 |
|
| Browse | Ask | Answer | Search | Join/Login |
|
|
||||
|
How can I persuade my girlfriend to show me more affection?
So, I am with my girlfriend for 9 months now. I love her very much. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. But the thing is that she is not showing me any affection. At the beginning she was always kissing me and hugging and things like that in public and I was like "we shouldn't do that in public, what may others think..." but after some time I wasn't interested what other people may think and kissed and hugged her and it was great.
But for like a month or two now she isn't showing any affection. When I am coming at her with kisses and hugs, she is reacting like I was. I started complaining that she isn't showing any affection. So she said that she had just enough of it and that she wants some space, which she couldn't breathe that I am showing too much affection. So I did like I was told to, but nothing happened. I wasn't showing affection neither was she. So after some time of complaining I came to the conclusion that it must be hard for her when I am always complaining, never having enough so I thought that I would stop that but the thing is, what can I do when I really want to kiss her or cuddle or just touch her and she doesn't want to. I don't want to complain but what should I do? Count to ten or things like that? |
||||
|
||||
|
You might be smothering her with insecurity in other ways --- yes?? Don't do it. Give her space...
Complaining is a form of trying to control her and get her to do what you want. Giving her space means allowing her to do what SHE wants or needs to regardless of how you feel. Don't rely on your girlfriend to make you feel good. See what you can do FOR her.. . maybe she just feels all your neediness underneath the "loves and hugs" you're giving and it turns her off. |
||||
|
||||
|
Don't be too clingy. A lot of girls don't like it when guys are really clingy. This is something like what my parents went through when they dated. At first my mom was all lovey dovey but when she hit college she just stopped wanting to be touched by others. This confused my dad as well. But he has grown used to it over the years and is grateful for the affection she does show every once in a while. My mom didn't even know why it happened but she just gradually acquired personal space issues. This may be the same way with your girlfriend. Don't take it personally just start getting used to it. She may just be going through a phase or she may stay this way. Don't be clingy. Go with the flow. -
|
||||
|
||||
 Originally Posted by lesie
Xoxoxox Sharni <3 |
||||
|
||||
|
When I was in my first relationship many years ago I went through the same situation as you.
My advice is to spice up your relationship a bit. Do something she enjoys, take her shopping, go to the cinema, go for a romantic walk with a picnic (this worked for me), list goes on... By showing her a good time once in a while will really help to bring her closer to you; this will help her to realise to you really care for her, and this will bring her closer to you. Also, try to cut down on the affection and try to be less needy. Remember that there are two people in a relationship and both people should be putting effort into the relationship. If you do everything for her and she gives nothing in return, just forget about her a find someone who will love you as much as you love them. Good luck! |
||||
|
||||
|
You don't persuade (or manipulate) anyone into doing anything. Either you like how they are or you move on and find someone more suitable to your needs. She doesn't show you affection, talk to her once, if she continues to fail in this department then tell her she is not giving you what you need and move on. Your need for affection is smothering her, either you accept the lack of attention or you leave, these relationship is doomed if you continue wanting something from someone who is not willing to give it to you.
|
||||
|
||||
|
You need to maybe face the fact that you two are not on the same page. You are not a match
Originally Posted by affectionguy
|
||||
| Question Tools | Search this Question |
Add your answer here.
Check out some similar questions!
Im going to try and make this as short as possible. My boyfriend of 2 years hasn't ever been extremely affectionate. But it seems like before we lived together and when we first started living together things were different. I have a 2 1/2 year old son who thinks of my boyfriend as his dad...
We're in high school and it's been about two months since we started dating. Don't get me wrong, I really like her. She's smart, cute, and is the kind of person who always does "the right thing," something that I absolutely love in a person; it's far too rare these days. But often, I feel like...
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years and we have a little baby. When we were dating, there was so much excitement and passion between us. Now, we argue all the time, and always about the same thing! He won't show me any affection. It's not like I leave him guessing what...
We are both 24 and are deeply in love we spend most of our free time together. When we first got together she was on the pill and sex wasn't a problem. However, she stopped using the pill and sex started to get less and less frequent. She says she doesn't like using condoms as it doesn't feel as...
My boyfriend use to always show affection now after a minor break up he said he wants to be with me but he says before he never really liked to kiss but now he does not want to do it at all or hold hands or hug.Does he feel different or is he just not a affectionate guy?
View more questions Search
|
