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marquezz · Oct 12, 2010, 12:45 PM

Would anyone who loved you call you a slut and hit you even if you did something terrible like lying? I just don't believe my boyfriend loves me because he likes to "punish" me for lying. Can't he do something else?

spitvenom · Oct 12, 2010, 12:57 PM

NO!! I have been lied to in the past by girls I never hit them I never called them names I simply just left.

Wondergirl · Oct 12, 2010, 01:00 PM

Why are you lying?

thawkins · Oct 12, 2010, 01:01 PM

You should leave him the minute he hits you! No man or women should hit someone they claim to care about or love! Obviously that relationship is not working! No matter how much you think you can't leave or you are so in love- You will always find better!!

JudyKayTee · Oct 12, 2010, 01:12 PM

This is the danger of dating someone 5 years older than you are when you are 20. You admitted he treats you like a child. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ml#post2564635

You act like a child by lying; he acts like "some" parents by hitting you. He's had 2 DUI's in a short period. Your question is "can't he do something else" [to punish you for lying]. What?

Not so hard to figure out. You both get something out of the dynamics of this relationship, although I fail to see what it is. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/crimin...ml#post2564550

You mention the "status" of dating an older "man." Maybe that's it. I see him as an abuser - of you and of alcohol.

Why do you care if he loves you? Why are you even with him?

redhed35 · Oct 12, 2010, 01:23 PM

The Cycle of Abuse | Domestic Violence Wheel | Emotionally Battered Women

Sometimes people get stuck in relationships that they don't want, and don't know how to get out of it.

They keep hoping that things will change but they don't,it just gets worse.

No,he does not love you.

If you click on the link above and scroll to the middle of the page you will see the cycle of abuse,does it sound familiar?

My advice is to get out of this relationship,talk to your family,friends and get the back up and support you need.

marquezz · Oct 12, 2010, 01:34 PM

Someone read everything I posted.. lol. Well as far as the status thing goes, that doesn't mean anything. I just mentioned it because when I was younger I dated someone a year older than me, and my friends were jealous.
I lied because I was being stupid, and I do own up to that. I've made terrible mistakes, but I've owned up to them.
Yea and all my friends hate him and think he's a loser. It does tell me something, I just am having a hard time letting go.
Thanks for all the answers, pretty much confirmed what I've been thinking--that I'm being stupid.

marquezz · Oct 12, 2010, 01:35 PM

Oh and something unrelated to this topic, but it does relate to our relationship and his duis--he blames me for his most current arrest, because I should have somehow gotten in the drivers seat before the officer got there.

redhed35 · Oct 12, 2010, 01:41 PM

The reasons you should walk away from this guy are mounting up.

You have to draw a line somewhere.

He makes his choices and decisions and you make yours,how far are you willing to go for someone who does not give a damn about you?

Make better choices for yourself,walk away from this guy and don't look back.

JudyKayTee · Oct 12, 2010, 02:06 PM

Originally Posted by marquezz

Someone read everything I posted.. lol. Well as far as the status thing goes, that doesn't mean anything. i just mentioned it because when i was younger I dated someone a year older than me, and my friends were jealous.
I lied because I was being stupid, and I do own up to that. I've made terrible mistakes, but I've owned up to them.
Yea and all my friends hate him and think he's a loser. It does tell me something, I just am having a hard time letting go.
Thanks for all the answers, pretty much confirmed what I've been thinking--that I'm being stupid.

You aren't being stupid. You're being foolish - there's a difference.

"Stupid" doesn't know she's stupid. "Foolish" does.

I think it's time for you to go - and I think you know that, too.

Sounds like he needs to blame someone for everything in his life that goes wrong and he's chosen you.

Run, run, run!

beachloverjohn · Oct 12, 2010, 02:21 PM

It's not what he can do that's different, it's what you SHOULD do that's different. Dump him, report him, make sure the SOB is punished. Nobody, I mean NOBODY has the right to strike another human being. And he doesn't love you and even know the meaning of the word. And you are not very smart if you put up with this abuse. Why do you put up with someone who phyisically AND mentally abuses you. When you allow someone to treat you like crap, it is the same thing as giving him permission. Stop it now. You deserve better.