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    #21

    Oct 14, 2012, 06:09 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by AustinSanders View Post
    Even if all of these things happen, will I still be able to see my child? The baby won't be taken from her, right?
    We have no idea what your situation is like concerning the baby. Most likely the parents may take over the child and also get a restraining order against you to keep you away from their daughter. Then when your done with one court you can start filing in the other for visitation.

    Also your going to be paying child support the whole time.
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    Oct 14, 2012, 06:10 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by AustinSanders View Post
    It was consensual, and we are planning on staying together and raising the child. Can they take the baby away? Kids younger then us are having babies, she's 16 in less than 2 months, I'm just confused as to why this would happen.. What, in your opinion, do you think the judge will do?
    It doesn't matter if she consented, she's not legal to consent. Read Scott's post again. The legal age of consent is 17. She's not even 16.

    You're confused why it would happen? It will happen because you broke the law.

    We don't know what the judge will do, only the judge knows.
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    Oct 14, 2012, 06:10 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by AustinSanders View Post
    ... What, in your opinion, do you think the judge will do?
    Follow the recommendation of the probation officer.
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    Oct 14, 2012, 06:10 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by califdadof3 View Post
    We have no idea what your situation is like concerning the baby. Most likely the parents may take over the child and also get a restraining order against you to keep you away from their daughter. Then when your done with one court you can start filing in the other for visitation.

    Also your going to be paying child support the whole time.
    Her parents already know I'm already allowed to be around her
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    Oct 14, 2012, 06:13 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by AustinSanders View Post
    Her parents already know i'm already allowed to be around her
    Wow, no wonder their daughter is pregnant, they let a horny 16 year old boy, that's already in trouble with the law, around their daughter, even after he molested her and got her pregnant. Way to go mom and dad (sarcasm). :(

    The thing is, she'll have to give birth in a hospital, and in order to do that they'll need her info, which includes her age. It's not up to her horrible parents whether you're charged. It's up to the state.
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    Oct 14, 2012, 06:19 PM
    So by law, its molestation. I understand that. But morally, that doesn't make me stereotypical child molester or rapist or bad person because child molesters are bad people and you are correct I'm just a horny 16 year old boy like every other 16 year old boy on this planet. Also, her or her parents are not bad people and We've been dating for 3 years now and this is the only incident where this has happened.
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    Oct 14, 2012, 06:22 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by AustinSanders View Post
    So by law, its molestation. I understand that. But morally, that doesn't make her or her parents bad people and i'd appreciate it if you would act your age and be respectful. We've been dating for 3 years now and this is the only incident where this has happened. So excuse you and your rude manner.
    You dated a 12 year old girl for 3 years, had sex with her, her parents allowed it, and still allow you, a guy that at the very least molested their daughter and is already on probation, to still be around her when you got her pregnant at 15, and I'm being rude?

    LMAO! That's cute.

    No need to excuse me, I got it right the first time. :)
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    Oct 14, 2012, 06:24 PM
    You helped me find the legal information I was looking for so now you may keep your rude comments to yourself and help someone else. Thank you and have a nice day.
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    Oct 14, 2012, 06:25 PM
    As noted it doesn't matter whether it was consenual or not, since shewas not legally able to give consent.

    And yes her parents could be in trouble ifthey knowingly allowed you to engage in sexual intercourse.

    Whether the child will be taken away or not, we can't judge without knowing more. But given the fact that you are already in legal trouble, I wouldn't be surprised if your PO tries to keep you away.
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    Oct 14, 2012, 06:27 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    As noted it doesn't matter whether it was consenual or not, since shewas not legally able to give consent.

    And yes her parents could be in trouble ifthey knowingly allowed you to engage in sexual intercourse.

