[Juicy09]

So I have this friend... she started sleeping with an engaged man a few months before the wedding... it was just suppose to be sexual but OF COURSE their "feelings" got involved... they began to pull away from each other 3 weeks before the wedding date smh sadly his fiancé found out and called off the wedding... although he cheated his fiancé is still willing to try and work on the relationship BUT he is still in a sideline "relationship" with my friend claiming he loves them both but he is not wiling to leave his girlfriend for my friend so my best friend is trying to convince him to tell his girlfriend about them before she finds out again but we don't believe he will... and I guess she's trying to pull away from him because I'm telling her "hang on to him for what?!?!" you'd be his 2nd option if his girlfriend leaves him... and just like he cheated on her he'd do it to you

[JudyKayTee]

so i have this friend...she started sleeping with an engaged man a few months before the wedding...it was just suppose to be sexual but OF COURSE their "feelings" got involved...they began to pull away from each other 3 weeks before the wedding date smh sadly his fiancé found out and called off the wedding...although he cheated his fiancé is still willing to try and work on the relationship BUT he is still in a sideline "relationship" with my friend claiming he loves them both but he is not wiling to leave his girlfriend for my friend so my best friend is trying to convince him to tell his gf about them before she finds out again but we don't believe he will...and i guess she's trying to pull away from him because i'm telling her "hang on to him for what?!?!" you'd be his 2nd option if his gf leaves him...and just like he cheated on her he'd do it to you

Why are you so involved in this?

I don't know that it's "sad" that his fiancé found out he was cheating and canceled the wedding. Better now than later.

I don't really understand your concern here - your friend will make her own choices. She had no problem having a sexual relationship with an engaged man. Nothing you say is going to change her moral compass.

[Juicy09]

Why are you so involved in this?

I don't know that it's "sad" that his fiance found out he was cheating and canceled the wedding. Better now than later.

I don't really understand your concern here - your friend will make her own choices. She had no problem having a sexual relationship with an engaged man. Nothing you say is going to change her moral compass.

I'm involved because she put me in it we're best friends & we tell each other everything she's constantly asking for my advice & when people are going through things emotionally, they need someone to talk to if they can't tell anyone else what's going on... asking me why I'm involved is going to change the fact that I am... now moving on I have helped her and my "involvement" (as you put it) has made a huge difference on her out look now but it's still a stupid situation she put herself in but who knows maybe someone can think of something to tell me to say that might have an impact on her & when I said sad I was talking about the fiancé her heart was broken so that's sad to me

[JudyKayTee]

I'm involved because she put me in it we're best friends & we tell each other everything she's constantly asking for my advice & when people are going through things emotionally, they need some1 to talk to if they can't tell anyone else what's going on ...asking me why I'm involved is gonna change the fact that I am...now moving on I have helped her and my "involvement" (as u put it) has made a huge difference on her out look now but it's still a stupid situation she put herself in but who knows maybe some1 can think of something to tell me to say that might have an impact on her & when I said sad I was talking about the fiance her heart was broken so that's sad to me

I have must missed something - how did your outlook change things? I thought she was still involved with him, and he's still involved with his fiancé?

What am I missing?

Your best friend cheated with another woman's fiancé - I understand the "best friends" part but...

[Juicy09]

Why are you so involved in this?

I don't know that it's "sad" that his fiance found out he was cheating and canceled the wedding. Better now than later.

I don't really understand your concern here - your friend will make her own choices. She had no problem having a sexual relationship with an engaged man. Nothing you say is going to change her moral compass.

And maybe it's just me but as far as my friends & family... when they aren't doing well in life it does "concern" me because I would want someone to be concerned about me and because I love her it still pisses me off but I love her

[JudyKayTee]

And maybe it's just me but as far as my friends & family...when they aren't doing well in life it does "concern" me because I would want some1 to be concerned about me and because I love her it still pisses me off but I love her

I get that - my friends are still my friends whether I'm being stupid or they're being stupid.

If you weren't able to talk her out of the affair some time ago why do you think you can change that now?

