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clo2010 · Jul 13, 2010, 10:24 AM

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is 20 and I'm 18, I have been working ever since I was 15, I like to earn my own money then borrowing and begging. My boyfriend has NEVER had a job, he plays xbox all day and stays in bed till late afternoon. I feel I should be treated like a princess, I never get things bought for me, he never takes me anywhere nice and our sex life has gone right down. I don't feel like I'm enjoying anymore. He doesn't let me do things on my own, he doesn't let me talk to lads or anything! I love him I really do but do I really deserve this?

Devorameira · Jul 13, 2010, 10:39 AM

Why in the world are you with him? He's a typical loser.

You derserve someone who loves you, who takes you out, who buys you nice things, and who doesn't try to control you.

Your relationship will remain intact as long as you let him tell you what to do and put up with it.

I'm sure someday you'd like to get married, buy a house, and have kids... just imagine how awful it would be with a man who refuses to work.

Put yourself first for once and move on. There's plenty of other fish in the sea who won't try to control you, who have jobs, time, and love for you.

You derserve the very best... and he's just not it!

clo2010 · Jul 13, 2010, 10:52 AM

Thank you for the advice, I don't know how to break it to him or anything though? Where do I start, I've told him so many time and he just doesn't see? Help please

I wish · Jul 13, 2010, 11:59 AM

A better question would be why are you still putting up with all this?

If you want to work things out, then you have to be honest about your feelings. If he can't respect you, then leave him behind. Relationships are not about suffering, they are about happiness.

If there's no progress, Then tell him the truth, tell him that you're better off going your separate ways.

BWK10 · Jul 13, 2010, 12:06 PM

Hate to be harsh here. "He doesn't buy me things"... sorry that's one of your major concerns.

positiveparent · Jul 13, 2010, 02:24 PM

Originally Posted by BWK10

Hate to be harsh here. "He doesn't buy me things"...sorry that's one of your major concerns.

No offence BWK10 boyfriends do usually buy their girlfriends gifts its not unusual.

OP I feel you need to end it with this person, you seem to have a very sensible head on your shoulders you're responsible in how you work and know that you need to do so to get by in life, your b/f however appears to be a sponger, and that's not good for you.

You're right you would think if he loved or really cared for you he would treat you well and give you gifts, its part of a normal relationship to be that way.

He has no right to tell you what you can do, he doesn't own you and with his lack of responsibility towards even getting himself a job then I think he's got some nerve being how he is towards you, Im hoping you don't subsidise his lack of earning his own wage?

Please do yourself a favour get out of this relationship with him its not balanced its not healthy and it is doing you no good whatsoever.

You're worth far more than this person could ever offer you, dump him.

Just tell him straight life with you will take me no where fast you can't be bothered to work at the relationship, so there is no relationship. Then walk out the door and keep walking and don't ever look back.

Once you walk out the door whatever you do don't fall for anything he may try to use to get you back, go NC, and stay that way, he's a loser you're not. And to be on the safe side tell your parents you have ended it and if he contacts you for them to tell him you're not at home...

talaniman · Jul 13, 2010, 03:21 PM

You deserve bad behavior for as long as you choose to tolerate it.

ISneezeFunny · Jul 13, 2010, 03:51 PM

I'm on the fence about this.

I know that a guy should treat his girlfriend like a "princess" and occasionally buy her gifts and such, but should a girlfriend expect such things?

I am currently a student who is 300k in debt, and if my girlfriend were to complain about how I don't buy her things... I wouldn't take that too lightly. Granted, I make an effort, and we go to nice places when we can... every once in a while.

I get what the OP is trying to say here, and perhaps she simply worded it a little differently... but yeah, I agree with everyone here. He's a typical loser. Get out. He's not going to change.