[neneza]

Am 27 weeks pregnant and I don't know who the father of my baby is. I always sleep with my boyfriend without a condom and on the 12th of December I slept with this other guy without a condom. I am so confussed please help

[ScottGem]

You may not know with certainty who the father is, but you know who the possibilities are. So you wait until the child is born and ask them both to take paternity tests.

[neneza]

Am sorry but your answer doesn't really help that much c
Because am scared to ask my boyfriend for petenity so help me

[J_9]

I'm sorry to tell you, but there is no way to know who the father is without a paternity test.

[ScottGem]

If you are too scared to ask for a paternity test, then you will never know for sure. We can't help you with your fears, we can only advise you what we think you should so.

[DoulaLC]

am 27 weeks pregnant and i don't know who the father of my baby is. i always sleep with my boyfriend without a condom n on the 12th of december i slept with this other guy without a condom. i am so confussed please help

It can depend on what the 27 weeks is counting from... the first day of your last period (gestational age) or when you likely conceived (fertilizational age). One way would put the odds in your favor, and make it most likely your boyfriend's, the other would make it anyone's guess. When did you actually hit the 27 week mark?

As the others have said, to know absolutely for sure, testing would need to be done after baby is born. You'll simply have to find a way to put your fears aside if you want to know for sure.

[JoeCanada76]

The best thing would have only to slept with your boyfriend and no one else. That is a choice you made and quite honestly this lie, will be brought out in the open one way or another.

It is better it comes out now then later on. This is because the longer it is kept a secret the harder of a blow it will be to your boyfriend.

You will need your two boyfriends to take paternity tests to be sure.

[Fr_Chuck]

And while I hate to ask, was there anyone else that you had sex with and used a condom, condoms are not 100 percent effecitive so if you had sex with others and used a condoms they are possible people also.

But there is no way to tell if you sleep with more than one person, in a close time. After the child is born you get a DNA test, if you can't ask your boyfriend, as the other man,

[neneza]

@doula dc on the 4th of June ill be then 27 weeks full... and to you all am wondering if you could help me know how to estimate or calculate my conception date because this incident only happened once... thanks a lot and I really appreciate it

[J_9]

@doula dc on the 4th of june ill be then 27 weeks full.....and to you all am wondering if you could help me know how to estimate or calculate my conception date because this incident only happened once...........thanks a lot and i really appreciate it

If you can give me the first day of your last period I could help you. But you need to remember that this is only an estimate and the actual conception date could be 2 weeks different either way.

[JoeCanada76]

@doula dc on the 4th of june ill be then 27 weeks full.....and to you all am wondering if you could help me know how to estimate or calculate my conception date because this incident only happened once...........thanks a lot and i really appreciate it

You do not get it do you? You could never be a 100 percent sure by that method. Your just trying to take the easy way out then actually telling your boyfriend the truth.

I feel bad for the baby and I feel bad for your boyfriend. This is not judgment just fact that you are not sure who the father is and somebody might be missing out on knowing who there real father is.

Plus if this comes out years later, just think of all those day shows that have a couple on and the person discovers that he could or could not be the father. Also years and years later or even at the beginning if there is complications or blood needed or bone marrow or anything else that your child needs. You will need to know exactly who the father is.

Also think about years later your child finding out the truth and resenting you for the choice of keeping it secret or finding out daddy is not really his daddy. Then the search for the real parent will begin.

[DoulaLC]

@doula dc on the 4th of june ill be then 27 weeks full.....and to you all am wondering if you could help me know how to estimate or calculate my conception date because this incident only happened once...........thanks a lot and i really appreciate it

If the 27 weeks is counting from the first day of your last period... the last week of November, it could be either one. If the 27 weeks is going from when conception most likely happened, it is most likely your boyfriend's.

Generally conception will occur about 12-16 days before the next period is due. If you know the length your cycles tend to be, if regular, you can get an idea. However, this is not necessarily the norm for everyone.

Again, unless you know for sure when you were ovulating, which is apparently not the case, or had medical assistance... which is also not the case, testing after baby is born is the only way to remove any doubt.

[neneza]

My first day of my last period was the 2nd of December 2009

[DoulaLC]

my first day of my last period was the 2nd of december 2009

It's going to go either way then. You'll have to have testing done after baby is born to know for sure. Sad reality when you make the type of choices that you did. You'll have to try and put your own fears to the side and do what is best for your child. I wish you well...

[MadisonKnudsen]

Even though you wore a condom with your boyfriend he can still possibly be the father cause condoms can break

[JoeCanada76]

even though you wore a condom with your boyfriend he can still possibly be the father cause condoms can break

Please re read the question. Your answer is inaccurate.

[neneza]

My first day of my last periods was the 2nd of December 2009

[MadisonKnudsen]

Oh okay sorry

[Alty]

my first day of my last periods was the 2nd of december 2009

We already saw that.

The answer is that they only way to know who the father is, is to have a paternity test done. The rest is just guessing, not 100% accurate.

You have to tell your boyfriend, because if the child isn't his, he shouldn't have to support it, or raise it, if he doesn't want to.

The father of this child has the right to know that he has a child. That person is also responsible for child support.

You made a very bad decision, now you seem to want to make another by keeping this a secret.

If you're old enough to spread your legs and create a child, then you're old enough to tell the truth and face the consequences of your actions.

Do the right thing this time. Tell the truth.

[J_9]

my first day of my last periods was the 2nd of december 2009

You most likely conceived on December 15 or 16. This is NOT foolproof, and is only an estimate, you will still have to have a DNA test done for positive paternal identity.