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Carina321 · Jun 7, 2012, 04:50 AM

My boss is a bit sleazy . Help!

smoothy · Jun 7, 2012, 04:58 AM

Originally Posted by Carina321

I am working as a live in nanny abroad at the moment, and have been here a month. The family i am with are very nice but i am feeling a bit uncomfortable at the moment. i just want to see if anyone thinks i am justified in this or if im being paranoid. I think the husband has the hots for me. Whenever his wife goes out, he always invites me to come round for a drink, or asks me if i want to stay and watch a film with him. He is already planning a trip for me and him to go ALONE to Berlin. I went out with him and a couple of his friends one night and he insisted on walking me back to the door of my flat, and then just stood there staring at me as though he wanted me to invite him in? this is what i felt anyways. he also does strange things, like if i have a bit of make up on me, he's like, oh wait i'll get it for you. and then rubs it in. and i always feel like he's staring at me. He also now updates his facebook status's occasionally in english, when he, or non of his friends speak this language and he also i have noticed recieves emails whenever i update something on my own facebook. I dunno if this is just usual friendly behaviour, or whether it's a bit innapropriate? i dunno if im just being paranoid. When he is away on business trips he occasionally skypes me or fb mails me aswell. He is also only 6 years older than me! please let me know what you think and no silly answers. His wife knows about the trip and that he has asked me for wine a couple of times, and she hasn't said anything. I think he has the final say in the relationship though. He also says things like telling me i'm 'photogenic' and saying he's not there to 'look after me' when he was away on a business trip and complained that there was a large spider in my flat. I dunno what to do. I just feel like leaving atm.

Certainly seems like it goes a bit beyond being friendly.

Carina321 · Jun 7, 2012, 09:51 AM

True that.

Wondergirl · Jun 7, 2012, 10:10 AM

You definitely need to set boundaries--or leave. I see no good thing ahead of you if this keeps up.

This reminds of when I was in college and worked as a live-in nanny in order to help pay for tuition. The wife decided to start confiding in me about the intimacies of her marriage and wanted to have girl talk in the evening while her physician husband was on call at the hospital. I was creeped out and quit, knowing that we could never go back to square one and start the employer-nanny relationship over again.