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crzchick09 · Jun 20, 2011, 07:20 PM

OK so I'm 20 and I've been with this guy for 2 mnths now and he is a really sweet understanding guy but about a week ago I met this guy and I don't know when we looked into eachothers eyes it was like we've known each other forever and it was like love at first sight. They are both good guys guy #2 has some issues that I want to help him with but my parents can't stand him. Guy #1 my parents like but he tends to freak out whenever I go out weather its with family or not. I'm so confused :/

amicon · Jun 20, 2011, 11:06 PM

Don't make the mistake of thinking you can ''save'' somebody with ''issues''.

I suggest you try being single and concentrate on building your own life rather then dating either-guy #1 seems to have control issues,so take a step back and evaluate that situation.

I wish · Jun 22, 2011, 12:29 PM

Based on the way you described both guys, maybe it's best to do with neither guy. You don't need to force yourself to be in a relationship.

It doesn't hurt to be single and wait until you find what's best for you.

Homegirl 50 · Jun 22, 2011, 02:05 PM

I think you need to leave them both alone. #1 is not ideal and #2 has problems you don't need to be dealing with.
Enjoy You for a while.

Fr_Chuck · Jun 22, 2011, 02:39 PM

Yes, don't ever settle with "I can change or save him" it does not work, If the issues he has would make him not acceptable, then he is, since he will not change unless he wants to.

If number one is not idea,

It sounds like you are not ready to date one person full time, why not just date anyone you want, no "full time" until the right one comes around

Leppy_06 · Apr 2, 2012, 01:42 PM

Maybe take a step back and you can still hang out with them both until you decide, and if they are not okay with this then they obviously do not care the right way. #1 either sounds a bit controlling or he knows you are changing and thinking of someone else and might be worried about losing you. I don't know about #2 because all depends on the problems he has on whether you should help, but if you feel you should be there for him then be there. Helping someone out will not hurt anything just be honest with them to a point and try not to string either along.