[melro123]

I'm Melvin a 29 years old male, I just want to know what's the age for women to give birth babies and why?

[Wondergirl]

Biologically? Financially? Emotionally?

[Fr_Chuck]

In what society and culture.

Are you talking medically or socially.

In the UK the latest studies show it is 34 years of age

Why 34 is the best age to have a baby | Mail Online

[melro123]

Well We currently living in San Antonio TX, USA but in dec 15 we're back to El Salvador our homecountry, I ask this because she says the best age to get a baby it's between 34 and 38 years old.
I'm eager to show her that's not true.

[Fr_Chuck]

Why is it an issue to you ? Do you not want to have a baby ?

[melro123]

I want to be father but as I further know it's the risk too younger and too older women run at this period..
It's wrong to have the fatherhood sense to you?
I don't.

[Wondergirl]

Also important is your financial stability with a good job, a secure home to live in, friends and family around to help, and a loving (and married?) relationship between the new mother and father.

How old is she?

[Fr_Chuck]

There are great 25 year old mothers and fathers. I know great ones that are 40. The plans made and maturity of the parents are more important than an age. Age is more of a issue for actual child birth if they are too young or too old.

[melro123]

I know that but my question hasn't been responded,
I restate my question: what's the natural or biological women age to have a baby?
I'm 29 and she has 32 but she needs to start a fertility process because she's having problems to get pregnant.
What should we do?

[Wondergirl]

Now you're asking a totally different question.

What fertility doctors and facilities are available in your home country?

Have you been tested?

[melro123]

We have it, however she doesn't want to take the treatment for the fertility..
What should I do?
Stay with her or leave her?
Advise me please?

[Wondergirl]

Now the question has changed again!

Have you been tested? Testing a man is the easy first step.

[melro123]

Yes I have, she told me her problem and I said no mater I'll stay with you.
Now she's thinking to make several trips overseas and spend 02 or 03 years more to be a mother, during this time we haven't have sexual relations. This means any fertility treatment or the beginning of a new family haven't started yet.
What's your proffession?

[Wondergirl]

Yes I have, she told me her problem and I said no mater I'll stay with you.

I'm glad to hear that. You love her very much.

Now she's thinking to make several trips overseas and spend 02 or 03 years more to be a mother, during this time we haven't have sexual relations. This means any fertility treatment or the beginning of a new family haven't started yet.

That sounds like you want to get busy NOW with creating a baby and getting fertility help, if needed, and not wait any longer. Am I correct?

What's your proffession?

I have been a librarian for 30 years and a professional counselor for 20 years.

[melro123]

What I can notice in your words it's that you're aimed my thoughts into a merely sexual relation instead of stablishing a real and permanent family.
That's the way how a baby can be made there's no other option, I need to figure out the way she wanted to have a family and get marry with me I love her but I'm afraid I'll fed up and leave her bytheway.
Her age matters me and worry me,plus the fertility problems she has probably will never became a proud father with her, a baby will change completely the sense of my life I need it to get powers to keep ongoing.
We both are teachers.

[Wondergirl]

Please forgive my inability to speak your native language (Spanish?) -- that would make this so much easier and would help me ask better questions. I am trying very hard to ask helpful ones so I understand the situation.

What I can notice in your words it's that you're aimed my thoughts into a merely sexual relation instead of stablishing a real and permanent family.

Not just that, but you love her too and want to be with her as her husband and be a family with her and the children you have together.

That's the way how a baby can be made there's no other option, I need to figure out the way she wanted to have a family and get marry with me I love her

There are many ways to make a baby. Have the two of you been trying to make her pregnant? I'm still not clear about that.

I'm afraid I'll fed up and leave her bytheway.

This means you will get tired of waiting for her to finally want to get pregnant or decide to have fertility treatments, if they are needed?

her age matters me and worry me,

You are afraid she will be too old to get pregnant or want children if you wait any longer?

plus the fertility problems she has probably will never became a proud father with her

You KNOW she has fertility problems?

a baby will change completely the sense of my life I need it to get powers to keep ongoing.

So, if this woman will not or cannot have a baby with you, you will leave her so that you can have children with someone else?

we both are teachers.

I was a teacher before I was a librarian. What ages do you and she teach?

[melro123]

Yes. You right probably when she turns 35 or 36 might be too late for me because I don't want she or the baby have any die risk.
I know she has pregnancy problems because she have told me that was the first barrier she said but I accepted her, we haven't had sex yet because she said not until we got married.
I would be desperate for her to make her mind this means I could leave her as well and make a family with other girl, I love her but unfortunately for me age does matter.
We have been teaching for 08 years in schools.

[Wondergirl]

I know she has pregnancy problems because she have told me

How does she know this?

[melro123]

I don't know.
The thing it's she told me that, what I can infer it's that probably she has taken other tests to have the diagnostic.
Why? Have you heard women lie about this to get any advantage or test men?

[Wondergirl]

I don't know.
the thing it's she told me that, what I can infer it's that probably she has taken other tests to have the diagnostic.
Why? have you heard women lie about this to get any advantage or test men?

You said she doesn't want to have sex until marriage, so I wondered how she knew she had fertility problems.

A test for men is VERY easy with a very fast answer. That should always be the first effort if a couple cannot conceive after maybe four or five years.