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Holly-92 · Jun 20, 2012, 01:51 AM

Hi everyone I have a boyfriend and we've been together for a long time but things went wrong and I slept with another guy who I've like years back.
My period was on the 27th may 2012 and I last for 6 days. When my period finished I had sex with that friend of mine on the 7th and 8th of June and those days we had sex we didn't use protection do he came inside me. The next day in the 9th I had sex with my boyfriend but he didn't inside me slot because he pulled out and all the sperm came out. Then the following / days which was the 11th I had sex with my friend again and he came inside me so all together he was sleeping with me from 7,8,11th and I slept with my boyfriend only on the 9th( sperm came out).. is the guy the father of my baby ? I need help people thanks

J_9 · Jun 20, 2012, 01:53 AM

To be totally and completely honest, it's impossible to tell who the father is before the birth of the child. A DNA test will have to be done.

Even though your boyfriend did not ejaculate inside you, there is still plenty of sperm in the early seminal fluids that can cause pregnancy.

Holly-92 · Jun 20, 2012, 02:16 AM

Isn't there a way where I can do a DNA before the pregnancy ? & I think it's my friend I don't think my boyfriend is the father

J_9 · Jun 20, 2012, 02:31 AM

Originally Posted by Holly-92

Isnt there a way where I can do a DNA before the pregnancy ? & I think it's my friend I don't think my boyfriend is the father

You will have to wait until the baby is born for the DNA test to be done.

Holly-92 · Jun 20, 2012, 02:37 AM

Originally Posted by J_9

You will have to wait until the baby is born for the DNA test to be done.

Do I? I heard I can do a DNA test when I hit 12 weeks they have to use the swab or something ? I still don't think my boyfriend is the father there is a very high chance that it's my friends baby.

J_9 · Jun 20, 2012, 02:39 AM

I don't know of any doctor who will do a DNA test, strictly for paternity, during pregnancy due to the risks to the fetus.

The chance is certainly higher that it is your friend's baby, but your boyfriend cannot be ruled out 100%.

Holly-92 · Jun 20, 2012, 02:45 AM

Originally Posted by J_9

I don't know of any doctor who will do a DNA test, strictly for paternity, during pregnancy due to the risks to the fetus.

The chance is certainly higher that it is your friend's baby, but your boyfriend cannot be ruled out 100%.

Yes I agree certainly agree . Another thing I want to ask please is when I do go for my first scan and a check up and they tell me how far I am could I be sure of the dates they tell me I conceived? Because I use the contraception dates and it all says the days I've had sex with my friend so put two and two together I think my friends the father

J_9 · Jun 20, 2012, 03:06 AM

Sorry took so long getting back to you. The hospital did a generator test and I had to reboot the computer.

Now, since I am at work I have access to the same gestation wheel that your doctor will use to determine your due date. Now remember, this is all an estimate and dates can change once you get an ultrasound.

If the first day of your LMP was May 27, you most likely conceived on June 9 or 10 and your due date will be March 3.

Remember also that sperm can live in the vagina for a number of days before actually fertilizing the egg.

Holly-92 · Jun 20, 2012, 03:13 AM

Originally Posted by J_9

Sorry took so long getting back to you. The hospital did a generator test and I had to reboot the computer.

Now, since I am at work I have access to the same gestation wheel that your doctor will use to determine your due date. Now remember, this is all an estimate and dates can change once you get an ultrasound.

If the first day of your LMP was May 27, you most likely conceived on June 9 or 10 and your due date will be March 3.

Remember also that sperm can live in the vagina for a number of days before actually fertilizing the egg.

I understand thank u for getting back to me. I must say my boyfriend sperm came all out of me it didn't go in because what I notice is when his sperm goes in I get this feeling in my vagina and it stings this time when we had sex on the 9th I jumped of and the sperm dripped down. Now when u said I may have conceived on the 9th my friend and I had sex on the 8th and after that the 11th and even before that we did it on the 7th and 8th so because sperm lives in me a number of days from the 7th up to the 11th we have been having unprotected sex so again I still think my friends the father of my baby such a high chance and I don't even think my boyfriends 50% .

J_9 · Jun 20, 2012, 05:46 AM

Holly, you may think that your bf's sperm "came all out" of you, but all it takes is one little sperm and it's impossible for every single one of them to "come out."

The highest chance of paternity would be the man you had the affair with, but that's still not 100%.

In the end, you will never know for certain until a paternity test is done after the baby is born.

Fr_Chuck · Jun 20, 2012, 06:04 AM

There is no way to tell, there is sperm in the early fluids, so just pulling out ( if he did in time completely) is not enough. Everyone knows ( or should know) that pulling out is really not a method that has good results.

While of course it is more likely, since you had sex more often with the friend, but there is just no way at all to tell. Agree the test to determine paternity is too dangerous to be done prior to birth since there is o reason to risk the test.

But honestly does it matter at this point, a friend who you are not really dating, or a boyfriend who you are cheating on, or even a friend who you cheated on back with boyfriend,

Neither relationship sounds very sound and long lasting.

But you wait till the baby is born and do a DNA test to be sure. Only way