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    Jul 31, 2012, 08:26 PM
    How to make your mam proud
    I have recently upset and disappointed my mam and I don't know how to make her look at me like I'm her daughter again because ill I want is for her to be proud of me
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    Jul 31, 2012, 08:28 PM
    What did you do to make her no longer proud of you?
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    Jul 31, 2012, 08:31 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    What did you do to make her no longer proud of you?
    Something bad that I wish not to sat
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    Jul 31, 2012, 08:32 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    What did you do to make her no longer proud of you?
    Something bad that I wish not to say
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    Jul 31, 2012, 08:38 PM
    That's your prerogative. Sadly, without knowing why she's mad, I really don't know how to fix it.

    Good luck.
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    Jul 31, 2012, 08:46 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    That's your prerogative. Sadly, without knowing why she's mad, I really don't know how to fix it.

    Good luck.
    Thanks anyway
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    Aug 1, 2012, 10:29 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by bubblegumxox View Post
    Something bad that I wish not to sat

    How would we possibly have an answer for you if we don't know why she's disappointed in you?

    EDIT: Is it because of your cutting? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...er-689050.html; https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...es-689162.html

    Reading through your posts I see a very bad attitude and very conflicting stories from you - it's hard to tell what the truth is and isn't. I can only imagine living with both your attitude and your "stories."
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    Aug 1, 2012, 03:47 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    How would we possibly have an answer for you if we don't know why she's disappointed in you?

    EDIT: Is it because of your cutting? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...er-689050.html; https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...es-689162.html

    Reading through your posts I see a very bad attitude and very conflicting stories from you - it's hard to tell what the truth is and isn't. I can only imagine living with both your attitude and your "stories."
    What?
    Well I keep my family life out and away of my personal life.
    And its all true why would I lie... I have nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of
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    Aug 1, 2012, 03:48 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by bubblegumxox View Post
    What?
    Well I keep my family life out and away of my personal life.
    And its all true why would I lie ... I have nothin to be embarrassed or ashamed of

    Then why would you post a question here and refuse to post the personal information which is necessary to answer it?
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    Aug 1, 2012, 03:53 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    Then why would you post a question here and refuse to post the personal information which is necessary to answer it?
    Well if you disappointed your mother how would you make it up to her... That's all I'm asking
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    Aug 1, 2012, 04:23 PM
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    Well if u disappointed your mother how wud u make it up to her ... That's all I'm asking
    By stopping the behavior that disappointed her.

    You have a lot of issues. You need to deal with them.
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    Aug 1, 2012, 04:37 PM
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    By stopping the behavior that disappointed her.

    You have a lot of issues. You need to deal with them.
    I don't have a lot ill admit I have a few and I am dealing with them
    But its not easy to drop something when there's nothing to drop
    All I did was tell her my problems and she flipped
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    Aug 2, 2012, 05:45 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by bubblegumxox View Post
    I don't have a lot ill admit I have a few and I am dealing with them
    But its not easy to jus drop somethin when there's nothin to drop
    All I did was tell her my problems and she flipped

    Again, maybe you jaywalked. Maybe you killed someone. Maybe you said you'd stop cutting and you didn't stop.

    You make people proud of you by acting in a responsible manner.

    I'm sure I disappointed my mother. Everyone does. Without knowing how deeply you disappointed her there's absolutely no way to know how you go forward and "make up" for whatever happened.

    You cut yourself and you're proud of the scars - I'm sure that doesn't make her proud of you. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...es-689162.html
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    Aug 2, 2012, 02:44 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    Again, maybe you jaywalked. Maybe you killed someone. Maybe you said you'd stop cutting and you didn't stop.

    You make people proud of you by acting in a responsible manner.

    I'm sure I disappointed my mother. Everyone does. Without knowing how deeply you disappointed her there's absolutely no way to kwnow how you go forward and "make up" for whatever happened.

