[Wondergirl]

I am thinking of removing her number from my phone and deleting her on facebook just to try and speed up the process.

Stop thinking about it and just do it! (as per Nike)

Will you do the artwork for my book? :D

[dwidrick]

Just did it :)
And I would love to do your book artwork!

[Wondergirl]

I wrote a children's book (Hurple the Purple Yurple) and need artwork for that. And my book about my childhood imaginary friend AngelWolf needs artwork too. Can you draw a big wolf wearing an angel's robe and halo and wearing glasses and sitting with knees to chin at a little girl's tea table? Do you do ink drawings or charcoal sketches or Impressionistic-type oils?

[dwidrick]

Well I do more digital stuff now, but my background is fine art. I mainly did and do graphite renderings and some ink. Never did oil drawings. I could give it a shot, been a little while since I have done just traditional drawing. But either way it would be something to do to keep me busy right :)

[Wondergirl]

All the Yurples are yellow, but Hurple was born purple. I had envisioned the illustrations being simple ink line drawings with the Yurples and Hurple (the odd man out) being thumbprints in purple and yellow. Is there such a thing as a yellow (or purple) ink pad? Otherwise, what medium could I use for thumbprints?

[dwidrick]

There definitely have to be purple and yellow ink pads. What kind of ink they would be I have no idea, but at the very least you could make them the same color, scan them into a computer and change their colors using photoshop. Something I have done on occasion.

[dwidrick]

Another question I have... Currently I am still pretty up and down on a daily basis emotionally with this whole situation. I know some of you have mentioned avoiding contact with her but I honestly feel better when I get to talk to her when I am feeling like crap. So what I would like to know is if it can be healthy to still communicate with her. Obviously I will try my best not to talk about us and our current situation to avoid causing any unrest, but more just small talk like how her day went and what not.

I asked her what she thought of the idea of getting a place together once I am done coaching baseball this spring, simply the idea of it with financial and job related issues aside. She said yes she would want to live with me, when she is ready emotionally and financially.

I know this isn't necessarily the best route to take, but hearing things like that kind of take the pressure off a little and make it easier to go on with the mindset that if things are meant to be they will workout in the end, and if not they don't. And obviously this could just set me up for a bigger crash in the future, but for now I am willing to have the mindset that if it is meant to be it will work out one way or another because I really do think she is worth that risk at this point.

[Wondergirl]

When will she be ready emotionally and financially?

I will try my best not to talk about us and our current situation to avoid causing any unrest, but more just small talk like how her day went and what not.

Hmmmm, but then you said:

I asked her what she thought of the idea of getting a place together once I am done coaching baseball this spring

How is that "not talking about us"?

[dwidrick]

That is the million dollar question. Financially revolves around her getting a full time job, which she is trying to find currently. Emotions on the other hand your guess is as good as mine. Women's emotions have never been something I'm good at understanding.

Yes your right that was about us. I was implying that from this point if I keep communication open I am going to avoid those kind of things to my best ability. Sorry for the confusion.

[Wondergirl]

Yes ur right that was about us. I was implying that from this point if I keep communication open I am going to avoid those kind of things to my best ability. Sorry for the confusion.

And you'll be able to block thoughts of the future from coming into your head? You'll be able to think of her as just another female friend? You won't hang onto her every word and later search through conversations, hoping to find a glimmer of connection and her missing you and a white picket fence surrounding a cute little cottage?

[dwidrick]

I know it isn't the most logical reasoning but for some reason having normal communication with her from time makes it a little less stressful and in a sense easier for me to move forward in an optimistic fashion. I guess you could think of it as slowly weening myself off trying to get back with her.

Now this could change in a week and I may not be able to handle it. I'm kind of just rolling with what works right now.

Again I understand that this logic may not make sense, which will become evident to me pretty easily if it does not work.

[Wondergirl]

Weaning doesn't work well. I will watch your progress (or descent).

[vanheart]

I have an idea.

Try kicking back, like you could care less, one way or another.

Happy-go-lucky style.

Try that for a while.

[dwidrick]

I have been trying to kick back and act like I don't care for a week and it has been hard. Lucky for me coaching starts this week so it may become easier to kick back and stay busy.

And yes weaning probably will ultimately fail. Just trying to get to that level where I can stop myself from wanting to talk with her.

And honestly just discussing this stuff with you guys helps a lot. So thanks for the input and ideas.

[Wondergirl]

And honestly just discussing this stuff with you guys helps alot. So thanks for the input and ideas.

I'm glad we are able to help a lot. Please feel free to vent.

This blog helps me remember that "a lot" is two words --

Hyperbole and a Half: The Alot is Better Than You at Everything

[dwidrick]

Haha yea I always forget that one

[Wondergirl]

Haha yea I always forget that one

Be sure to read that blog page about an A lot. It's very cute.

You are an awesome writer. I want you to be perfect.

[dwidrick]

Thank you. I appreciate the compliment.

[dwidrick]

Perhaps I should take up writing as a hobby haha

[Wondergirl]

An advice book for guys who've been told that their girlfriends need a "break"?