    Whether the child will be taken away or not, we can't judge without knowing more. But given the fact that you are already in legal trouble, I wouldn't be surprised if your PO tries to keep you away.
    Her parents did not give us permission to engage in sexual intercourse, they just know that she is pregnant.
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    Oct 14, 2012, 06:32 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by AustinSanders View Post
    You helped me find the legal information I was looking for so now you may keep your rude comments to yourself and help someone else. Thank you and have a nice day.
    I'm not being rude at all, I'm telling you the facts, you just don't want to hear them, which isn't surprising as you're only 16.

    Fact is, you don't dictate who answers this thread. If I choose to continue posting, that's my right.

    What you don't want to accept is that having sex with her wasn't legal. Her parents have no say in whether you'll be charged for getting a 15 year old girl pregnant. It's in the hands of the state now. That's the bottom line, and no matter how much you disagree, it's not up to you. The law is the law.
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    Oct 14, 2012, 06:36 PM
    I'm not denying it at all. I'm just asking you don't say rude things about her parents and not call me a molester because people that molest people are bad and I'm not a bad person.
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    Oct 14, 2012, 06:44 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by AustinSanders View Post
    I'm not denying it at all. I'm just asking you don't say rude things about her parents and not call me a molester because people that molest people are bad and I'm not a bad person.
    I never said that you're a bad person, but, according to the law, you are a molester. Do you not realize that? No one on this thread said that you molested her, or raped her, that she didn't say yes to sex. But her saying yes doesn't matter. That's what you're not understanding. In the eyes of the law you are a molester, or a rapist. In the eyes of the law.

    There are people that had consensual sex with an underage person, and they're on a sex offenders registry for the rest of their life, because legally what they did, it's rape. Did they physically rape someone, force someone to have sex? No. But, legally it's rape, because the person they had consensual sex with, wasn't legally old enough to consent to sex.

    Let me put it this way. If the legal age to drive a car is 16, and you go drive a car when you're 14, without a license, even a learners permit, and you get caught, you broke the law. It doesn't matter if you know how to drive. It doesn't matter if your mom and dad gave you the keys to the car and told you to take it. The law is that you can't drive, so you'll be charged.

    You got a 15 year old girl pregnant, and the legal age of consent for sex, where you live, is 17. Do the math. No one is going to believe that she got pregnant without having sex. So, you're on the hook, and they could throw the whole book at you, it's a grey area. At the very least you could be charged as a child molester, at the very worst you could be charged with statutory rape. That's what you're dealing with here.

    If you find the truth to be rude, that's too bad. If you're charged, the judge will likely say far worse than anything I could ever say to you. So get used to it.
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    #34

    Oct 14, 2012, 06:46 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by AustinSanders View Post
    I'm not denying it at all. I'm just asking you don't say rude things about her parents and not call me a molester because people that molest people are bad and I'm not a bad person.
    And that is an excellent example of circular reasoning, and a logical fallacy.. (Molesters are bad; I'm not bad; so I am not a molester.) By your own admission, you are guilty of child molestation. That, by definition, makes you a child molester.
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    Oct 14, 2012, 06:51 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by AK lawyer View Post
    And that is an excellent example of circular reasoning, and a logical fallacy.. (Molesters are bad; I'm not bad; so I am not a molester.) By your own admission, you are guilty of child molestation. That, by definition, makes you a child molester.
    True, but, that doesn't make him a bad person, it just means he made very bad decisions, which sadly will end up costing him for the rest of his life.

    A bad person is someone that molests someone, or rapes someone, with malicious intent, without consent.

    There is a distinction between a "legal" molester, and "molester".

    I do understand what the OP is saying. He is a molester, because the girl he got pregnant isn't of legal age to have sex. But, he's not someone that willingly and maliciously molested a child, or raped someone.

    Doesn't change the law, but, I do get what he's saying. I think we all do. Sadly that won't help him at all. He did the crime, even if he's not a bad person and didn't physically hurt this girl, it's still a crime. That's what he has to understand. In the eyes of the world, if he's convicted, he will be labeled a molester or a rapist, for the rest of his life.

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