    You cut yourself and you're proud of the scars - I'm sure that doesn't make her proud of you. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...es-689162.html
    Yeah I'm PROUD of my scars... it shows people how stupid and confused and alone I felt and there's nothing wrong with being proud of them... its a memory from the past I carry around with myself so judge me if you want but you don't know the full story of why I'm PROUD OF MY SCARS
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    Aug 2, 2012, 02:59 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by bubblegumxox View Post
    Yeah I'm PROUD of my scars ...it shows ppl how stupid and confused and alone I felt and there's nothin wrong with being proud of them ...its a memory from the past I carry around with myself so judge me if you want bu you dnt know d full story of why I'm PROUD OF MY SCARS

    You have issues -
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    Aug 2, 2012, 03:02 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    You have issues -
    No,no I don't :)
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    Aug 2, 2012, 04:22 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by bubblegumxox View Post
    Yeah I'm PROUD of my scars ...it shows people how stupid and confused and alone I felt and there's nothing wrong with being proud of them ...its a memory from the past I carry around with myself so judge me if you want but you don't know the full story of why I'm PROUD OF MY SCARS
    I'm shocked by this. You're proud of your scars? Proud because you inflicted pain on yourself? Do you realize how sick that is?

    It would be like cutting off your arm because you're upset, and then telling people "Look at me, I cut off my arm because I was upset. I'm so proud of that. Don't ou think that's great"?

    You keep saying you're getting help for your issues. What sort of help are you getting? You're 13. You need mom to get the help for you, and apparently she's upset with you because you told her what's going on in your life. That leads me to believe that you've hidden your issues from her. So why would she get you the help you need, that you claim you're getting, if she didn't know that you have issues?

    You're proud of the scars, but you won't accept that you need help. I'd be much prouder of you if you actually accepted that you need help. That is if you're even telling the truth.
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    Aug 2, 2012, 04:27 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    I'm shocked by this. You're proud of your scars? Proud because you inflicted pain on yourself? Do you realize how sick that is?

    It would be like cutting off your arm because you're upset, and then telling people "Look at me, I cut off my arm because I was upset. I'm so proud of that. Don't ou think that's great"?

    You keep saying you're getting help for your issues. What sort of help are you getting? You're 13. You need mom to get the help for you, and apparently she's upset with you because you told her what's going on in your life. That leads me to believe that you've hidden your issues from her. So why would she get you the help you need, that you claim you're getting, if she didn't know that you have issues?

    You're proud of the scars, but you won't accept that you need help. I'd be much prouder of you if you actually accepted that you need help. That is if you're even telling the truth.
    I don't care if your proud or not of me. I don't wake up,every morning hoping that your proud of me. I go to private counseling. Why would I lie about cutting myself.
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    Aug 2, 2012, 05:21 PM
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    I don't care if your proud or not of me. I don't wake up,every morning hoping that your proud of me. I go to private counseling. Why would I lie about cutting myself.

    I thought I covered this - for the attention. Next you'll set your hair on fire.
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    Aug 2, 2012, 07:45 PM
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    I don't care if your proud or not of me. I don't wake up,every morning hoping that your proud of me. I go to private counseling. Why would I lie about cutting myself.
    So your mom knows about the cutting, the molestation, and all your other issues, and sent you to counseling?

    But you said she's mad because of something you told her about your life. What other secret could you possibly have that's worse than what you've told us?

    As for me being proud of you. Kid, you're not mine, and no I'm not proud of you. I'm not going to lose sleep over anything you've posted here because I've seen it all before, not only in my life, but on this site. If you don't think you have a problem, then why are you posting about all the problems you have? But, bottom line, you're just another poster. You may think your issues and your posts are original. They're not. You're the same as every other teen posting here looking for attention. So don't worry, I'll forget all about you in minutes. You're one in a million, just on this site alone.

    You came here for help. Do you actually want help, or are you just looking for more attention? Your posts speak for themselves. I agree with Judy. You just want attention.

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