[jackierollie]

Ok,maybe I'm totally crazy but I have a feeling in my gut that my boyfriend might be gay or Bi sexual , at first I thought he was a player, because he cheated on me several times with women at the start of the relationship (now we have 6 years dating,even with plans of getting engaged, he has never cheat again) the first months we had good sex (we didn't have it often because we lived in different cities, but when he visited me we had sex all the time) 3 years ago he came back , I know his parents, his family, he is very close to my family too,I think we have a good relationship.. I know he loves me and I love him too, but sex is becoming a real issue, just the first months were great, then I start notice that he's sex drive was very low, I had never considered myself as a high sex drive women but I was feeling frustrated even when I tried to kiss him passionately I could feel he was upset or uncomfortable, passion in our sex life is dead( our sex was never passionate), I have done EVERYTHING to get him in the mood and Its imposible, right now if we have sex is like 1 time in 2 weeks or more( and he last like a minute he doesn't even care if I have finish), he has giving me lots of excuses just to not have sex with me ( my head hurts, I am tired,etc.) I have talked to him about the situation and he says he's going to change because he loves me and doesn't want to lose me but It's always the same. I am thinking in all the possibilities that are making him act like this all these years, I want this relationship to work because I DO love him, I mean he's 24 years old ( men of his age want to have sex ALL THE TIME) other thing is that recently he has been very close to a guy friend, he's talking to him all the time,and when they're not talking to each other they're texting , they're going to a trip for a week and he pay the plane tickets Isn't weird? Or am I just being paranoic?

[smoothy]

Ok,maybe I'm totally crazy but I have a feeling in my gut that my boyfriend might be gay or Bi sexual , at first I thought he was a player, because he cheated on me several times with women at the start of the relationship (now we have 6 years dating,even with plans of getting engaged, he has never cheat again) the first months we had good sex (we didn't have it often because we lived in different cities, but when he visited me we had sex all the time) 3 years ago he came back , I know his parents, his family, he is very close to my family too,I think we have a good relationship..I know he loves me and I love him too, but sex is becoming a real issue, just the first months were great, then I start notice that he's sex drive was very low, I had never considered myself as a high sex drive women but I was feeling frustrated even when I tried to kiss him passionately I could feel he was upset or uncomfortable, passion in our sex life is dead( our sex was never passionate), I have done EVERYTHING to get him in the mood and Its imposible, right now if we have sex is like 1 time in 2 weeks or more( and he last like a minute he doesn't even care if I have finish), he has giving me lots of excuses just to not have sex with me ( my head hurts, I am tired,etc.) I have talked to him about the situation and he says he's going to change because he loves me and doesnt want to lose me but It's always the same. I am thinking in all the possibilities that are making him act like this all these years, I want this relationship to work because I DO love him, I mean he's 24 years old ( men of his age want to have sex ALL THE TIME) other thing is that recently he has been very close to a guy friend, he's talking to him all the time,and when they're not talking to each other they're texting , they're going to a trip for a week and he pay the plane tickets Isn't weird? Or am I just being paranoic?

Sounds to me like you are the only one that thinks you have much of a relationship... sound to me like he's given up and either... has not had the balls to tell you... or he has and you didn't take the hint.

People can drift apart without hating each other...

[WisperWill70]

Couples of ANY age can face sexual and intimacy changes in their relationship (yes even if you got together 6 years ago as teenagers!)... you shouldn't assume that he's gay or bi...

But if he is spending a lot of time away from the relationship forming bonds with other people, and has cheated on you in the past, - you need to find out if he's left the relationship emotionally and isn't on the same page with you. OR if there are other issues he's going through that are impacting this...

Does he need to see a counselor?