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    Jul 27, 2011, 10:53 PM
    Does age matter?
    I really like my friend and everyone says we should date, I wantto but I'm scared it will be weird because I'm 16 and he is 14. I don't think it matters but I'm not sure. What should I do?
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    Jul 27, 2011, 11:21 PM

    Although dating is perfectly fine any type of sexual contact like kissing etc will be illegal on your part because he is not at the age on consent and you can get into serious trouble. So yes, at this point age does matter, if you were 18 and he 16 then its absolutely fine.
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    Jul 28, 2011, 03:46 AM

    Age matters less and less as you get older, but at young ages it does matter both from a developmental standpoint and a legal one.

    Girls mature faster than boys generally, so it is unusual for a 16 yr old girl to have much in common with a 14 yr old boy. I really don't see much grounds for a romantic relationship. You seem to have misgivings about it as well since you are asking. I would look more in your age group.
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    Jul 29, 2011, 12:18 PM
    I personaly wouldn't go out with someone 2 years younger than me. Boys tend to be more immature then girls so they're still into the I'm (changing stage) now if you really do like him enough to put age a side then maybe you should try it and if it doesn't work out well then you know not to go out with someone so young :) I hope this helps
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    Jul 30, 2011, 01:45 AM
    Well the truth I don't think it matter because its just a 2 year old of age differnece... you should give him a try and not be afraid of what people think... think of what you want for yourself.. (: I hope I helped you lol
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    Jul 30, 2011, 05:17 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by mame_chula123 View Post
    well the truth i dont think it matter because its just a 2 year old of age differnece... you should give him a try and not be afraid of what people think... think of what you want for youself..(: i hope i helped u lol
    Most of the people who say age doesn't matter are those too young to understand or who want to justify a relationship that is questionable. The fact is that age DOES matter. How much it matters diminishes as the parties are older to where it matters little or not when both are adults. But when people are younger the fact of different levels of development, different phases of life etc. do make age a factor in relationships.
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    Jul 30, 2011, 06:27 AM

    And at 16, while I wish it did not, what "everyone" thinks, does have some concern. At 16 a person 14 is often considered childish and not as mature and wonderful as 16 year olds.

    Not saying I agree with it, not saying it is the way it should be, but in school, it is the way life is.
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    Aug 1, 2011, 08:03 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Mrs.Monster View Post
    I personaly wouldn't go out with someone 2 years younger than me. Boys tend to be more immature then girls so they're still into the im (changing stage) now if you really do like him enought to put age a side then maybe you should try it and if it doesnt work out well then you know not to go out with someone so young :) I hope this helps

    Here's my concern - you aren't "allowed" to date at all, yet you are giving dating advice. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ml#post2862415

    I don't even understand this advice - you wouldn't/can't date this person (or anyone else) BUT if the OP likes the person then she should try dating him BUT if it doesn't work out then she'll know not to date someone 2 years younger - ?

    This is putting ALL people two years younger into one category - boys, just like girls, can mature at all different rates at all different ages. Dating should be - in my eyes - on a person by person basis. I've dated older than me and they were jerks; I've dated younger and they were mature.

    You can't judge everyone by an age.

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