[nickydyne]

So I was having sex last night with my boyfriend but during the intercourse when I was on top I felt hot inside my vagina and I became wetter and the fluid kept coming out of my vagina I could feel the mattress getting wet.. and am sure I was not having an orgasm.. anyway have never had one so I don't know what that was.. please help because I don't want that to happen again.. I was super embarrasssed but my boyfriend was saying that I came.. so am confused.. someone knows what it is?

[Kahani Punjab]

Nicky Dyne,

Welcome to this wonderful site, first!

During the intercourse, this greasy material is erupted by both male and female. Nothing to worry about, as it is natural lubricant. However, if you have never had such leakage, accompanying sexual intercourse, earlier, it is a cause of worry, but I would suggest you to go for a foreplay, before you 'be with' your partner, sexually. Like, touching his penis, pubic hair and pubic area. Moving the hand here and there on and over the body. Talking loose... etc

[JudyKayTee]

It's natural lubricant - some women simply product more lubricant than others, sometimes more on one occasion than another.

[CravenMorhead]

Never had an orgasm before? That is almost tragic. I would almost suggest that you play a little and figure out what that feels like.

Regardless, as Judy said, it is just natural lube. It is what your body produces. It is all good. If you don't want to soak the mattress just lay down a few towels and make sure you do it on *his* side of the bed. ;-)

Nothing to worry about.

[JudyKayTee]

Nicky Dyne,

Welcome to this wonderful site, first!

During the intercourse, this greasy material is erupted by both male and female. Nothing to worry about, as it is natural lubricant. However, if you have never had such leakage, accompanying sexual intercourse, earlier, it is a cause of worry, but I would suggest you to go for a foreplay, before you 'be with' your partner, sexually. Like, touching his penis, pubic hair and pubic area. Moving the hand here and there on and over the body. Talking loose.... etc

Once again I'm confused - how will additional foreplay help the "leakage"?

I see nothing abnormal here, nor do I see anything about "leakage" of greasy material. Of course, if it IS a greasy discharge, yes, OP should consult with a Physician.

What am I missing?

[Fr_Chuck]

It is normal, there is no way to control it,

[JudyKayTee]

- and some men are flatterered by a "gush" from the female partner. I don't know why but it's been my experience that some men equate that with an over-the-top orgasm, not realizing a female can't control it.

[Cat1864]

Was this the first time your were on top?

You may have had an orgasm. It can feel different depending on the position and what part is getting the most stimulation. He may have been feeling muscle contractions that you weren't aware of at the time or didn't perceive the same way he did. Not all orgasms are mind blowing or send your body into major spasms.

As has been said, it is a very natural lubricant. There are some positions such as 'on top' that can cause it to flow out easier. Being extremely aroused can produce more of it. Muscle contractions during orgasm can also increase the discharge.

A very crude term that is also old fashioned is 'creaming'. Have you ever noticed your panties have been very wet when you think about something you find sexually intriguing?

May I ask how old you are and if you masturbate?

[airhead12]

Hi I think what you boyfriend said is what happen and you don't need to feel it to come or orgasm and some orgasm you can't feel l

[JudyKayTee]

Hi i think what u bf said is what happen and u dont need to feel it to come or orgasm and some orgasm u can't feel l

Really? Orgasms that you can't feel?

[Aurora_Bell]

Really? Orgasms that you can't feel?

I hope I never have one of those.

I agree, sounds totally normal. Like mentioned some girls just produce more than others. It means you were sexually stimulated, and if you were having sex, why would you be embarrassed to have reached orgasm? Most girls can not have orgasm simply from penetration alone... Isn't orgasm/feeling good the point of having sex?

[Swanky_girl28]

I'm pretty sure I know what you are talking about. I do it all the time and it is not natural lubricant. It is very warm and feels like water. If you did it in your sleep you would think you wet the bed lol. I'm not too sure what it is but it is not an orgasm. My Bf thinks it is super cool so I roll with it. :)

[JudyKayTee]

There are two choices - urine OR natural lubricant. There are no other choices.

[nickydyne]

Thanks alooot for answering but those who said that I should do more foreplay I don't see how that relate to what I asked because I was worried about wetting the bed and yet I didn't feel like it was an orgasm... or did I orgasm and didn't know? I don't know am confused... btw am 23 and don't masterbate I just feel nothing out of that!

[JudyKayTee]

I didn't understand the foreplay part either ("but I would suggest you to go for a foreplay, before you 'be with' your partner, sexually. Like, touching his penis, pubic hair and pubic area. Moving the hand here and there on and over the body. Talking loose.... etc)" so you're not alone in that.

No, if you had no sensation you did not orgasm. You cannot masturbate to orgasm?

[nickydyne]

Judy.. I don't masterbate because I feel nothing! so I don't know what that was! anyw thanks

[Cat1864]

thanks alooot for answering but those who said that i should do more foreplay i dont see how that relate to what i asked coz i was worried about wetting the bed and yet i didnt feel like it was an orgasm....or did i orgasm and didint know??i dnt know am confused...btw am 23 and dont masterbate i just feel nothing out of that!!

Maybe these links can help you figure out what happened:

Female Orgasm

Female Orgasm, Throbbing And Sensation | Kinsey Confidential