[Raider2012]

My fiancé of a year and a half is wanting to move out of my house after living together since the beginning. We are suppose to have a very big wedding in less than 3 weeks. But she still wants to get married. I don't understand

[Wondergirl]

Have you asked her?

[Raider2012]

Have you asked her?

I have asked her and she said she just needs her own place. We have been looking for a bigger place to rent because the house I own now is only a 3 bedroom. And we have 4 children. 3 of the children are hers from her deceased husband. I know she has trust issues from previous relationships. But I continue to prove to her daily I can be trusted and have been 110% faithful and honest with her

[Wondergirl]

Her own place three weeks before the wedding? Where will she be living in four weeks?

[Raider2012]

Her own place three weeks before the wedding? Where will she be living in four weeks?

That's another thing that I don't understand. She doesn't say. She just says she needs her own place for her and her kids but yet still wants to get married and be together. I told her that's being retarded and doesn't make sense

[Wondergirl]

Are there any other indications she might have "cold feet"?

[Raider2012]

Are there any other indications she might have "cold feet"?

I know she is scared of being hurt and cheated on like her last husband did. But I try my hardest to prove to her I'm not like that. Most of the relationship has been perfect. What can I do if she is getting cold feet

[Wondergirl]

I'm trying to think like a female. Oooops, I AM a female. If I did that three weeks before the wedding, especially if I had a history of partners who were untrustworthy and who ran out on me, I would be looking for some guarantee that the future groom really loves me and won't let me get away with such a silly move.

[Silver Lining]

Send her out to some place to relax... I feel she is tensed,, give her some time... a small vacation... it's all wedding jitters I guess...

[talaniman]

We have been looking for a bigger place to rent because the house I own now...

She is forcing you to get a bigger place maybe with her name on it. Give her a time line, and plan for that to happen, or put her name on the deed after you marry. If she doesn't go for logical solutions, then its you who should have cold feet. I think she is trying to hedge her bets here guy, JUST IN CASE, it doesn't work, she doesn't have to move her kids out of a house YOU own.

Don't get married until a solution is reached. A woman with 3 kids is not about to put their security in jeopardy, and don't expect her too.

[Raider2012]

I already told her its our house and she says it isn't her home and never will be since I had it before we met. I told her today we will sell the house to buy a bigger one but she is being impatient and doesn't want to wait

[Wondergirl]

She's afraid you will back down and change your mind. Start actively looking with her (ads and then open houses, etc.) now!