[Juicy09]

I get that - my friends are still my friends whether I'm being stupid or they're being stupid.

If you weren't able to talk her out of the affair some time ago why do you think you can change that now?

Oh it most definitely has because at 1st she would say things like "I dont wanna share him I wanna marry him" blah blah after dealing with her & talking to her now she's trying to ignore him (says that it's hard because she loves him) now she says things like "I just wanna move on get off the emotional roller coaster" etc I've also gave her tips on how to move on from someone that she necessarily didn't know so I have made a difference believe it or not & I did not find out about the affair until it was already happening she kept it a secret at 1st but I mean your right I haven't been able to completely get her to stop messing with him... but her mindset about it is changing & before any actions take place, in life, it starts with the mind soooo I'm hoping something's happen... they've broken up a few times to try to end it & yea they still messed around but before me they weren't even trying to stop

[Juicy09]

I get that - my friends are still my friends whether I'm being stupid or they're being stupid.

If you weren't able to talk her out of the affair some time ago why do you think you can change that now?

Also my career is in counseling people so that's probably just how I am I don't mind being involved in people's issues lol I have to keep trying to help them mentally & emotionally if they keep coming for help even if the actions are still the same

[Wondergirl]

Also my career is in counseling people

As a friend or with a master's degree or Ph.D.

[JudyKayTee]

As a friend or with a master's degree or Ph.D.?

I was going to ask that.

At any rate maybe if you slap all the interested parties, just to get their attention.

I'd be counselling her on how she could "do that" to another woman!

[Juicy09]

As a friend or with a master's degree or Ph.D.?

As a friend, haven't got the masters yet but I was just saying helping people in this way is a passion & I guess that's why whenever my friends come to me with their issues I try to stay pro active

[Wondergirl]

As a friend, haven't got the masters yet

You're in a master's program now?

[Juicy09]

I was going to ask that.

At any rate maybe if you slap all the interested parties, just to get their attention.

I'd be counselling her on how she could "do that" to another woman!

Lol I would love too! But she knows karma is coming for her she tells me that all the time & tell her it most certainly is smh

[Juicy09]

You're in a master's program now?

No I'm taking a break before I go back although I probably shouldn't.. but I won't wait too long

[Wondergirl]

No I'm taking a break before I go back although I probably shouldn't..but I won't wait too long

So you were in one? I am just curious, based on some of your comments. Am interested in which program.

[Juicy09]

So you were in one? I am just curious, based on some of your comments. Am interested in which program.

No I haven't gotten in a program yet

[JudyKayTee]

No I haven't gotten in a program yet

Here's an off topic question - my minor was Psychology. Do you need a Bachelors in Psychology and then you enter a masters program?

[Wondergirl]

Here's an off topic question - my minor was Psychology. Do you need a Bachelors in Psychology and then you enter a masters program?

You can have a bachelor's in anything. Mine was in Elem Education/British & Amer Lit. I had to pick up two undergrad courses (Theory of Personalities and Abnormal Psych) during my master's. I had had two psych courses (Ed. Psych and Gen. Psych) in undergrad but needed those other two also for the master's. In my program were students from many different careers and disciplines.

[Juicy09]

Here's an off topic question - my minor was Psychology. Do you need a Bachelors in Psychology and then you enter a masters program?

You have to have a bachelors to enter any masters program but you don't have to have a bachelors in psychology to get a masters in psychology... you can get a masters in just about anything regardless of the undergrad major/degree

[JudyKayTee]

You can have a bachelor's in anything. Mine was in Elem Education/British & Amer Lit. I had to pick up two undergrad courses (Theory of Personalities and Abnormal Psych) during my master's. I had had two psych courses (Ed. Psych and Gen. Psych) in undergrad but needed those other two also for the master's. In my program were students from many different careers and disciplines.

My major was English and I got into law school. My stepdaughter's was theatre arts (whatever that is. She ran around in tights and a sweatshirt a lot with her hair in a ponytail and "interpreted" things through dance. I think her major shortened my late husband's life. He couldn't believe his eyes).

She got into law school.

Who knows?