[rowlingbrown]

My boyfriend threatens me that if I leave him he will commit suicide, I just don't want to be with him I am trying to calm him by sticking around him nicely so what should I do to get rid of him?

[rocketman11]

My boyfriend threatens me that if i leave him he will commit suicide, i just dont want to be with him I am trying to calm him by sticking around him nicely so what should i do to get rid of him?

This is a horrible situation for you. There is a lot I could say but I'll keep it short.

This is not a healthy relationship. END IT NOW. He is using emotional blackmail and you're letting him manipulate you.

Just tell him you don't want to see him anymore, but do it as kindly as possible to spare his feelings. Tell him that he isn't the right guy for you.

[rowlingbrown]

Thank you for your answer. I feel bad for he says you played with my emotions. His words are killing me and m sad. After I asked him to leave me, for one day he won't contact me but the other day he will become soft again and plead to take him back. I came into this relationship forcefully. He was a friend to me without whom I was not able to live for he was so nice to me I thought that I must come into this relationship when he said me I can't be your frd. So I decided to let him be my boyfriend I was never able to love him and feel for him that way and slowly I have realised this and now he blames me for his condition.

[rocketman11]

Do not beat yourself up about what has happened. From what you have said it sounds like he manipulated you into having a relationship with him e.g. "he said i can't be your frd". However, you let him manipulate you into having this relationship which was a bad idea because you did lead him on. But you can't change the past. Remember everyone makes mistakes.

I don't know this guy personally but he sounds like he can be a nice guy, but I think he needs to be more mature. Is this his first relationship? If so it could explain his actions.

He will feel sad and so will you, but try and move on with your life and let him move on with his. You should go no contact for a while, if possible, to let things settle down. This will allow you both to reflect on what has happened, and help you both to learn from mistakes made in the past.

Remember to not let yourself get manipulated into a relationship, make your own decisions. You sound like a very caring person, but try not to worry about him, look after yourself and let your emotions happen naturally.

Look after yourself and all the best to you :)