[talaniman]

How about doing No Contact the right way, and leaving her, and her friends alone? What did you expect to happen when you were getting advice from her friend, if indeed that's what you were doing?

You asked for that my friend, sorry, Now walk away from this drama, and don't look back!!

[jerroldng]

Okay, I'm just going to leave her alone. I guess I'm in the wrong for talking to her friend, I'm leaving everything behind now. I guess writing her a letter telling her I'm sorry for asking her friend about my her is not going to work and will probably make her even more pissed with me yeah? Now it seemed like everything that happened was all my fault.. sigh

[answerme_tender]

Jerrold,

You are appearing desperate and unable to live your life without being hooked to her hip! It is time for you to not just say but actually apply the NO CONTACT rules. No one on this site tells you this to benefit any ex's but to benefit the person posting!!

No matter what you do, who you talk to, NOTHING is going to change her mind. She has moved on, and now its time for you to stop pestering her, her friends about her where abouts!!

We all understand what its like to go through a break up! We totally can relate to the pain, lonliness,and even the still wanting to live in hope that they will come back. But there comes a time that you have to face realilty and STOP making this person the center of your world. This is the time to learn to move on, make your life better, grow from this experience.

But, stop talking,hanging around, texting,being on computer with her or ANY of her friends!! If you are around common friends, DO NOT bring her up, if they start talking about her just walk away, they will eventually get the idea not to mention her around you.


Take care

[talaniman]

Okay, I'm just gonna leave her alone. I guess I'm in the wrong for talking to her friend, I'm leaving everything behind now. I guess writing her a letter telling her I'm sorry for asking her friend about my her is not gonna work and will prolly make her even more pissed with me yeah? Now it seemed like everything that happened was all my fault.. sigh

You own fault for talking with her friend nothing else, so don't get all emo and pitiful.

Write the apology letter, and burn it! You owe her nothing, so don't act guilty, its over, leave it alone, and let it go, and no more of this child behavior.

Yes I am harsh, because sitting on the pity pot, and acting like a petulant kid because of a female, is absolutely positively absurd!

When you see her and her friends, have your head up, smile and act like you own the freakin' world. Don't act like a sad sack with a broken heart, act as a man would, and take defeat as a temporary thing it is, and keep it real.

Sometimes we have to fake it, until you make it, but the goal is to finally make it. Suffering is up to you buddy, so get it in gear.