want to talk to me.. I don't know why, really I have done absolutely nothing wrong he broke up with me completely out of the blue and for pretty much no reason at all.. he said I could just give his stuff to out mutual friend and hed do the same with mine... but I don't want that I want to actually be able to talk to him.. at the very least to just know what happened, the only time I've seen him he was with hs friends, I still love him more than anything and being near him scares me so bad, I was so nervous I was skahing SOO hard when I was talking to him, I love him so much, truly I do but when I'm near him I just feel like he's going to shut me down or he hates me or something, I don't know what to do.. please help, that's my story but I need to know how I can get him back.. I know he still loves me he said so when he came to get his stuff he sat down on my bed and said "he didnt want to leave yet" and when he was leaving he was like "i love you, ill call you tonight" he didn't call.. but for a good reason and he texted me to explain but after that, we hadn't talked sense.. what do I do??

[maryanne44]

Simply give him the time he is asking for. I know it's hard but if its meant to be he is going to come back on his own and ultimately that is what you want. You don't want to beg someone to come back if they don't want to. Things will be okay. Try to refrain from texting or calling him first. If he does try to intiate conversation with you and you want to respond do it. You don't want to let him walk all over you. If you want to be there for him let him know this since it sounds like he is going through a lot. Just try to stay calm and not force things.

[zoebenson]

I found out last night I guess he's seeing someone now.. which is :( killing me.. im so sad all the time and that just made it sooooo much worse.. I want to still get him back I just don't know how, its killing me.. :(

[Jiser]

No Contact.

Plan your next few weeks so your busy!!

[zoebenson]

I'm trying I've been going to the gym a lot and focusing on school but really I just can't get him out of my head.. I know this sounds like super immature but he literally is like everything to me.. I really truly love him with my whole heart.. any tips on how I can actually get him back?

[Jiser]

im trying ive been going to the gym alot and focusing on school but really i just can't get him out of my head.. i know this sounds like super immature but he litterally is like everything to me.. i really truely love him with my whole heart.. any tips on how i can actually get him back?

There is nothing you can do but let him go and stay busy. If things are getting too much go see a therapist.

Whatever you do, do not contact him.

[zoebenson]

Do you think he will come back though? I don't know what to do without him honestly he's ALWAYS on my mind and I can't stand that were not together now.. godd I just need him back seriously..