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    Aug 2, 2012, 08:11 AM
    My husband has cheated online, how do I rebuild our relationship?
    My husband has been unfaithful, using online forums. We want to move past this and rediscover the intimacy between us. We are going to start 'date nights', but has anyone any other suggestions?
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    Aug 2, 2012, 08:23 AM
    So did he actually ever meet anyone face to face?
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    Aug 2, 2012, 09:02 AM
    You seem to have a sense of insecurity. Please try to find out about his involvement with any woman and once you get it confirmed, ask him point blank. Don't let it continue. It can affect your relationship. To me, it hardly matters whether he meets the woman he is involved with while dating her online.

    Please try to ascertain what exactly he needs from another woman online. Try to fulfill his needs accordingly.
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    Aug 2, 2012, 10:35 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by James1969 View Post
    You seem to have a sense of insecurity. Please try to find out about his involvement with any woman and once you get it confirmed, ask him point blank. Don't let it continue. It can affect your relationship. To me, it hardly matters whether he meets the woman he is involved with while dating her online.

    Please try to ascertain what exactly he needs from another woman online. Try to fulfill his needs accordingly.

    Oh, I can see that you and I are going to lock horns. Try to ascertain what he needs from another woman and try to fill his needs?

    You can't be serious! You are blaming the "victim" for not "filling" his needs.
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    Aug 2, 2012, 07:43 PM
    Once a cheater always a cheater. For your own well being do not patch this up. This behavior will only continue and escalate.
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    Aug 2, 2012, 07:50 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by James1969 View Post
    You seem to have a sense of insecurity. Please try to find out about his involvement with any woman and once you get it confirmed, ask him point blank. Don't let it continue. It can affect your relationship. To me, it hardly matters whether he meets the woman he is involved with while dating her online.

    Please try to ascertain what exactly he needs from another woman online. Try to fulfill his needs accordingly.
    Oh come on... really?

    Where do you get that she has a sense of insecurity? In fact, most of this reply is a mix of generic slop and ridiculous nonsense.

    "Don't let it continue. It can affect your relationship." Really now? That is some solid advice... but I think from reading her post, she may already know that.

    And that last bit... that is some funny stuff.
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    Aug 3, 2012, 04:20 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by odinn7 View Post
    Oh come on....really?

    Where do you get that she has a sense of insecurity? In fact, most of this reply is a mix of generic slop and ridiculous nonsense.

    "Don't let it continue. It can affect your relationship." Really now? That is some solid advice...but I think from reading her post, she may already know that.

    And that last bit....that is some funny stuff.

    Not the first time "James" has said that - and for your entertainment pleasure, read some of his other posts.
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    Aug 3, 2012, 07:43 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by JessicaW8 View Post
    Once a cheater always a cheater. For your own well being do not patch this up. This behavior will only continue and escalate.

    I do matrimonial surveillances as a profession.

    This statement is simply not true. There are serial cheaters; there are one time cheaters.

    You cannot judge everyone based on limited experience.
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    Aug 3, 2012, 07:53 AM
    How about we wait until the OP has posted additional information.
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    Aug 3, 2012, 07:57 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by NeedKarma View Post
    How about we wait until the OP has posted additional information.

    Questions are answered all the time by "new people" (or people returning to a question).

    I see no benefit to shutting this down.
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    Aug 3, 2012, 08:19 AM
    I suspect this will be another issue where the person posted a question, waited 5 minutes and will never return.
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